[KogePan]

So Ive been going out I thought was cute for about a year.
We started from texting, and then hanging out and now were going out :]
And Im happy! Hes so sweet and considerate and I trust him with all my heart.
But DEAR LORD he has the worst memory!
Yesterday, I told him to listen to a song and the next day when we were talking on the phone he says "whoa i like this song, hmm i have no idea where i got it from but its super good!" and then i asked him which song it was and it was that song...
And if I mention someone and tell him that he/she is annoying and he says something like "i know!!" and we talk about them for a while. But like a week later if the same person comes up he asks me if i know him/her. Im like didnt we talk about this already...?

Is this something that would get in the way of a relationship? Because its really bugging me...
Im afraid hes gunna forget things that are more important.
Advice please? Thank youu.

Edit:
Hahaha alright, you guys are amazing. And super funny :] Thanks, its really great to know Im not alone and its normal! Well kinda... haha. Ill try not to trip about it anymore :] Thanks again. Im guna go call him now <3

[dreamyxxx]

eek this sounds like me
i can't help it, my memory's just that bad
i guess you just have to suck it up

[Daylightful]

Ee.. yeah. I'm like that with friends, and I'm a girl. I have TERRIBLE memory when it comes to little things like that. But I would never forget the MOST important things to me! So don't worry! I don't think he'll forget things that are super important. But do I forget things like songs, names, etc. It's nothing personal, it's just I'm bad at remembering.. But good luck!! Why not have little sticky notes around him to help him? or a journal if it really bothers you that much.. but I think it's just something that happens..!

[flyingpenguins]

talk about it, ugh.
one moment he goes, "i loveeeeeeeeeeeeeee this song!"
and i go, "aren't you glad that i showed you it."
"what. you didn't tell me about it."
LOL, pisses me off.
you have to learn to deal with it and remind him. ;;

[3letters]

My boyfriend does that all the time, and I get so angry. When my boyfriend does this to me, it seems like he isn't smart enough to remember. Or he doesn't listen to me fully. so I get angry.

[Unanimous]

Some guys aren`t attentive to certain things.
Us girls care about the whole circle while guys focuses on just a path that matters to them.

Idk, talk to him? Tell him how important it is for you, that he remembers this and that.

[icepeachii]

The things that u listed as examples are really trivial. To be frank with u, I'm kinda like ur bf? Sometimes we talk about many many things, but there's really so much that a person can remember..thTs why we naturally filter out the small matters and remember the more significNt ones.

I understand it can get annoying, but as long as he hasn't forgotten ur birthday, memories tat u hold dear to ur heart which u share with him, or anything considered to be impt; IMO forgiv him! I'm sure he doesnt mean it! At the end Of the day, What matters is whether u feel happy in this relationship. Nobody is perfect! Like u said, he's sweet, caring, etc.. Just a tad forgetful >_<

Dun feel vexed out over this! Good luck

[PhuongNguyen]

I mean, it's nothing to lose sleep over, but yeah, I get why you're annoyed by it. I guess it kind of just makes you feel like the he's isn't really paying attention to the conversation that you guys were having? My boyfriend is like that at time. I remember when we were at Blockbuster, and they had this plan where you pay 30$ and you can rent at much movies/games as you want, 2 each time. And while we were standing there, I was telling him about it and he's going "Oh, that's so cool. We can try it out next time". So then the next time we went there, he saw the sign and went "Oh hey! 30$ a month for all the games and movies you want! How awesome is that!" as if it's the first time he ever heard of such a thing. I got pretty pissy, and started asking him what he's on because we talked about it for almost 30 minutes just a week ago. It's damn annoying because he does do things like that quite often. I guess they only process the information when they're talking about it, once the conversation is over, they just flush it out of their brains. Lol, I mean, I suppose as long as he don't forget the important things, it's not too bad? My boyfriend know how much it annoys me so now he's trying really hard to remember things so that I won't have to repeat myself. We actually have this thing going on where I quiz him about the little things that I said, just to see if he can remember it. It's pretty funny.

[MrMister]

Your bf is probably distracted by something he is very concerned about. He'll try to memorize harder if you talk to him about it.

[sethsegel]

The thing I got out of your post was that he seems to be forgetting small things, which in the long run are completely irrelevant to your relationship, I don't really think his bad memory will get in the way of remembering important things pertinent to your relationship.

[Lie]

Are you sure that he has a bad memory and it's not that he's tuning out half the things you say? Even though I feel guilty afterwards, I tend to do that when I'm talking to my mom on the phone lol. It's just that she talks for SOOOO long, eventually my attention gives out.

[kansaieito]

Well since you know what the deal is just live with it.

Get the kid to eat more fish...maybe pop some Omega-3 vitamins. They work for memory.

[stupid.ity]

LOL, think about it this way...
HE might forget the LITTLE things...
BUT he might REMEMBER the big things...
&&& boys are like that....
they tend to forget easily...

[heineken.]

Hm I definitely remember some times where I forgot what my SO and I talked about.. but I would just laugh about it and he would call me dumb lol.
I remember one bf I had kept mixing up the things he and I did with what he did with his past gfs. THAT would make me mad. =P

[forgottenmemories]

That sounds kinda like me. But I'm not as bad as your boyfriend. I have a habit of forgetting what we did the day before and what we've talked about. I have to think about it for a little bit to remember. And he always tells me that I have the worst memory ever. But I don't think it bothers him that bad, if you like the guy enough ... it shouldn't bother you that much. Maybe he's just a busy person and so he forgets little things.

[Malice_Kaiser]

All I can say is please don't jump to conclusions. I'm the exact same way as your boyfriend, though I'm a girl and I do it with my boyfriend. So I know what it's like to be totally forgetful and not remember little things like that, and to not be able to help it; it's not like I don't listen.

I see why you'd be annoyed, but as for me, if my boyfriend got annoyed with me and thought it was going to be something that would get in the way of our relationship, I'd be really upset because it's something I just can't help.

[pandibeari]

haha, sounds like me! i have such a bad memory...

but yes. as people are saying, i'd talk to him! especially if it's bothering you. as long as you approach it in a nice way, it should lead to a good conversation besides, it'd be good to make sure that it's actually his bad memory and not him tuning out (as Lie suggested)

[Goo Goo Hara]

his problem will only get worse in the future. what if he forgets you were his girlfriend and dated other women?

you should ditch your boyfriend and find another man who has better memory.

[bidywoo]

its a tactic used by some guys.

some guys do this to communicate with girls. guys use a "blank shallow memory chat" mode. Simply put, when they are talking to girls, they practise having a totally blank mind and chatter about anything and everything. it is a perfect way to talk to many girls because for girls that is actually their natural mind mode. relatively speaking that is.

its a good tactic because it expends largely zero energy and the girl is largely totally convinced te guy is considerate and a good listener. of course, when the guy slips back into his nomral serious guy mode, everything from the blank shallow mode vanishes.
most guys only have one brain.

[Kanzen]

Hm I definitely remember some times where I forgot what my SO and I talked about.. but I would just laugh about it and he would call me dumb lol.
I remember one bf I had kept mixing up the things he and I did with what he did with his past gfs. THAT would make me mad. =P

Ouch.


And OP, don't fret. He's forgetful, but it's not something to stress out over. I'm sure he'll remember all of the really important things... and if you start correcting him on the little things, he'll start to feel silly and he'll try to pay attention more.