[i13elieve]

ok so heres the story.
there is one girl in my grade that was 1 of our class whores/sluts. she knew my boyfriend before i knew him.
he didnt really like her before and said she was irritating.
so one reason i dont like her is that i was on good terms with her until she started saying i was a guy.(but in all honesty my voice is a little bit low compared to most girls. its because my mom is the same way. i got it from her) so yah this was back in middle school. i was like whatever cuz her voice was screetchy as hell.
another reason is because when i went with my boyfriend to a party at thier friends house she was looking for a seat and there was none. so my boyfriend said "go find a seat and sit down your blocking everyones way" then she starts to approach my boyfriend and attempts to sit on him with her butt all popped out and she had her hands running down her legs like she was doing a sexy dance or soemthing. i was sitting next to him. i was about to slap her i really was i had my hand up and eveyrhting but my boyfriend grabbed my hand and told her to get the hell away and not to sit on him. her response "you told me to sit down so i did"
also another time was that we were eating yakiniku and i didnt know she was coming so when we sat down my boyfriend said i shouldnt sit next to her becuase i was gonna beat her up so he sat in between us. and when we were eating she kept putting her head on his shoulders and he kept shrugging her off. i was really gonna reach across and slap her in the head.
then during all this SHE HAD A BOYFREIND! and she was never bringing him around. but she just sat on everyones lap and acted stupid for attention. then my sister who is good freinds with her boyfriend told me he told her that this girl broke up with him because she was going to college. which is dumb cuz shes going to the same school as one of her manwhore friends.
the day after she broke up with her boyfriend she was talking to the manwhore and i heard "oh so when you sit on me dont sit too long. i might wanna do soemthing to you" she said 'ok i dont wanna people to think anything of me" WTFCK!

because of her when i hangout with my boyfriends friends she cant be around or me and my boyfreind wont come to hangout.
and his friends complain that he doesnt come out alot. but the reason is becuase they dont wanna tell her not to come.

i honestly hate her. idk how anyone can live like this. i told my boyfriend and his friends that if she gets in my way im gonna tell her off.
but since they are friends with her they dont want me to say anything cuz i might ruin thier friendship with her but honestly my boyfriend said he could care less.

im just wondering....
Is it wrong of me to hate her?
Has this happend to anyone before?
What should i do?
If you were in my position how would you feel?
Also what would you do?


i just really dont like her. and it sickens me that she does these types of things. UGH!

[Daylightful]

Is it wrong of me to hate her?
Hate is a pretty strong word-- strongly dislike, sure! But to the point, no it is not wrong to dislike anyone. There will be people in your life who you will not like.
Has this happend to anyone before?
I've always seen these type of girls, it irks me, but I always really never do anything about it or for it. Since I've never seen one flirt with my "boyfriend" I don't have one, so I guess I can't say I've been in this situation. But I have seen girls doing it to other girls boyfriends and I don't think it's right. They should know it bothers both the boyfriend and the girlfriend. And plus, if they continue to be that way they may seriously get hurt and that's not good.
What should i do?
Hm.. well, does she listen to reasoning? Maybe you should talk to her-- although, normally those type don't exactly listen, but it's worth a shot. If not, then I don't blame you avoiding them. Why not talk to your boyfriend's friends about her, and ask them is it okay if there are times when they can all hang out without her? Tell them that she flirts with him! And you or him don't feel comfortable around that at all! I'm sure they have to understand!
If you were in my position how would you feel?
I would feel pretty bad! And being a scorpio, I would most likely be jealous. Sadly, I can't hit or talk mean about a person worth my life, but I would talk to my boyfriend about it. I would be really upset, though. And I would ask her nicely to leave us be. If not then-- bleh on her! Him and I will just leave when she comes around or something.
Also what would you do?
Kind of answered above. I would talk to my boyfriend's friends, talk to her and ask her nicely to stop, and do my best to adjust to the situation as well. If she won't listen and they won't listen, then we'll have to come to an understanding. I wouldn't leave him alone near her at all. And if she's around I would want us to leave, but hopefully maybe she would listen to reason, or my boyfriend's friends would only invite her occasionally and not so much. Good luck!

[HaplessChild]

To me it just sounds like she's a flirt. Doesn't seem like she means anything by it. I understand you being upset about her trying to flirt with your bf but other than that she's just minding her own business.

BTW... you may want to look up the definition of a word before you start flinging it around. Just because she's a flirt and has no problem with sexually charged jokes doesn't make her a rainbow/ slut.

[brownman90561495]

clearly you and your boyfriend are really feeling distasteful of her. try not to let her get to your nerves. she is just doing her own d*mn stuff and i feel it's just a part of her character. it's not that she's invading one's space.

hate her if you want, but just let her be. don't let her affect you too much.

[stupid.ity]

This is my approach...

Is it wrong of me to hate her?
Nope, not at all. But if you say you hate her, i'm pretty sure you would've slapped her already.
But I'm assuming you don't hate her. You just strongly dislike her.

Has this happend to anyone before?
Not to me, but my one of my friend is a big flirt...

What should I do?
I'd tell her straight up, if she's not going to stop messing with my man I'd beat her.

If you were in my position how would you feel?
Angry, I wouldn't even bother with thinking twice before slapping her.

Also what would you do?
I would warn her first. Tell her I'm a time ticking bomb, lol.
&& If I still see a problem, I'll sure do something about it.

[nailbunny]

I definitely don�t think you are wrong in the way you feel. This girl sounds mad gross.

You should tell her clearly to leave you guys alone. I�m not really into physical violence (probably because I feel like anyone could beat me up�I should take karate or something).
If she doesn�t stop, you should try to get your bf to get a restraining order for sexual harassment or something that would be sick.

[Mattsanity]

please post a pic of her, cause there would be no justifiable merit for me to strike judgment on your friend.

[xxdis0riental]

Whatever you feel towards this girl is whatever your body reacts. A reaction is never bad unless if you act upon it (and it inflicts hurt on others). In this case, this girl is WAY too persistent and doesn't see that your boyfriend is uninterested. Beating her up isn't really going to solve anything and you don't know if she's going to press charges or what. It's not necessary.

Don't be quiet and eye her with daggers; just tell her straight out that it's disrespectful and be the better person. If she's going to be a little sdkjfsdf then there is nothing else to really be done except yell at her to stop throwing her frisbee around your boyfriend. Remember, it's all up to you. The people on this forum can't do it for you.

Why does she keep coming around, anyway? Is she stalking your boyfriend or do you guys just happen to hang out with the same group of people?

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

That's scummy :/ I actually know a girl just like that, and she thinks it's funny to do stuff like that, so I don't think it's a personal thing. If you can't deal with her, just stop hanging with her, or make plans in secret or something. o__o
This one girl started flirting with my guy and at first I got super pissed and pinkberryed her out for it, but then we started joking around with each other and she stopped messing with him afterwards.
It's a weird situation.

[PRINCE KYARII]

wow she sounds like a huge slut.. i agree that hate is a strong word, i don't think you hate her. just strongly dislike her. it's okay to not like her.. i wouldn't like her either.. flirts and all, they're ew LOLOL
and its a good thing that your boyfriend isnt like the other guys she flirts with!
hes telling her to go away so yeah, next time she does it, dont sit there and watch
its gonna make you more angry.. stay away from her.. if she keeps doing it youll get angrier and angrier tell you DO slap her xD

[i13elieve]

Why does she keep coming around, anyway? Is she stalking your boyfriend or do you guys just happen to hang out with the same group of people?

she hangs out with my boyfreinds friends. actually to be exact my boyfriends best friend and thier friends.

funny thing is the guy who always brings her aorund is having a party at his house this thurs.
but most likley me and my boyfriend arent gonna go.
shes gonna be there and flirt with all the guys and go sleep with them after.

she does sleep with many guys. so i know she is a slut.

[blastoise]

she hangs out with my boyfreinds friends. actually to be exact my boyfriends best friend and thier friends.

funny thing is the guy who always brings her aorund is having a party at his house this thurs.
but most likley me and my boyfriend arent gonna go.
shes gonna be there and flirt with all the guys and go sleep with them after.

she does sleep with many guys. so i know she is a slut.

Well, your bf isn't reciprocating and being very loyal to you. In any case, as annoying as it may be, you can also consider it flattery when she hits on your bf. You know she is just making a fool of herself! Don't think too much of it. If she does anything offensive to you personally, or your bf behind your back, call her out and talk to her about it. If she continues with general sluttiness, just ignore it and countdown the days until she gets an STD.

[AS1AND0LL]

You're not wrong, she seems to take flirting to the next level, but she's not trying to kiss your bf and whatnot.. she might be like that towards other guys too but as long as your boyfriend knows how to keep away then it's all good. She only wants what she can't have.

[kansaieito]

If you wanna do the classy thing, ignore her...maybe give her pitying looks.

If you wanna be a pinkberry, go "tsk tsk...well you're just a nasty little pinkberry aren't you?" at every chance you get (every time she looks at/touches/talks to a guy in the skanky way she does).

If you wanna get your anger out, kick her ass.

If you wanna be cruel, get her wasted and take pics of her nasty behavior and send them to her parents.



You pick.

[Swtess]

No you're not wrong for hating her since her actions are too flirty towards your boyfriend.
Its your decision for not wanting to hang out with her but is making the friend circle a little tense. Have you ever confronted her? Or just tell her to flirt with someone else within the group?
Really if its someone I don't like, I just avoid being close to her when hanging out with friends.

[WENJJANG]

If i ever have someone like that in front of me, I would've slap her.
Anyways, there always going to be people like that, thriving for attention even if it's BAD attention.
You just got to brush her off and she's just a fool trying to do all those things.
You got one loyal boyfriend, I must say. I would just avoid even being near her
and just tell your boyfriend exactly how you feel and try to make him hang out with his friends like "No GIRLS" night or something.
Just so for sure she won't come, I really don't know.

[Regina Rae]

Is it wrong of me to hate her?

Of course not. If you feel you are wronged by someone, then you have the right to hate/dislike them.

Has this happend to anyone before?

Yes, but not to that degree. I did have a bf once, and this girl kept flirting with him.
But I told her as soon as she started that I didn't like it. I completely took control of the situation before it got any bigger.
I didn't let it linger on, like you have.

What should i do?

You should definitely tell her how you feel. Hmm, better yet, have your boyfriend tell her that he's not interested, and he never will be. That will probably stop her from ever flirting with him again. Trust me, you don't want to fight her, because she probably still won't get the message. Words hurt more than anything, so definitely have your boyfriend tell her face to face that he will never like her. It wouldn't hurt for him to throw in something like "It grosses me out when you flirt, because I'm not attracted to you in the least bit" Seriously. After hearing that, she won't flirt with him again.

If you were in my position how would you feel?

Well, I would definitely be irritated.

Also what would you do?

I would have my bf tell her to her face that he's not interested.

[Painterlyy]

Is it wrong of me to hate her?
I personally understand. You have every right to dislike her.

Has this happend to anyone before?
Nope not me. But if that did ever happen to me. I'd feel the same way that you do.

What should i do?
Don't even waste your breath on her. You're way too good. Don't give in to her. Don't blow up on her. It's what she wants.

If you were in my position how would you feel?
I'd feel the exact same way. So don't worry. You're not alone here

Also what would you do?
Like the advice I gave you, I wouldn't give in to her. She's not worth the time and effort.

[des monstres]

dang, i would've popped that girl already. :|

[angelaness]

oh em gee!
seriously. if i were you hahaha, i would use my tkd skills to goood use.
hate her all you want. you are NOT wrong at all,so dont feel guilty.
if someone did that to my bf, i will beat the shfhdoish out of her lol.
but violence is neevr the wwaay.
just stay away from her i would say, but try not to hide yourself because you ruin your life that way, hiding away because of one stupid girl lol.
good luckk

please post a pic of her, cause there would be no justifiable merit for me to strike judgment on your friend.

why do you need a picture? then youre still judging her either way lol