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so I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone one day , and then he said that his pastor found out about us .
his pastor doesnt let him date at this age , 16 . and originally his mom knew about us , but now shes switching ideas and saying he should stop dating until hes older .
his pastor said they'll talk about it sooner or later . so right now we might have to break up .
people would say "if he really loved you , he wouldnt listen to his mom or pastor ."
but the thing is , hes EXTREMELY religious .
this whole thing kinda bummed me cause we really like each other . and I dont want that to end .
I never liked a guy more than I liked him . so it kinda sucks .

but during our relationship , a lot of things have gotten in our way .
for example , my friend liked him and I never knew until after I said yes to him when he asked me out .
and she constantly flirted with him . like sometimes she would pick fights with him , and once she slapped him on the butt o_o
I didnt say anything cause we were friends at the time (we arent anymore , I stopped talking to her wheen I heard she talked crap behind my back) , and I didnt want a guy to interfere with our friendship .

also , wheen we first broke up , it was cause of religion .
he thought that I didnt believe in god , so he broke up with me .
but theen I told my friend I did , and my friend told him .
and then he asked me out again and I said yees .

the second time we broke up , was cause of stupid rumors .
someone told him that I was gonna break up with him , so he made sure that he broke up with me before I did it .
but i was never gonna break up with him in the first place , and theen three days later we got back together .

plus , my dad is suspecting that we're going out
so my dad doesnt like my boyfriend .
cause hes not asian&I guess he doesnt want me dating at the age I am at right now .

and a lot of girls flirted with him , and it kinda bothered me .
he would kind of ignore it but they continued .
but after a while it stopped .

and then three guys liked me and asked me to dance with them at the dance .
but that time I was going out with him .
so then a lot of drama occurred at the dance .

theres a lot more but I could write an essay . =/

we've been going out for about 7 months . and I really dont wanna break up , cause I really like him .
plus I dont want 7 months to go to waste .

what do I do ?

[BakaPrincess]

Wow, you guys have a lot of insecurities within your relationship.

Let me point something out.

also , wheen we first broke up , it was cause of religion .
he thought that I didnt believe in god , so he broke up with me .
but theen I told my friend I did , and my friend told him .
and then he asked me out again and I said yees .

I think that's already telling you something. If religion plays such a significant role in his life, then that also means that his pastor probably does too. And what does that mean? Your bf will probably break up with you.

I guess I don't really have any solutions to help you but to just wait and see what's going to happen next. At this point, you don't want to let go, but your bf have a pretty good chance of going to. The decision right now is pretty much your bf's. Talk it out with him and maybe you guys can work something out.

I wish you good luck though.
And if it doesn't work out in the end, there's always more fishes in the sea.

[Christinaisweird]

WOW, girl a lot of obstacles that has happened.

we've been going out for about 7 months . and I really dont wanna break up , cause I really like him .
plus I dont want 7 months to go to waste .

If you thought 7 months would go to waste then imagine being together for a longer time would you think it would go to waste?
Dear, if you really liked him then time should not matter.


But really I know he's religious and all, but why does his pastor have a say in your guys' relationship knowing you guys are dating?

[freshing]

Well at 16, it might be a little hard for him to put your relationship at the top of his priorities, especially if he's really religious. It sounds like he's really insecure though, with the sercret rumour breaking up thing. Even if you don't break up, it might take a lot of effort to avoid drama coming at you. Good luck (:

[bape_sta]

I'm going to be as honest as I can...


...Dating an extremely religious person when you are not, does not end up well. There is just TOO many clashes in values, priorities and things that matter. Even if it's just the slightest change, it will become the biggest issue.

Get out of this while you are 16, it can and does get uglier when you are older.

[kansaieito]

I'm going to be as honest as I can...


...Dating an extremely religious person when you are not, does not end up well. There is just TOO many clashes in values, priorities and things that matter. Even if it's just the slightest change, it will become the biggest issue.

Get out of this while you are 16, it can and does get uglier when you are older.

The hottie speaks the truth bb. Listen to him.


Besides, I mean you two can't seem to stay together too long anyway with minimal interference. How the hell do you figure you will when the more important people to each of you is dead set against the relationship? And sorry to say, the kid may dig you but his religion comes first...always will. If his pastor says drop you, he will drop you and won't look back. This is why I don't do church boys *shudder*.

[junkers]

Well, girl, I dont think you get the picture.

You have a traditional asian parents and he is a regligious white boy. How is this going to work out? Chances are slim.

I think it is time to let him go.

[flyingpenguins]

the second time we broke up , was cause of stupid rumors .
someone told him that I was gonna break up with him , so he made sure that he broke up with me before I did it .
but i was never gonna break up with him in the first place , and theen three days later we got back together

why would you take him back? i mean sure, you like him. but do you really want to be with someone who wanted to "beat you to it"? just so he can leave you (and save face) before you leave him? shouldn't you look for a guy who blows off those rumors? someone who DOESN'T try to break up with you JUST because he heard things from other people? you know, someone who believes in your relationship, and actually WANTS to be together?

the whole religion thing just doesn't work out.

but really. does he like you as much as he says he does? because i understand why he felt like he wanted to break up with you (because he's extremely religious), but the second breakup is totally uncalled for. and frankly, it's a stupid reason why you broke up, because it shows exactly how fragile your relationship is.

wow. sorry i'm so blunt >_<''

[PhuongNguyen]

Your boyfriend sounds like a bloody idiot. "someone told him that I was gonna break up with him , so he made sure that he broke up with me before I did it". Who the heck does that? Well, that obviously shows how much he cares about you. Breaking up with you before even getting it straight, just because he want to beat ya to the punch and save face? He sound like a damn wimp.

Anyways, in my opinion, if some dude is religious enough to not go out with me just because his pastor told him not to, well then f that, he's not worth it. You guys went out for 7 months, and he's going to throw it away just because some guy tell him that it's best for him not to date at his age? Goodness, since when do a pastor interfere with a person's life to that extent? Well, what can ya do? He rather listen to some dude than to be with you. You're trying to be with someone who don't give a damn enough to fight for ya? 1 comment from a person is enough to drive your relationship to an end? There's religious people... and then there are just idiots... sadly, the clear isn't very distinctive.

[uhohhitzkc]

the guys a kool-aid. ditch him >.>

[juicejuice]

Your boyfriend sounds like a bloody idiot. "someone told him that I was gonna break up with him , so he made sure that he broke up with me before I did it". Who the heck does that? Well, that obviously shows how much he cares about you. Breaking up with you before even getting it straight, just because he want to beat ya to the punch and save face? He sound like a damn wimp.

I have to agree with this ...just because other people were saying stuff about you and easily believes them...and doesn't believe you or even ask you and just breaks it off... he doesn't have a mind of his own and very easily persuade by others..... saving face... he does sound like a wimp.

He doesn't even seem mature about it either...I don't know if you really want to be with a guy like that...just because of the littlest thing and it falls apart. There isn't any trust...I personally don't think that he is that great of a guy. But if you feel that THE ONE for you... I wish you good luck, and try to communicate with each other.

If you guys didn't work out, there are plenty of fish in the sea... you are still so young... there are better guys out there, you just have to find the right one that is right for you.

we've been going out for about 7 months . and I really dont wanna break up , cause I really like him .
plus I dont want 7 months to go to waste .

(Christinaisweird Posted Today, 03:01 AM) If you thought 7 months would go to waste then imagine being together for a longer time would you think it would go to waste?
Dear, if you really liked him then time should not matter.

I agree...time definitely shouldn't matter...if you truly like him...
You can't say that...it shouldn't be a waste, its an experience. You should learn something from this experience and when you encounter your next one you will know what to expect. The time you spent together (7 months) is not a waste, you were happy during that time right? If so, it shouldn't be a waste at all.

[angelaness]

also , wheen we first broke up , it was cause of religion .
he thought that I didnt believe in god , so he broke up with me .
but theen I told my friend I did , and my friend told him .
and then he asked me out again and I said yees .

the second time we broke up , was cause of stupid rumors .
someone told him that I was gonna break up with him , so he made sure that he broke up with me before I did it .
but i was never gonna break up with him in the first place , and theen three days later we got back together .

Its kinda lame how he broke up with you cause you dont believe in god.
my boyfriend is catholic and i dont really believe in god, he doesnt mind, he still loves me for who i am.

in my honest opinion,i think you shoudl break up with him. its not like your going to stay with him forver.
plus because of your religion issue here, it going to cause MORE problems between you two.

and he broke up with you because he wanted to do it first? wow. see, he is not boyfriend material.
what kind of guy does that?!?!?! that makes me really mad. if he likes you and when he hears tht rumor, he should try to convince you to NOT not break up with him but he break ups with you first because of his pride? seriously, he is not worth yoru time.

there are plenty of guys hidden, who will except you and yoru religion, you just hve to find them. dont be afraid to let go.

[visuelz]

Why do you waste your time with guys like this? Cmon....religious guy? You know he'll never marry you unless you're his religion. If you were never born in a religious family, then any relationship regarding religion will NEVER work out. Look at the war right now, it's basically Christianity vs. Muslims. They will never understand each other because their beliefs are different.

[hello kitty]

he sounds like an immature douche.
broke up with you because you didn't believe in god?
sounds like he's going to break up with you a lot more times in the future due to your disagreements with his.

walk away.

[Cookiemunsta]

Holy, I totally know how you're feeling, I went through this. Although I dated this guy for 6 months, and I'm 20 now, but we broke it off because of different religious views. So I sort of know how your boyfriend may be feeling, but like other people have said, being in this kind of relationship will probably not really work out for you. You're always going to have different perspectives and views.

Honestly, you're only 16, and it'll hurt now but it's better to break now than to stay and maybe regret it later. I'm sure this guy's great, but if you're already having problems like these, can it really get better in the end? Maybe it will, and maybe you guys will end up being a great couple and being married in the future, but I'd say don't tie yourself down to him right now. Whatever you decide though, I hope it's for the best!

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

wow i keep hearing scary things about religion (christian/catholics, i know it doesnt apply to all ) but what the hell is a pastor doing in your personal affair? i would understand if your mom tells you you are not allowed to date but why would the pastor's opinion count in this???

[Painterlyy]

You know how people say that opposites attract?
I think that's true to a certain extent.
But then, I think when something as big as religion comes into it, it's not as easy.
Personally, I think that you guys may be better with other people.
I mean, he broke up with you just because he thought you didn't believe in god.

[wookay]

How come when I was 16, I did not have any weird thought of to do or not to do thoughts. You guys are 16...make up ur effking mind