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One of my friends is extremely quiet and shy and its like torture trying to talk to her. She'll only nod or say one word answers when i try to talk to her and comment about different things. The thing is she's really niceee person so i don't pressure her to talk. But I wish she would open up and talk more to me......but the thing is she's really shy person so its really hard. O.O

Well, in general, I don't mind these type of people...but the thing that bothers me is i do all the talking and i've known them for like 2 years so far.


Anyways, would you still be friends with an extremely quiet and shy person? Or would you not tolerate it?

[isaranghae]

Hmm....
I have a shy friend but it doesn't really bother me...
I usually try to get her to talk more

[AS1AND0LL]

Honestly after a few years I would expect that person to be a bit more open towards me and not be too quiet, I never really met anyone like that but I did know some people like that in high school though. I think sometimes they just have a harder time expressing how they feel? That, or they are just really chilled =/

I'd personally try to talk to this person who is really quiet, but it's probably hard since you can't really get much out of them but just be patient with them because everyone has a voice.

[.:dark.moon:.]

o_o i have shy friends...im fine with them being quiet tho
i just talk to them more and try to make them talk back , lol

[WonderBinnie]

I have shy and quiet friends. Even though they are quiet after awhile they start to open up to me. I honestly like shy and quiet people because I can open up to them too and help them not to be shy anymore so I think it`s okay even though it may take awhile.

[jellyace]

I have quiet friends too, and they're some of the most interesting people I know. Of course it takes a little effort to get to know them. Just ask them personal questions b/c sometimes people don't say things about themselves until people actually ask. Or if they have trust issues, gain their trust first by maybe confiding some of your secrets to them so they would feel like they could do the same. I wouldn't just turn away from them. I mean, quiet, shy people need friends too.

[.:precious:.]

I dont think that I would be close friends with this person, maybe more of an accaintance because I find it annoying when people are way too quiet that they cant voice what they want for themselves.

[twix0rz]

I am the shy friend amongst my friends. (not as shy as your friend though...) It took me awhile to open up to them. Just keep trying...2 yrs is pretty long though. Does she have sisters or brothers? Is she that shy with siblings? When my friends saw me with my sister they were like whoa...i didn't know you were so crazy. haha.

[twenty4k]

Although she may just nod or respond with a few words, it doesn't mean she isn't listening to you. Next time if you need to vent your problems out, it's good to know that theres someone you can go to who will genuinely listen instead of bombard you with questions. Just enjoy her presence You shouldn't feel like you are being pressured to talk to her as well because she probably isn't expecting you to, she may just like your company.

[TICKLE ME Jx2]

I would be more like an annoyance for me if I try to engage in a conversation with someone and all they do is shrug or nod as a reply. I knew a girl who was a lot like your friend back in high school and she pretty much irritated me with all the shrugging that she did. I don't think I'd be able to become anything more than acquaintances with a super quiet/shy person. It just wouldn't work. :T

[bbyxwinnie]

i dont mind it since im pretty quiet myself ;s

[Juli~<3]

i'm a quiet person and it takes me ages to get comfortable with someone and let them in "my world" so to speak. but i'm a person that prefers to listen than to talk.

maybe your friend is like that too?

[ilovemangos]

after two years i'd expect that person to come out of her shell, but if she hasn't i'd think she has no interest in keeping our friendship. especially if i'm the one that goes to talk to her first and she doesn't show the same effort back.

[dudeilovefood]

i would try...?
but we wouldnt be best buds, just a friend.

[Mannosuke]

I will not tolerate someone that can't speak for themselves.

[MNLV27]

I would be friends with a shy person or at least I'd try to. At first it's understandable that they won't talk as much but if they're constantly like that after a while, I'd probably get a bit weary about it because they can't even be more comfortable around me enough to talk more. I think they would just be acquaintances than friends after a while. I want to be able to hold a good conversation with a friend without doing all the talk.

[joie.de.vivre]

@Mannosuke:
Being quiet and not talkative doesn't mean she can't speak and stand up for herself o-o

on topic: I don't have a problem with being friends with a very shy and quiet person. In a way, we already have some sort of rapport because I'm an introverted person as well. And, when those kinds of person do open up, they are among the most interesting people I know ^-^.

[bambam.]

Definitely. (:
You just have to be patient and let them open up to you.
Most of my closest relationships started out that way.

[Painterlyy]

Sure.
In my experience, people that are shy are actually great people once you take the time to get to know them.
Just because they are shy and quiet, that doesn't mean they are always like that, doesn't mean they are boring or don't talk. Once you get past that barrier, they are just like every other wacky person out there

[Javus]

Definitely, actually whenever I make friends with a shy person, after getting to know each other, they really open up and become loud lol.