[angelaness]

Apparently my bf's mom has some kind of problem with clothing.
Before, my boyfriend went to a catholic school and always had to buy nice dress clothing.
He bought, new black slacks that that had thin grey stripes.
His mom went CRAZY. She was saying things like, "why are you dressing like a kkangpae?!?!?!? why are you tryin to look so bad?!!" (Kkangpae is korean for a ganster)
then she continued with her craziness and ripped up the brand new expensive slacks with a pair of scissors. >:(
like a month later, he bought his first skinny jeans. BUT he doesnt let him wear it because its "kool-aidgy".

then recently, i bought him pretty-pricey jeans from ae as a gift, its a ripped slim jeans and stuff on it.
i thought it would suit him pretty nice.
So he wore it to try it out at home. and she started again!
she went crazy saying"whta kind of style is that? why are you tryin to make yourself look bad? you better return it to her, when i recieve a bad gift i give it right back to ther person."
now she dislikes me because i give "bad gifts"
she also tried to get my number to call me to complain about this.
omg this lady, i really doont know what her problem is.

but everything is fine for now with these jeans cause his dad said he could only wear it when he hangs out not when he goes to school.
im mad but im glad she didnt try to ripp them up!

Personality i dont think she knows what is trendy.
Bf explains that because shes old she doesnt know.
My mom is old too and she knows what tredny with guys and girls clothings.

Are anyones parents similar to this?
Is there anytype of solution to this problem for future references?

im sorry because its so long, i appreciate if anyone is willing to help

[hewoniex]

daang thats going a little too far.. ripping expensive slacks?
nah, my moms pretty cool about what i wear. just as long as its not too revealing but even then
i still get to wear shortshorts/ tanks or whatever. she's in her 50s LOL!

my grandma on the other hand................
but its kay. she's old =)!

[MISSxSHAMPOO]

wow, usually mothers have strict clothing policy with their daughters not sons.
never would want her as a mother in law o_o

[menotloveyoulongtime]

LOL what a pinkberry...
so oldschool

[juicejuice]

that's insane... why doesn't your boyfriend talk back to him about it...I mean he is no a kid anymore, he clearly can dress himself with style. Maybe his mom doesn't want to ruin her image because her son dress a certain way... she is just bias and too controlling. I hope he isn't her only son....if he is...OMG ...this will go on... and I thought most parents would be more concern about what their daughters are wearing.

If your boyfriend and his mom truly want to compromise...they have to go shopping together...and find something they both like...but at this age... its a little bit >_> odd....

He needs to set her straight about this...

[Ninshark]

hah hah..ok, she is crazy. You can't do anything about it.

you can't change adults. They think they know everything.
It's Chinese "common knowledge that adults are omniscient and children(anyone with an age gap enough to be one's daughter/son regardless of age) are disposable robot bodies with perpetually defective software. No adult is going to take a "child" seriously since children don't know anything.
maybe you're not Chinese or even oriental, but adults always think they're superior.

[Romancer.]

... so what does she let him wear?!

I'm sorry I have no idea what you can do to solve this. She is crazy and way too controlling.

[PhuongNguyen]

There's nothing YOU can do about it. The only one who can solve this problem would be your boyfriend, and well, is he even bothered by it? You can't really do anything about it if your boyfriend is fine with how his mom is. If he isn't, well then, either wait till he move out of that house, or when he finally stop being such a sissy and talk to his mom about it.

[rago08]

Wow, I've never had to deal with any crazy moms really. I've had past boyfriend's whose moms were jealous at our relationship...actually right now my current bf's mom is jealous of us...even though I've never met her I don't think she likes me... lol.

Korean moms are pretty crazy sometimes...I know mine can be sometimes but she's not that bad haha...she's very good at knowing what's in style now since she works at a clothing store

Anyways with my current boyfriend, I think that his mom is jealous because he's her only son and I'm only half korean & American...I'm pretty sure she wants him to be with a Korean girl...

And she's jealous at the attention he gives me (even though right now it's long distance because he's in Korea and I'm in the USA)... which is stupid to me haha...mom's shouldn't be jealous of gf's imo

But it's okay because luckily I don't have to meet her for at least another year because she's in Korea lol

Anyways back to your situation...I agree with the others...this isn't really a situation where you can do much in. Your boyfriend is the one who would have to confront his mom...which knowing Korean moms will be a very strenuous task...

hope it all works out!

[xAzumi]

You have to remember our parents works so hard in petty farms and markets to provide food on the table and bring us to school, even all the way to America!

His mother point of view is reasonable to certain extent where she states that, "wasting money on useless things are ridiculous, and should be spend on something more valuable like saving up for retirement, a diamond ring to marry the pretty lady, or even a house!

She is not crazy, she just care a little bit to much x 8934850394859058 to the infinity

[flyxme.]

you mean "boyfriend's crazy mom"
i dont think youre bf is crazy lol


...has she been living under a rock?

[CHELSSEA]

oh, trust me i've had this exact problem -- are you sure i didn't date your boyfriend before you? LOL
my ex's mom was always sooo ... crazy with stuff like that she would say the exact same things.
for his birthday i got him this really cool sweater from like lucky brand jeans, it was kind of pricey and i got him a framed picture i drew...
she called me cheap and told him that the sweater was such "bad style" and to return it to me right away.
in the end all you can do is rant, unless he does something himself, but yeah like the others said - good luck !

[mintywinter]

I don't think there's anything you can do about this until your boyfriend graduates and lives on his own.
In the meantime... maybe you can ask your boyfriend what kind of clothing pisses her off, and avoid wearing that type in front of her/buying it for him. Yes, she's clearly the one who's too uptight here, but because nothing will change her mind right now, the next priority is to maintain harmony. Causing a fight isn't going to convince her. I think choice of clothing is a small sacrifice for peace and quiet.

[MaryMagdalin]

lol she sounds like a nutcase.
well, what can you do? nothing. just go with it.

[Frozy]

hah hah..ok, she is crazy. You can't do anything about it.

you can't change adults. They think they know everything.
It's Chinese "common knowledge that adults are omniscient and children(anyone with an age gap enough to be one's daughter/son regardless of age) are disposable robot bodies with perpetually defective software. No adult is going to take a "child" seriously since children don't know anything.
maybe you're not Chinese or even oriental, but adults always think they're superior.

This sums up the entire context of Asian parenting. I love you.

[InvestigatorCHER]

LMFAO!!!! omg that sounds so similar to my mother!!! except she wouldnt rip the clothing O_o my mother would just lecture how you'll look like a gangster if u wear it and bla bla bla.
but now years have pass and she has learn to except what my brothers and i wear, as long its our money and the clothes isnt a waste. >.o

hahaha. u'll get use to it. just be careful what you wear i guess O_o? you should really give his mom a break, she is old. my mother is old too. just try to imagine you in his shoes

[`Koko]

that's intense D:
she's going wayy too far..
she should've at least let your boyfriend RETURN
the expensive slacks, instead of ripping them up with scissors. :/

i'm so happy my mom's not like that.
she lets me wear whatever i want,
just as long as it's not too revealing
and she even BUYS ripped-like jeans for my brothers
because it's 'in style' hahah, love her,
she always knows what's trendy and in style.

[angelaness]

There's nothing YOU can do about it. The only one who can solve this problem would be your boyfriend, and well, is he even bothered by it? You can't really do anything about it if your boyfriend is fine with how his mom is. If he isn't, well then, either wait till he move out of that house, or when he finally stop being such a sissy and talk to his mom about it.

yea, they fight about it alll the time. They arent talking to each otehr right now because shes mad that he yelled at her lol

oh, trust me i've had this exact problem -- are you sure i didn't date your boyfriend before you? LOL
my ex's mom was always sooo ... crazy with stuff like that she would say the exact same things.
for his birthday i got him this really cool sweater from like lucky brand jeans, it was kind of pricey and i got him a framed picture i drew...
she called me cheap and told him that the sweater was such "bad style" and to return it to me right away.
in the end all you can do is rant, unless he does something himself, but yeah like the others said - good luck !

lmaoo wow, very similar. but i dont think so.. cause he said that im his first girlfriend <33 yay lol

you mean "boyfriend's crazy mom"
i dont think youre bf is crazy lol


...has she been living under a rock?

ohh thanks, for some reason it sound strange lol

and apparently so :/

[saranghaese7en]

ouchh she sounds scary... my parents have stopped trying to get me to dress properly lol.
boy i'm afraid to meet my bf's mom... gulp

[Painterlyy]

Whoa... psycho mom.
I have to give you props. If that were me, I wouldn't be able to stand the lady.
Stay calm. Be the bigger person.
Don't let it show that it bothers you. That's what she wants. So she can have one more thing to get upset about.
Don't let her win! Rooting for ya!