[mechant-lapin]

Hello fellow soompiers!








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I just met this really gay dude with the b!tch attitude!
I never thought they really existed, it was astonishing O_O

Anyways, it seems that he will be my co-worker until the end of summer and I really don't know how to communicate with him.
It's disturbing how he would be very very gestual when he talks and always talks crap about everyone. He's very open about his sexual life and would ramble and ramble about it for hours.
Whenever I try to speak to him, he would just ignore me and critique me from head to toes -___-

He's also very critical of my clothes and he wears this really huge orange sleeveless furry jacket even if it's summertime -____-
His idol is someone named Bryan Boy


We're working as cashiers in an paint shop and it's relatively calm so he has all the time in the world to count me his sexual fantasies #___#
I have many gay friends but they are not this extreme O_O


I am really clueless about how I should deal with this situation, ahah

Anyways, anyone had met someone like that before? I am curious to know how you guys came to befriend someone like that lol



Advices from soompi sages are more than welcomed!


[ It's really funny that my little brother's girly-looking friend (with a normal boyish attitude) is now at Toronto and then come this manly looking dude with a girl's attitude. ]

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lol, I never said that I thought gay people were non-existent! I thought that those really extravagant gays were only myths fueled by ignorance and hyperboles. I have nothing againsts homoseuxality. In fact, I have many gay friends and thought of myself as an homosexual female a few years ago. But in this case, the person is really out of control. I tried to tell him that I wasn't interested by his stories yet he would shut me up and continue. I laughed at one of his insane sexual stunts so he thinks that I am just shy to admit that I am addicted to his stories.

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ermm, thank you soompiers for your help. You guys are misunderstanding. Please, open your mind yourselves and read correctly(!!!!) I am not homophobe
I'm sorry if people got offended by this, but this is the truth, most of you are just sh!tting things. Anyways, his conversations have toned down and he's the boss' nephew. We are friends now and he invited me to one of his parties (he promised that it wouldn't involve sexual things)

I think Harbl is right and he's not really like that.

For those who are just sh!tting on this thread, I hope you meet get to meet someone like that so you can share your concerns.

[deathbydark]

Just tell him you are not interested in hearing about his sex life and it makes you uncomfortable. Bryan boy is a fashion blogger from the Philippines who is openly gay. Anyway, I really do not see what him being gay has to do with this.

[Frozy]

Lol. I don't think the issue is that he's gay, but he seems to be quite annoying. I'd slap him some if I were you, but I'm sure you like non-violence considering you posted this on Soompi ;P.

Just say what you want to say. If you aren't interested in hearing about all his crap, which you shouldn't be in the first place, just tell him to keep it to himself. He sounds like a total condescending Richard. Lol pun intended.

[Taylor Min]

Remember hes only people..besides the obvious...just stand your ground...especially when youre dealing with people like him.
...But perhaps you could start off saying "I would appreciate your well being more if you..." blah blah blah. The blahs indicating what is you would like to say.
And even though its tough..especially handling situations like these in the right way..remember..stand your ground.

[SiMPLY PiNk*]

what does his sexual orientation have to do with this? do you also go around saying "i met an annoying heterosexual today"?

[adiavoy]

Tell him you're not interested about the stories and tell him he should keep his personal life to himself. If he's not listening, then tell your boss that you can't deal with him.

[moot11]

You never thought that gay people existed? Where exactly are you from...

God, I can't even tell if you're trolling or not. But what the heck does his sexual orientation have to do with the situation?

Posts like this really make me sad. Fail.

[` J e s s]

Uh. You didn't know gay people exist? 10% (ish) of people are gay. Randomly count 10 of your friends. Statistically speaking, one of them is gay. They just might be hiding it.

[Taylor Min]

Dang yall are flaming this guy. I understand it was a bit out of context...but some of you are misunderstanding what was typed.

[Daylightful]

Dang yall are flaming this guy. I understand it was a bit out of context...but some of you are misunderstanding what was typed.

I agree. It was slightly out of context, but you guys are taking it a bit too much.
I suggest maybe talking to him? Tell him it kind of bothers you and if he could tone it down a bit. If not, then sometimes you may have to suck it up. A lot of people don't like the people they work with, but in order to get the job down you just have to deal with it. I don't know if talking to your boss would make any difference but you could always bring it up to him/her as well. If not then you'll probably have to deal with him.. I mean, I guess if he dreams about you and that bothers you then uh.. maybe if you asked him nicely not to flaunt around about it so much? But good luck!

[Malice_Kaiser]

People are getting offended because you keep asking how to deal with an obnoxious gay guy, when really you should just be asking how to deal with an obnoxious guy like that in general. His being gay has nothing to do with that, because there are plenty of straight and bi people who do the same thing and divulge their sex lives to anyone who'll listen. It'd be like if you came in complaining about this annoying black guy, and kept mentioning he was black even though it has nothing to do with anything. People are gonna get upset. That and you titled the thread "gay relationship" which I can't make sense of why.


Anyway, just tell him to shut it and that no one wants to hear about his sex life. Really. :/

[cavil.]

This thread is the win. I love it. I wish to throw an ocean of awesomeness unto it.

[Harbl]

Come up with the most over the top, debauched, homosexual, eroticicly charged adventure imaginable and blow his john teshing mind.

Most homosexuals who feel the need to advertise their sexuality all over the place and especially in an overt manner, generally do it out of a feeling of insecurity. If they're over the top and flamboyant about it they feel that perhaps they will be more readily accepted by others. Most of the time though it comes off as annoying. He may be feeling deep insecurities, it could all be an elaborate cover for how he really feels, on the other hand he may not be, I can't exactly say, my previous assertions are just what I've come to encounter during my lifetime as a homosexual male.

He may even be making things up, not in terms of his actual sexuality, but some of the stories he tells and so forth. Perhaps he can't act like that at home? due to dissaproving or even unknowing parents. Why not try to talk to him sensitively about it and not just listen to stories about what he's had stuck where.

Or, just tell him to stop with the gay chat and try to be a little nicer.

[moot11]

People are getting offended because you keep asking how to deal with an obnoxious gay guy, when really you should just be asking how to deal with an obnoxious guy like that in general. His being gay has nothing to do with that, because there are plenty of straight and bi people who do the same thing and divulge their sex lives to anyone who'll listen. It'd be like if you came in complaining about this annoying black guy, and kept mentioning he was black even though it has nothing to do with anything. People are gonna get upset. That and you titled the thread "gay relationship" which I can't make sense of why.


Anyway, just tell him to shut it and that no one wants to hear about his sex life. Really. :/

Well said, and exactly my feelings.

+1

[sourpoplime]

Disgust him with your straight sexual fantasies. Talk about your vag. He'll go nuts and hopefully quit. He sounds extremely stubborn so he shouldn't last long. haha

[cannotfindserver]

just tell him you're not interested to hear about his sex life.

[ling_ling]

If it was me I would just ask him to stop because it made me uncomfortable or I didnt like it
I ask my friends who talk about it alot if they can stop because it makes me feel uncomfortable and they respect that
If he cant respect it (not saying its because you feel uncomfortable) then why dont you start talking about your seual fantasies instead and see if he likes it?
lol abit immature but he sounds immature!

[moot11]

Disgust him with your straight sexual fantasies. Talk about your vag. He'll go nuts and hopefully quit. He sounds extremely stubborn so he shouldn't last long. haha

Double sexual harassment lawsuit incoming!

[blurr]

maybe your co-worker is bruno.

[kissez*]

Quit your job if you can't put up with him.
That's what I do when I meet loud, stereotypical heteros.
And then I key up their cars as a farewell gift.

I kid, I kid.

What does this topic have to do with gay relationships? lol