[TDKSJ]

sorry if this is in the wrong thread/asked before but...

I've just read this story about a girl learning to love herself and finding happiness afterwards (after a break up) and I'm just wondering...

I know that learning to love yourself is like, being confident about yourself and all. That's what I think but what is it REALLY about? I guess some people have gone through break ups and experienced the time when they 'learned to love themselves'.

Has anyone experienced this? and how exactly did you do it? and how do you find happiness in it?

I'm sorry but I just can't seem to understand O.o maybe because I haven't experienced things that could make me learn to love myself in order to be happy again.

[Mannosuke]

Understanding yourself is the key to accepting yourself.
You can't be confident without accepting yourself.

"Loving yourself" is misleading cause people like to use the word "love" for everything (love games, love food, love sex, love your s/o). You accept yourself for who you are.

I know that learning to love yourself is like, being confident about yourself and all.

You should elaborate on what it means to be confident about yourself.

[bonjour tristesse.]

I use to be the kind who was very very shy. I was one of those cry babies, those insecure ones. But I guess that after I got stomped on so much, I learned that staying on the ground is crying won't do me any good. Eventually, I learned to accept myself the way I was and that I couldn't give more to what people expected from me. Took a long time, but it was worth the while.

[copeland4vr]

I think that part of "loving" oneself is coming to accept the person who you are. Sometimes its soo easy to get caught up in being like other people or trying to fit various expectations or stereotype about who you are. But the reality of the matter is that each and every person on this earth is an individual-just the way we are/created! At the same time I think the "loving oneself" movement can be kinda misleading too. For instance living a selfish life in which the satisfaction of one's personal desires is the sole and a driving force of one's existence is just as detrimental as having no appreciation for oneself.

Its being able to find satisfaction and appreciation of oneself that develops confidence and enables the ultimately goal with includes being able to love and support others.

[brownman90561495]

maturity is very much related to loving yourself, not confidence.