[Green Tea -3]

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Just pulled an all nighter so bear with me, gracias.
I recently went out with this girl I met from facebook through mutual acquaintances thingy majig.
Wouldn't really call this a date but on the other hand it was a one on one affair so take that for what its worth.
We had a super groovy time all around as I let her beat me playing badminton.
After we went for Japanese ramen.
I ordered 2 bowls cause I'm more or less a ramen junkie.
We had a pretty chill conversation about school, friends, family, hobbies and life in general. After we were finished, the bill came.
I have a strict policy whereby I will always pay whenever I'm on a date or a friendly excursion with a girl, no exceptions!
Plus, its the gentlemanly thing to do. Being frugal is one thing but I cannot endure cheap mofo's in general.

Chaos ensues..

She was adamant on covering my bill as well as hers.
You should have seen the shocked look of disbelief, it was a surreal moment. After being dazed and confused for a brief minute or so I allowed her to pay for us.
However, I explained to her that at the very least we could have paid for our own bills separately.
Now, I am somewhat hesitant about her expectations and she could very well have alterior motives.

What can I take away from this experience? I can't recall an instance when a girl has offered to cover my meals. Its usually the other way around.

[KanyeWEST]

calm the john tesh down. she offered to pay, so what?

oh and some strict policy. you gave up after a minute.

[lido0LmisSundersto0D]

^
i'm going to have to agree with you.
mate, you sure gave up fast --"

[Malice_Kaiser]

calm the john tesh down. she offered to pay, so what?

oh and some strict policy. you gave up after a minute.

... Yeah. There's really not much else to say. :/

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

well to be fair........a whole minute in real life is pretty long to fight over a bill.

but i agree with you, kinda weird where the girl just offered to pay for the whole thing on a first hang out.

about the ulterior motives........only you would know

[Fropit]

^But it's Green Tea -3...

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

o___o LOL.
gnarley radical..

she doesn't have ulterior motives. she just wanted to spot you, that's all. chiiiiiiiillll.

[manjaroo]

I don't think it's really that big a deal. I'm a girl and I always offer to pay for the guy, I just see it as polite and it's not always fair for the guy to pay right?

[mizgen17]

lol chillax >.<.....she offered so why not? i guess guys often feel bad when girls pay but who cares....i often pay when me n my mates (male n female) go out (when there's only a few of them haha)...they pay me back though but sometimes i don't accept it =b...

i guess she was just being nice??

[It4cH1]

Just get the next bill. lol

I'm the same type as you. but unless it was just "ahh nooo let me pay" and the girl wanted you to pay. then let her pay if it makes her happy, and just take the next bill.

[Mannosuke]

Man up and accept the payment like a real man.
Real men don't turn down a woman's offers.

When a man offers, you don't see the woman decline.
Hence, it is your OBLIGATION to accept her offer as well.

[KalexiS]

Haha why was it surreal for the girl to pay?
Perhaps she's the type of girl out to break the perception of ancient chivalry?
Ulterior motives? If anything i'd say she's out to prove that she's not just the "using" type of girl and she's independent.
I can understand how this situation would make a guy feel uncomfy though...(I mean the only guys who pay for my meals are family or older family friends lol). Next time you talk, thank her for paying for the meal and then explain that next time you'd love to pay for whatever, the meal, or a movie or something...

[ling_ling]

She probably doesnt want to have sex with you mwahaha

Jokes

Well not really... I usually let the guy pay because at the end of the night I'm giving them something else
wahahha jokes

But it's 21st Century ~ girls can pay for guys ya know ~ You just get the bill next time
But to be I think guys should always pay ...

[kansaieito]

something i was brought up with:

any man who lets a woman pay on a first date is not worthy of a second.
any woman who doesn't at least offer to go half on that date isn't worthy of a second either.


but yeah, she wanted to pay...maybe she's thinking like you and thought you had ulterior motives. sadly many men are like that and it ruins it for guys like you. perhaps she's been in that situation before and didn't want to be in it again. just tell her next time you go out that you're paying. if she feels so strongly about paying, let her...but refuse to let her pay for your meal as well.

[I.said.hi]

BEFORE I SAY ANYTHING.. I WILL APOLOGIZE TO ALL THE MEN HERE ON SOOMPI...

now. people say women over think a guys action..

IN REALITY IT'S MEN WHO OVER THINK A WOMAN'S ACTION.

how is this an ulterior motive? haha

dude. THE GIRL JUST WANTED TO PAY THE BILL. JUST BECAUSE A GIRL IS A GIRL, THAT DOESN'T MEAN SHE DOESN'T THINK THE SAME WAY AS MEN.

she just wanted to pay the bills. don't know who she could conduct a scheme by paying the bills..

it's a win-win situation. lol.

unless she somehow looked at your credit card and she's a scam artist.

lol.

REMEMBER.. ALTHOUGH A WOMAN IS A DIFFERENT GENDER THAN A MAN... SHE HAS THE SAME BRAIN AND COMMON SENSE AS A HUMAN WOULD.
they DO think the same thing as you.


she might have had an ulterior motive.... THE SAME MOTIVE YOU HAD OF YOUR IDEOLOGY OF "MEN PAY FIRST."

..

JUST MY 2 CENTS.

[gkstmdhQk]

dayum
Someone should dress like a girl and go with you next time.
Freebies !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

it's a win-win situation. lol.

I don't get what's so win-win. The girl wastes her money.
but it should be win win for the guy. Because he doesn't have to pay, and he gets the date. Win-Win rite??????

[SheWantTampons]

Take it as an opportunity to take her on another date and this time pay for her.

[Mannosuke]

dude. THE GIRL JUST WANTED TO PAY THE BILL. JUST BECAUSE A GIRL IS A GIRL, THAT DOESN'T MEAN SHE DOESN'T THINK THE SAME WAY AS MEN.

How are men supposed to think?

[greeenkiwi]

Oh c'mon now.. I paid for me and my boyfriend's first date years ago. I don't see anything wrong with it. Sure, the old traditions are guys should pay or whatever. But hey, maybe like me she's an independent kind of girl. I don't like or is use to people paying for me and taking care of me, so I'll insist on paying.

Next time if it happens again, just say, "Okay but the next date I'm paying for the bill." Or.. if you don't see a second date happening then just offer to pay for the tip at least. Or both, haha.

[angelorush]

this is a good oppurtunity call her up and tell her you want another date and this time you pay if cant stop thinking about it