[kpoppri]

i have this friend that i've known for a few years and i'm pretty sure he's liked me for a while and still does. i never really had feelings for him but recently we went on a trip together and there was a point where i thought he was really hot and wanted to hook up wit him....but i didn't becuz i have a bf.

so do you guys think it's ok to keep hanging out with this friend alone knowing that he likes me a lot? i luv my bf and would never do anything to hurt him. i def would not break up wit my bf to be wit this friend becuz i don't see myself being in a relationship with him...it was just sort of a physical attraction. i trust myself not to cheat on my bf and i just want to stay good friends with this friend.

so hanging out alone = ok or not?

[AS1AND0LL]

It's okay as long as you know that you are not crossing the line, do not lead him on if you hang out with him but then that might be hard for him to not realize if you are or not since he seems to like you alot. You should definitely talk to him about if you know how he feels for you, just to keep everything mutual between the both of you.

[sallyparadise]

I think it is okay. Having a boyfriend does not mean you cannot have feelings for other people or see other people for that matter. Now whether your boyfriend will be okay with it is another case. But personally I would not want anyone to control what I do and who I want to see.

[xjimin]

yes definitely yes.
i think that even if your bf trusts you as much as you trust yourself
and nothing may happen... it hurts.
if you switched situations wouldnt you kind of be like.. "wth?"
ending your friendship isnt smart but hanging out alone & doing stuff
alone when both of you did have feelings at some point... not smart.
to respect your bf, staying away is smart instead of regretting later
from the consequences. i know this from experience... -.-;; regret major.,

[Cin De]

YEA! if u know he likes u why are u giving him more chances when u have a bf already? sometimes when the time comes u can't control it u know.
but if it was just a normal friend then that might be fine

[_ATELIER]

it's not wrong, but in your situation, i don't think you should.
there was always still an attraction between you two.
talk it out, tell him you guys are strictly just friends, then maybe?

[donporkuloin]

You hanging out with him is not going to go well. Leave it alone.

[thaoyunho]

I think it's not okay since your friend is having feelings for you and you will give him false signals if you keep hanging out with him. eventough he knows you have a BF but he might think there is some hope since you spent time with him.

[Mannosuke]

As long as you can control yourself and your bf control himself.

[Painterlyy]

I think it's fine. But at the same time, I can understand if your boyfriend gets a little upset.

[The Pink Panda]

I say it's ok as long as you can control yourself, we're only human and sometimes it's fun to string people along a little

[starber]

It's fine, but i'm thinking that your boyfriend may get a little jealous, knowing that the guys likes you.

[heineken.]

I think it's ok, but make sure that the guy who likes you knows what's up. You might be leading him on unintentionally if you keep hanging out with him one on one. And sometimes, even though you firmly insist that you want to remain friends.. guys can get easily confused with words and actions that may speak the opposite.

So watch what you say and do, you should be fine =P

[Daylightful]

It's not wrong, persay but personally I don't think you should. Just because you should take into consideration your boyfriend. Do you think he would be too happy knowing you are hanging out with a guy for years, who you found was "hot"? I think to avoid trouble overall, you shouldn't hang out with him-- at least alone. Maybe a group would be better, but ee.. It sounds like it could cause some problems. Good luck, though~!

[nowayin]

I'm kinda in the same situation with you right now.
I still hang out with the guy, but I do tell my boyfriend where I am and stuff. And I make sure we don't cross the line..
Besides I don't think I am able to handle the guilt..

[skycheerio<3]

I think It's okay...
if You can control yourself...
so you won't end up doing something stupid that you regret later.

[[HyuNi]]

Wow, I was surprised at how most of the responses were "it's Ok"
I thought most of the responses would be the opposite.

I wouldn't put myself in a compromising situation.
You may say you can control yourself, but you really won't know until you get into a very tempting situation.
Plus, you may be able to control yourself, but what's keeping him from staying cool?
Almost sounds like you are kinda hoping for something to happen.

Don't do something (or not do something) that you'll end up regretting later, whether that means cheating on your bf and messing up the relationship or staying faithful to your bf and always thinking what if? with the other guy.

[HaplessChild]

i have this friend that i've known for a few years and i'm pretty sure he's liked me for a while and still does. i never really had feelings for him but recently we went on a trip together and there was a point where i thought he was really hot and wanted to hook up wit him....but i didn't becuz i have a bf.

so do you guys think it's ok to keep hanging out with this friend alone knowing that he likes me a lot? i luv my bf and would never do anything to hurt him. i def would not break up wit my bf to be wit this friend becuz i don't see myself being in a relationship with him...it was just sort of a physical attraction. i trust myself not to cheat on my bf and i just want to stay good friends with this friend.

so hanging out alone = ok or not?

I really feel like it's not ok but I do it anyway too. But I know this guy would never try anything and the bf knows the whole story and trusts so it's not a big deal.

[rawr! :3]

i dont think its right since you did say that you wanted to hook up with him
if you do want to hangout with your friend, bring some friends along, that way,
it would stop you from doing things lol :3

[hsin531]

I think it's ok, but make sure that the guy who likes you knows what's up. You might be leading him on unintentionally if you keep hanging out with him one on one. And sometimes, even though you firmly insist that you want to remain friends.. guys can get easily confused with words and actions that may speak the opposite.

So watch what you say and do, you should be fine =P

I agree with this. Sometimes, actions speak louder than words so make sure you let him know that you like him as a friend, nothing more and be consistent with that. Don't send him any mixed signals and it should be okay.