[ryoheiyoshida]

Today, while at the gym I got a couple of texts from my girlfriend . I guess I was tired because I read them quickly and I noticed the second text.
It started off with a capital so I thought it was a entirely new text. It said "Were here , so we can have lunch . I might call you later if I can . I'll let you know later".
She's away on vacation alone site seeing so immediately I jumped to conclusions , heart racing and on a adrenaline rush I called her angry asking what's going on .
I thought it was for someone else..

Turns out if I read the two texts together (ugh i'm such an idiot) it said "I wish you were here, so we can have lunch together."
We've been apart for about a month and a half and she comes home Monday (we live together) . Now she won't answer my calls , texts and says
she doesn't want to talk to me ... I made her cry too while she was having lunch by herself ...

I'm such a jerk... FML seriously..

How can I make up for this? I really didn't mean to be like that .. I guess I just miss her a lot..

*Edit: and thank you everyone for your advice ~

[juicejuice]

Did you try to apologize to her? Is she very far away on vacation? If not you can try going there and surprise her and set up a really nice lunch or dinner picnic together. But if she is far away, leave her some sweet messages...and when she comes back, you can set up something together...

[SayurixPark]

Did you try to apologize to her? Is she very far away on vacation? If not you can try going there and surprise her and set up a really nice lunch or dinner picnic together. But if she is far away, leave her some sweet messages...and when she comes back, you can set up something together...

that's a pretty good idea.
i'm sure that kind of suggestion will make her calm down and be happy again.

It was just a misunderstanding . . . that's all it was; have you tried telling her that and saying sorry???
i'm sure everything will die down and you'll be back to normal soon.
she porobably wasn't expecting that from you since you guys havn't been together for a month or so, soo . . juicejuice's suggestion is a good one to makes things work.

[Mannosuke]

Send her what you wrote here and give her some time. Unless you blatantly accused her of cheating on you and didn't listen to her story.

[hsin531]

Try to give her some time and space first. When I'm upset I tend to react the same way and I just need a little quiet time to sort out my feelings. When she's ready to listen, explain to her completely and honestly what happened in this situation. By the way you described it, it sounds like a misunderstanding and one that you are very sorry and take responsibility for. She might also be upset over the fact that you acted like you couldn't trust her so make sure you tell her that is not the case and that you do trust her no matter how far away she is. Once she realizes this and can see your remorse, she should come around and forgive you. Good luck, I hope it all works out.

[Daylightful]

D'aw... I agree! Apologize to her! Explain to her it was an accident and you jumped to conclusions and didn't read the two text messages. Do something special for her Monday if you still feel super guilty about it. She should understand it was an accident and will feel better! Just let her calm down for a bit, it was an accident and we all make mistakes!

[ryoheiyoshida]

Try to give her some time and space first. When I'm upset I tend to react the same way and I just need a little quiet time to sort out my feelings. When she's ready to listen, explain to her completely and honestly what happened in this situation. By the way you described it, it sounds like a misunderstanding and one that you are very sorry and take responsibility for. She might also be upset over the fact that you acted like you couldn't trust her so make sure you tell her that is not the case and that you do trust her no matter how far away she is. Once she realizes this and can see your remorse, she should come around and forgive you. Good luck, I hope it all works out.

Omg you pretty much described how she is right now .. Well the thing is , she called me back finally and I was talking to her but she didn't really talk to me at all...
I told her I was sorry and I just didn't read everything properly . It's not the issue of trust , it's just that we've been apart for so long that my emotions come off
strong I guess .. I told her it's just because I really missed her too and i'm not used to being away from her this long ..
Problem is though , I think she took at as I'm blaming her that she left , I'm not though . I supported her and pushed her to go cuz I knew she wanted to.
I just miss her which I think is ok right?

Well , after that she pretty said she didn't want to talk to me and hung up . I texted her though saying she can call me any time
and that I understand that she's mad at me .. and of course I said I loved her ..

It's so frustrating how a misunderstanding turns into all of this ..

[pandibeari]

hmm the advice that is being given is good, i think. definitely give her some time. the text you sent was good, saying she can call you at any time and that you love her. now leave her alone so she can miss you (this is so important).

and then don't fix this on the phone. wait for her to get back, and (since you live with her this should be easy) do the whole flowers, etc. you acknowledge that you messed up, and it's important you show her that you realize this. instead of explaining to her that it's a misunderstanding (she probably already realizes this) it would be wise to make her forget about the misunderstanding (that's all it was, after all). flowers, dinner, some kind of gift - all of the above. her feelings were hurt. you care about her. give it all you got!

good luck!

[chibifish622]

If you know where she's staying, try sending some flowers to show you're sorry.

[Ninshark]

I'm sure you can think of something, it takes more than 1 day to move out, seriously.
when I broke up with one of my best friends, I had wished we lived together so it would have been easy to get back together.

[Mannosuke]

It's so frustrating how a misunderstanding turns into all of this ..

Yes. Never do it again.
But a strong couple moves on and takes this as a minor obstacle.

[sus]

just explain to her y u had such a reaction
n blame ur self
make it up to her whe n she arrives home
show her how much u love her

n keep textin her msges even tho shes not replying
npt ones that say why wont u pik up etc etc
write love cute msgs to her

[Painterlyy]

Apologize to her.
Call yourself stupid and an idiot. It'll make up to her.
send her a bouquet of flowers with a sorry card.

[pwnzrz]

As a precaution, you should get a phone that has threaded messaging in an iPhone or a phone that runs Andriod the G1

[mintcracker]

aww it was a misunderstanding, don't worry, mail her some flowers or something homemade =) that iwll do the trick, and of course alot of self put downs haha.

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

Surprise her when she comes home! Flowers, dinner, you know!

[Tuffcore]

...thank you everyone for your advice ~

Be very patient with her during this time. Don't rush her for forgiveness, DON'T BEG for forgiveness, don't get desperate, and above all else, don't get angry if she doesn't accept your apology at first. You may have to apologize to her on more than one occasion.

When she's finally ready to listen, sit her down, look her in the eye and say, "sorry babe, i really F'd up... (pause for some drama)... (keep strong, sincere, and apologetic eye contact throughout the apology)... (put one hand on your chest and put your other hand over one or both of her hands, and then continue)... i promise you i won't ever do that again and I want to make it up to you."

Pause for another moment to see if you get a positive response. It doesn't have to be a definite 'yes' but as long as it seems positive. If so, take her hand, walk her to the dining room, and serve her something nice that you cooked yourself or maybe some nice dessert you bought from her favorite store would be great too. From here, keep the mood light and keep it fun. Something like, "please forgive me babe." Give her a light kiss somewhere on the face. Then, enjoy the dessert and don't mention this event ever again. Don't over apologize. Don't let her use it against you in the future.

If her response is clearly negative, then don't proceed to the dessert thing. Respect her decision to stay mad at you and try again a different day. Again, be patient. Don't lose your cool.

[miss adorablexd]

just explain to her y u had such a reaction
n blame ur self
make it up to her whe n she arrives home
show her how much u love her

n keep textin her msges even tho shes not replying
npt ones that say why wont u pik up etc etc
write love cute msgs to her

Ditto! do that. lol it would work. dont fret over it too much. its a simmple misunderstanding so its okay =)

[brownman90561495]

this is just a misunderstanding. this has been posted 2 days ago. maybe by now, as i am reading your post, you've already fixed this issue. if you haven't, you will.

and don't you do this again ever.

[jaeka]

Flowers and romantic meal when she gets back. (Y)

Win-win.