[Pho4Ever]

My boyfriend came home recently and talked to me about his military experiences. It's going pretty well and I'm really happy for him. He gets paid and in a year he'll have a good chunk of money at his disposal/savings.

Anyhoot, as we were yapping, his computer restarted randomly like it always does. It's over five years old. When he got online again, I told him, "Maybe it's a good idea to invest in a new computer." But then he said, "I'd rather buy a ticket for you 8D"

Since he lives in Germany, I was kind of shocked because that's a pretty penny he's intending to spend. I do have the time in the summer to go but I don't think I can accept such a costly gift. It's been my dream to go to Europe since 8th grade (7 years ago). Part of me is like, "Hell yeah!" and the other half is like "No, that's way too much."

I told him that was way too much but he said it's his gift for himself because he wants to see me (aw) but still -___- Damn all charming people to hell!!! *shakes fist* Curse you allllll!

What would you guys do if someone you loved offered you a really expensive present? Accept or not?

[Mannosuke]

Depends if the person is wealthy or not.
If a plane ticket is like spare change then sure why not.

I'm rather conscious about my own spending, but after hanging out with this one guy that can pretty much pull out a phone and just make things happen...lol when you have what it takes to play the game, you can do anything you want.

[greeenkiwi]

I'm not sure, it would depend on a few things like...

-Have you guys been going out a long time and are serious? I mean if it was someone I've dated for not so long then I might not know them as well as I might think I do, so I would say no. Like what if we break up and he becomes bitter and starts saying "You need to pay me back," etc. But I mean if you guys are so close that you practically share everything and really serious, then okay why not?
-Does he have a lot of excess money? I would definitely say no if he doesn't have much money to begin with. I mean you also have to think about when you get there. It will cost you both money once you get there.. like eating out, going places, etc. Plus it's not much of a dream trip if you don't have any money to spend while there..
-Even if moneys not a problem for him, maybe you can offer to pay for half if you feel guilty or get more time to save up that way you can treat him out when you get there.

No matter how rich someone is, I don't think it's fair to just accept everything they want to give you. Sometimes you just gotta work for it too, and by doing this can be much more rewarding than just taking. Plus you don't want to be one of those girls that just say, "My boyfriend bought it for me."

[Pho4Ever]

-Have you guys been going out a long time and are serious? I mean if it was someone I've dated for not so long then I might not know them as well as I might think I do, so I would say no. Like what if we break up and he becomes bitter and starts saying "You need to pay me back," etc. But I mean if you guys are so close that you practically share everything and really serious, then okay why not?
-Does he have a lot of excess money? I would definitely say no if he doesn't have much money to begin with. I mean you also have to think about when you get there. It will cost you both money once you get there.. like eating out, going places, etc. Plus it's not much of a dream trip if you don't have any money to spend while there..
-Even if moneys not a problem for him, maybe you can offer to pay for half if you feel guilty or get more time to save up that way you can treat him out when you get there.

No matter how rich someone is, I don't think it's fair to just accept everything they want to give you. Sometimes you just gotta work for it too, and by doing this can be much more rewarding than just taking. Plus you don't want to be one of those girls that just say, "My boyfriend bought it for me."

We've known each other for 4 years so I'm really familiar with him and his family. They're certainly not wealthy, but he tells me the cost of living for him isn't that much. College there is virtually free so there's no expense except for rent if he goes away from home. I did offer to pay but he refuses my money. I guess it's understandable that we would be upset if I declined, but it still doesn't feel right just to accept the offer. He would never make me repay the ticket, his parents would not approve of that.
Thanks for the insight : )

[CaramelSweetie]

you can offer to pay half

[bellyy.loo]

hellz yeah!! accept the plane ticket. go over to europe to see him and spend quality time with him. and then figure some way to repay him back in the future!

nah, well it depends on your relationship with him. if you guys are really close and you guys completely trust each other and money isnt a problem factor in your relationship etc.

maybe in the future YOU can offer him a plane ticket to your place.

[Raito!]

just accepted it, considering that he said its a gift for himself to see you.

I too would pay a pretty penny if I can bring one of my favorite jpop singer to meetup with me LOL but I would prolly get bankrupted from the fare fee lmaoooo.

[leongfun]

He's buying you a ticket because he wants to see you.

Well, you want to see him too, right?

So pay half of it.

[Swtess]

If this relationship is gonna go somewhere in the end, then what's the point of making it difficult for what it actually is? If you're not planning anything serious with this guy then you shouldn't accept it, since it will be a burden to you apparently.If it's something close to a walk down the aisle then you should accept cause it shouldn't be about him spending so much on you. It's him wanting to see you and spend time.

[xxxxxxx]

Maybe you should pay part of the plane ticket or buy him a computer /laptop to pack him back.
To me, I would feel awkward accepting the ticket without giving anything back to him.

[xsaranghae<3]

awww thats soo cute xD and sweet
what she said^^^
and you can pay for half of the ticket?

[rainbow snakes]

YEH!!!!
wot others have said!!!
pay for half the ticket!!!!!
if ur still concious abour ir being costly then go and threaten him by saying u won;t go unless he let u pay for half the ticket!!!!!!
i think u shud go cuz u will both get summit out from it!!!!!
u will get to go to europe which is wot u always wanted and u get to see ur boy
whereas he will get to see u, in his country
it will also be a lasting gift!!!!
thank of all the pictures and memories that u'll make!!!!!!!
absolutely no amount of money can replace those!!!!
those memories will last u a life time!!!!
so i tell u to go gog gogogogogogogogogogogoogogog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

tell me how it goes ok????

ENJOY!!!

[moot11]

Sounds like he really needs that new computer, though...

If it breaks down for good, it will be harder for the two of you to interact when he's stationed abroad.

[MNLV27]

I would take the invitation and go see him. While you're there, you can do something special for him to make up for the plane ticket. If he's offering, might as well take it, it's not like you get to see him often..

[nathaniel]

I would take the invitation and go see him. While you're there, you can do something special for him to make up for the plane ticket. If he's offering, might as well take it, it's not like you get to see him often..

I agree w/ that.
If someone offers you a plane ticket... don't deny it! Every once and awhile it's okay to be selfish.
If you don't go, he'll be disappointed, and if you don't go you'll be disappointed to.
I'm sure when you get there you can re-pay him somehow, such as paying for smaller expenses/things like that. (:

[JASON;]

he'll be sad you're not going. go right ahead, if you feel bad, pay for a part of it like people have said. or get him a gift

[MangaPanda]

Well since he wont allow you to pay the ticket yourself or at least a part, why don't u just accept and surprise him with a new laptop or something? (:

[adiavoy]

Lol... seriously, just pay half of it or if you're broke... pay like 1/3. It'd be a good gift for the both of you. If you decide not to go, he'll be really sad, but $2,000 richer.

[Christinaisweird]

I think you should at least pay for some part. Or wait until like the next few months, then it would be wiser. I mean Euros are pretty expensive, so I think you should plan about the trip too just to make it worthwhile with the money.

[omfgnicole]

I'll be honest.. If I had no obligations, and I wanted to see him badly..
I would accept in a heartbeat. LOL