[Nihonjin_berryz]

I just turned 20 this week, and I feel like I need more room in my life literally. And it not the case, now that I am 20 I am grown, and I can run off and do and think what I want. But I have been thinking this for a couple months. I want to move out of my family's house. They gave the smallest room in the house, that already had everyone random junk in it, on top of the stuff they had move out my old room into this one, plus all the stuff from my dorm from my old school. It is very over whelming I can't move around because there is crap everywhere. I tried to reason with my parents and ask if my I can have my old room back and they say no. You can stay in that room or you can leave. I ask then, well can he put up shelves so I can have more space; they say they don't want any holes in the walls. I want to move out for space, but I don't want to move because: 1) I don't have a job. 2) If I did have a job I wouldn't want to leave just yet I would like to have at least $5,000 saved when I move out. And even if I do have the $5,000 I am graduating in 2 years with my first degree. After that I am moving to California or Up North for Architecture School. I don't see the point of buying lots of furniture and housing doodleboops and then up and leave 2 years later. It is expensive to live in either place let alone move an entire apartment from Tennessee to California or the latter. But Yeah no you see my stance on it, Now do you think I should stay or I should go?

[Tennyo]

Hmmm I would say since some of the stuff seems to be yours (old dorm things) maybe you should donate it or have a yard sale to make room for all of the things stored in your room. If you can't make shelves for it, get rid of it! That way you can make cash to save up if or when you want to move out or realize that you have so much room now you'll want to stay.

If your parents won't let you sell/donate things, you should try to get a job regardless since you want to save up $5000 right? I think you may have to just bear it. Having no money limits your options to about nothing. If you've read the living on your own thread, it costs quite a bit of $$$ to move out. Two years will go by quickly, and if you work you have less time to spend in your cramped little room. it might just seem unbearable now cause you're at home for the summer without classes but it'll get better once school comes back.

[Nihonjin_berryz]

Hmmm I would say since some of the stuff seems to be yours (old dorm things) maybe you should donate it or have a yard sale to make room for all of the things stored in your room. If you can't make shelves for it, get rid of it! That way you can make cash to save up if or when you want to move out or realize that you have so much room now you'll want to stay.

If your parents won't let you sell/donate things, you should try to get a job regardless since you want to save up $5000 right? I think you may have to just bear it. Having no money limits your options to about nothing. If you've read the living on your own thread, it costs quite a bit of $$$ to move out. Two years will go by quickly, and if you work you have less time to spend in your cramped little room. it might just seem unbearable now cause you're at home for the summer without classes but it'll get better once school comes back.

My mother doesn't allow us to throw away, give away, or sell anything. She will never see the stuff but as soon as my dad pull it out to throw it away. She'll say," NO, Don't touch that I have been looking for it." And they she'll never touch it again. And I am actually nervous when school starts because when I was in school at the dorm, I have minimal things. So I had room to move around. Now I don't so I don't have room to set up my art stuff. And my parents won't allow my stuff any where else in the house. I have a feeling I won't get any work done. My mother calls my cellphone, while I'm upstairs in my room just to rub her feet and bring her something to eat. When she is downstairs with her room closest to the kitchen. I have really bad feeling about this. I don't like arguing but I think it might start.

[lhkim85]

It depends on which is more important to you right now, the money or your mental health. You can buy cheap furniture on Craigslist or from the Salvation Army, and sell it when you move. Are any of your friends looking for roommates? That could help with rent and your roommates might have furniture.

On the other hand, if you think you can stand it for 2 years, try your best to spend as much time out of the house as possible. Good luck.

[Nihonjin_berryz]

I asked my grandparents if I could live with them and they said they don't mind. So It will work out hopefully.

[Hax]

How are you going to pay for this? I didn't see you mention any way of paying for it. Unless you can manage to score a good paying job, you will be working a lot just to pay rent. Not worth it to move. Suck it up save money. If you do happen to get a job, save it. Dont waste it on rent. Unless you are on the brink of suicide, save the money for a rainy day.

EDIT: Just read your last post. Cool, hopefully that goes well!

[lhkim85]

I asked my grandparents if I could live with them and they said they don't mind. So It will work out hopefully.

Glad to hear it, good luck!

[Nihonjin_berryz]

For the money, I get back about 7,000 dollars a semester form financial aid after they pay my tuition.

[Hax]

Save it then. It's really foolish to move out and waste that money. Unless you are miserable, and I mean miserable, then you should move. Otherwise, stay put and pocket that money. You have 2 years of college left which means that's 14k in your pocket. That's not bad for just going to school. That's a new car, rent for a year when you are on your own and can actually get a job, etc.

[ssulja]

For the money, I get back about 7,000 dollars a semester form financial aid after they pay my tuition.

I'm under the impression that you have to pay financial aid back...?

I personally wouldn't. For me, a small space can be dealt with. The fact that you don't have a job hurts. $5000 isn't a lot of money for living by yourself. Rent + Food + even cheap furnature adds up quick

[Hax]

^Some financial aid = completely free. Though, personally, I had about 10k free and 6k in loans. That's pretty amazing to get 7k back if it's 100% pure money bc thats AFTER tuition is paid.

[HaplessChild]

I just turned 20 this week, and I feel like I need more room in my life literally. And it not the case, now that I am 20 I am grown, and I can run off and do and think what I want. But I have been thinking this for a couple months. I want to move out of my family's house. They gave the smallest room in the house, that already had everyone random junk in it, on top of the stuff they had move out my old room into this one, plus all the stuff from my dorm from my old school. It is very over whelming I can't move around because there is crap everywhere. I tried to reason with my parents and ask if my I can have my old room back and they say no. You can stay in that room or you can leave. I ask then, well can he put up shelves so I can have more space; they say they don't want any holes in the walls. I want to move out for space, but I don't want to move because: 1) I don't have a job. 2) If I did have a job I wouldn't want to leave just yet I would like to have at least $5,000 saved when I move out. And even if I do have the $5,000 I am graduating in 2 years with my first degree. After that I am moving to California or Up North for Architecture School. I don't see the point of buying lots of furniture and housing doodleboops and then up and leave 2 years later. It is expensive to live in either place let alone move an entire apartment from Tennessee to California or the latter. But Yeah no you see my stance on it, Now do you think I should stay or I should go?

How are you going to move out without a job?

Why don't you just organize the mess in boxes and lable it so everyone can get to it easily. Take some inntiative. Take a weekend to catalog and pack everything in clear bins and tape the catalogs to the sides of the bins.

Buy a sofa bunk from IKEA.com. They save tons of room, you just can't have sex on them.

[truevibesgal2003]

I just turned 20 this week, and I feel like I need more room in my life literally. And it not the case, now that I am 20 I am grown, and I can run off and do and think what I want. But I have been thinking this for a couple months. I want to move out of my family's house. They gave the smallest room in the house, that already had everyone random junk in it, on top of the stuff they had move out my old room into this one, plus all the stuff from my dorm from my old school. It is very over whelming I can't move around because there is crap everywhere. I tried to reason with my parents and ask if my I can have my old room back and they say no. You can stay in that room or you can leave. I ask then, well can he put up shelves so I can have more space; they say they don't want any holes in the walls. I want to move out for space, but I don't want to move because: 1) I don't have a job. 2) If I did have a job I wouldn't want to leave just yet I would like to have at least $5,000 saved when I move out. And even if I do have the $5,000 I am graduating in 2 years with my first degree. After that I am moving to California or Up North for Architecture School. I don't see the point of buying lots of furniture and housing doodleboops and then up and leave 2 years later. It is expensive to live in either place let alone move an entire apartment from Tennessee to California or the latter. But Yeah no you see my stance on it, Now do you think I should stay or I should go?

wait till you have a stable full-time job, then think about moving out

[GaeasX]

Stay. I'm in a similar situation where I'm 20 and all I want to do is get the crap out of the house. But in this economy, you should stay with your parents for at least a year post-college. You don't want to dive into the troubles of rentals and realize you should've waited a little longer. Or even go back to your parents' house when you find you are unable to keep up with the bills. Cuz it's not just furniture you're gonna be paying for, you'll be paying for rent, gas, electric, water (, trash/recycling in some areas), and maintenance for when things break down. On top of other bills if your parents don't already pay for it. And since you're still a student, working and studying at the same time will definitely bring down your GPA while also horribly burning you out. (I know this cuz I had a job, an internship, and was an RA one year all at the same time, which is the hours you would be pulling in an attempt to keep up with bills).

[KurokiriRyuu]

Live with your grandparents, would get more work done that say on campus or some flat with fiesty young ones

[aznkc]

if you have a good paying job and got the money then move out otherwise you should stay or like with other relatives. Im 20 also and tried moving out but it didn't workout and i would go back home cause its just hard being independent and not working full time. Money is like everything but if you can get roommates and split the rent then your expense is lowered. but you still gota think about your other expenses and groceries and bills and all that. you can try moving out though and if it doesn't work out then just go back home.

[pandibeari]

hmm. it actually sounds like the reasons for moving out is less about space, and more about the situation at home. if the stuff is yours, why can't you just throw out the things anyway? regardless of what your mom says. she can't stay mad about it forever, and even if she does, you wouldn't have to give her foot massages when she's angry.

anyway, hope the living with the grandparents work out. if you have 7000 extra a semester, even though most people are saying no, i would definitely find some roommates and get out. mental health is very important, and in the long run i think it would be worth it. having money saved up after you graduate would be nice, but even in this economy, it isn't that hard to get a paying job (even if it isn't your ideal career job).

but that's just me. i'm very independent and i hate being told what to do, so i couldn't live in a situation like that.

good luck!