[Niji-kun]

Can a person show less affection toward their significant other while seemingly loving them more?

So... my boyfriend lately has been showing me less affection. No more sweet texts, not saying he loves as often (maybe rarely), and doesn't kiss or hug me when he leaves me like he used to. And it might just feel weird because I'm not used to it. But when he does, it seems like he means it, and it was like... as the sweetness went down, his feelings went up? It might be nothing to some people, but he went from "I love you" to "I'm in love with you", and "te quiero" to "te amo". In our relationship that's actually something,

And he goes out of his way to write back to me in Japanese and tries to show how much he loves me.

So, is there something wrong; or is it possible to love more and more whle showing less affection?
This is my third relationship, but first true one. Does this usually happen?

[makesure]

distance makes the heart grow fonder.. reworded to fit this case?

[daisy]

The typical pattern goes like this

Guy chases girl. He showers her with lots of attention, sweet gestures, and presents. Relationship stabilizes and the passion simmers down a little. Less attention, but that doesn't mean he loves you any less.

Don't over think things.

[bellyy.loo]

awww thats so cute!
there's nothing wrong with that. if he does sweet things less often, then it means so much more when he does them once in a while.

[miika]

I believe that it's good for the relationship to not overuse affection. Showing it rarely makes it all the more special and not overplayed y'know? Saying "I love you" all the time totally demeans the word.

[grainsofrain]

That sounds like me!

I love the effect it gives when you say "I love you" or something of the like once in a while, out of nowhere. It makes you more happy when you hear it : ).

[lovecarolyn]

i'm pretty sure he's just comfortable now and assumes that you know he loves you and misses you and all that. although, i prefer my bf telling me loves me everyday and kisses me every time he leaves.

[Mannosuke]

You must explain what "affection" is and how it relates to "loving someone"
And then list out things that would be considered affection.

I'm sure your parents don't show their affection all the time when they're around you, but do you question their love for each other? (that is, if they are still together and are still in love with each other and not just together out of obligation or whatever other cases there may be).

[evans]

yes, i think they can. and love doesn't have to be hung on the lips and proclaimed, though it's nice if it is. i think that relationships go through phases, and just because he's not as sweet anymore doesn't mean that he loves you less. i used to think in that way, like 'he doesn't love me as much because he didn't tell me he loves me today' or, 'his texts are shorter and it's been so long since he told me something sweet', but love doesn't have to be displayed like that, maybe in the little things? like that 'i love you' to 'i'm in love with you' thing. (:

[mintcracker]

past the honeymoon period, and now you're more stable and comfortable with each other. I don't think affection is necessary all the time, genuine actions are better t han overused I love yous.

[bonjour tristesse.]

I'm probably like you, who rathers have your s/o show affection towards you. But maybe you should talk to him to see if anything's bothering him. If he asks why youre asking, then bring up that he's been acting oddly.