My boyfriend broke up with me less than 2 weeks ago and I haven't talked to him for a week. His birthday is coming up, I was wondering if I should even acknowledge his birthday. He broke up with me and at this point, I am not exactly looking to get back together with him. But we did say that we'd be friends. So should I call him to wish him a happy birthday or get him a gift?
We've been together for a little more than 1 1/2 years and I don't think it's right that I completely ignore him, especially on his birthday. But on the other hand, I am mad/hurt that he broke up with me because of the influence of his friends. Advice?
Should I Still Call/give Gift To Ex-bf For His Birthday? We broke up less than 2 weeks ago.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 03:51 PM
It depends. If I broke up with someone, and they gave me a gift. I'd think they want to get back to together. Call him for his bday, and leave it at that.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 04:05 PM
No, its just a sign of desperation, or hinting him that you want him back.
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You may be creating some excuses to see him...
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 04:07 PM
Honey, don't do it if you don't want him back. It'll only stroke his ego and make you look desperate infront of his friends, you did mention it was their influence that cause the break up. However, if you do want him back, go nuts.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 04:10 PM
Don't do it! he'll think you still wanna be with him. Let him be the first to contact you. If he's hurt you that much, just forget it and move on (it'll take some time tho)
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 04:22 PM
Yeah you should. Cuz my ex did that to me.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 04:58 PM
i say dont do it =/ as others have already mentioned, it might make you seem like you want him to be with him again ><
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 05:03 PM
the most you should do is wish him a happy birthday. nothing more than that.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 05:13 PM
QUOTE (chibifish622 @ Jul 27 2009, 05:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
the most you should do is wish him a happy birthday. nothing more than that.
i agree. nothing more than a happy birthday.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 05:16 PM
Up to you, the first step towards progress is to move forward after all.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 05:18 PM
you shouldnt^^ i agree that if u give him gift it seems like you give a sign of hinting him you want him back
its better if u just leave him a sms.
its better if u just leave him a sms.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 05:55 PM
i would just text happy birthday.
i would not give him a gift. he'll think i want him back.
i would not give him a gift. he'll think i want him back.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 05:57 PM
if its his bday and you guys are close friends you should
but if you guys are just friends for the sake of calling him a friend then dont
but if you guys are just friends for the sake of calling him a friend then dont
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 07:06 PM
i wouldnt even call. i would just text 'happy birthday' and wish him well is all. but NO more and no less.
dont do it dont do it dont do it.
ive been in that situation before. dont do it.
dont do it dont do it dont do it.
ive been in that situation before. dont do it.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 10:27 PM
If you don't want to have direct contact with him, just leave his gift and/or a birthday card in his mailbox. Then split.
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Posted 27 July 2009 - 11:02 PM
just text him to show that you still see him as friend. If you call, it might be more awkward? I don't think you should get him a gift either. He might interpret it as something more.
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Posted 28 July 2009 - 12:29 AM
If you really meant to be friends and JUST friends then a nice simple text would be fine. However if you still have feelings of getting back together, than you probably shouldn't do anything.
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Posted 28 July 2009 - 02:13 AM
I would ring and say something casual like, "Hey, heard it's your birthday, happy birthday!" and leave it at that. If you wanna be friends, no good in pretending the other doesn't exist. Just play it casual.
