[SheWantTampons]

Do You Give Signals?


I’ve never been keen on the attention to detail or subtle gestures. Girls are incredibly good with these things but it probably would serve a better purpose on a guy like me. You’ve probably already heard that communication is mostly about tone and body language, and not necessarily what is actually being said. When I first heard it, I was pleasantly surprised and decided to investigate further.

You see, when I was young fella, I was quite the ladies man (haha I kid), but one thing that always troubled me was that I could never figure out if a girl is actually interested. Because of this, I’ve missed out on many opportunities with a girl. Remember when I said I’m not good with subtle gestures? If a girl were to give me hints and one of those occasional tests that women give men, then let just say that if I were a character from a romance novel, it’d quickly turned out to be a tragic romantic comedy. You must have communication to interact with people. Male bees must be able to dance in the dark to attract other female bees, one wrong move and it’s another four season of loneliness; electric eels attract through their lights, brighter lights equal better chance. I’m no zoologist, I’m just recalling all this from memory. My memory is faulty, so hmm forget what I just said about bees and electric eels; I was trying to be cool. Note to self – must read a book on animal mating calls.

Indirect Signals, More Dependable?

I can’t really ask a girl if she likes me. It’s direct, sure, but it is just unreliable. If you’re an observant guy and pay close attention to more indirect messages, sometimes it can be very rewarding. I notice that when a person is lying and pretending to be nice, they’re pitch goes higher. Anyways, that’s not relevant. The OP of all people should stay on topic haha.

What to look For

The following things are what I look for when I want to know if a girl’s interested (just a small list):
- She asks me for a piggyback ride (and wraps her hand around my neck); (This applies only to girls you’ve met for a short period of time)
- She grabs my arms for a period of time. To be more specific, she feels my biceps, kinda like squeezing it, sometimes as if unconsciously.
- She bites her lower lips; could be a sign of anticipation, could be nervousness, or possibly feeling worried. Must factor in environment and the social situation.
- Her eyes (pupil) gets wider. It indicates interest or excitement.
- She plays with her hair, flicks her hair, or twirls it without making a conscious effort while I am talking to her.
- She gives me a test. I just know when I’m being tested, but I can’t explain it.
- She grabs on to your shirt when you’re walking ahead of her. This is usually in situations where you’re at a carnival and it’s crowded.
- She hits me quite often

Note: In my experiences, all these have been good indicators for me. Sometimes, you have to apply common sense. And just because a girl happens to do one these things doesn’t mean it’s a sure thing. Observe. Observe. Observe. I’d ask a friend to help keep an eye out.
Note2: This does not apply to female friends. If you’re stuck in the friend zone, you’re better off getting out of a tar pit...

Final Thoughts

All of what I’ve mentioned is from my personal experiences, input from friends, and reading articles and books. I do not claim to be an expert or trying to give any advice. This is purely for entertainment purposes first and fore most, and perhaps for some insight. I hope you had an interesting read. Thanks, bye.

So what signals/ hints do you give, and do the guy respond the way you wanted?

[bonjour tristesse.]

Coming out from a girl who isn't shy around the guys, I can say that your list is pretty accurate. I agree (I'm not being biased just because I'm a girl) on your logic that girls are very good about hiding the fact that they like you because most of the times, they just leave you with these mind games. One minute you think they like you and the next it seems as if they don't ; But that's just how girls are I believe. I'd say flirting is a sign but then again, not everyone these days are able to tel if they're flirting or not.

You basically covered the signs that I give out. The usual accidental bumps, occasional punches and slaps and the whoel grabbing the biceps, all the sort.

[blueskiezgurl]

i don't give signals, well i dunno ,maybe unconsiously i do..

i guess girls just needs to be interesting, to get a response from a guy

[thisismyv]

LOL. totally have to agree with the eye-widening and lip-biting... that's me in a nutshell. am i that obvious?? XD

[gkstmdhQk]

I hope you had an interesting read. Thanks, bye.

So what signals/ hints do you give, and do the guy respond the way you wanted?

I like how he says bye and then ask another Question

[wowastyle]

i disagree with the "what to look for" i can't tell you how many times i've seen this in mags and wonder who does that?

[dreamyxxx]

This is pretty accurate
you mentioned alot of the signals i give out
..besides the pupil getting larger one. that i wouldnt know lol.

other signals i give...hmm
i guess just lots of physical contact
eg sitting close to him, leaning on his shoulder, hugs, grabbing his hand etc
but i wouldn't say these are exactly subtle signs.

[mintcracker]

I think best sign of all is when girl spends alotta time talking, msging with you
Slaps you/ punches your jokingly
laughs and smiles
Just general touching lol.
Seems to remember things about you.

[Regina Rae]

Umm, signals? I hate signals .___. I don't do any of those things listed.

[7erendipitii]

Lol those signals are so demure. If I'm interested in a guy, I usually am talking to him whenever we bump into each other. I'm always in a hurry but when I like him, I make time for him. I smile a lot at him and try to make him laugh. I usually make it clear I like him lol

[gotoAndParty]

Haha half those things are the same as the fluff they put in teen magazines. I surely don't pay attention to people's pupils...

When I like a guy I touch him a lot, laugh at his jokes, walk into him, lean on him, stare into him, show off, be very interested in his life, start using his phrases, mimicking his body movements. It's not very subtle.

[ChouChou]

man i was going crazy giving signals during the start of my relationship with my current bf
he was so clueless to it all, he didnt even know that our first date..was a date lol
it was very cute though, his innocence, as all the bfs i had in the past were very forward and knew what flirting was etc etc

hm..i dunno if i can remember everything i did

i was very touchy-feely..like i would take any opportunity to grab his arm or whatever
whenever i met him i would hug him tight and whenever we said goodbye i would do the same
ummm...i dunno, it's just general flirting
we went on quite a few dates [he didn't know they were dates...] before he managed to pluck up the courage to ask me out
lol it was all very sweet

now we've been together for 3 years and we often talk about that time and laugh about how clueless his was lol

[Gofishus]

Well thanks alot. Before I thought that no girl was ever really interested in me. Now that's confirmed

[rawr! :3]

A girl flirting with you can sometimes throw you off. You'll never know because sometimes it can come natural from us girls and might not know that we're actually giving off that vibe. So it may come out as "leading you on." I guess the only sign you'll know forsure that a girl is interested in you is if she spends alot of time getting to know you and actually talking to you alot. Because usualy, if a girl is not interested whatsoever, she wouldnt waste her time doing that. But hey, you'll never know, some girls show off their affection in a different way. Hmm, that pupil thingy is interesting LOL :3

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

laugh a lot, joke around a lot, make fun of them (nicely though!), text&call - although not first, and dedicate songs to them. ask them to sing with me, ask 'oh we should go do this'.
...i'm kind of obvious but not really, hahahaha.
i end up just telling them first and they're like. 'oh, i thought so, but i wasn't sure.' -___-

[foreverxlove]

"hey so there's this guy i like..."
or
"so do you like anyone right now?"
yeah. that's how obvious i am.
yet the guy never seems to get it.

[Painterlyy]

Yeah kind of.
If he catches my eyes in class or something, instead of looking away, i'd smile at him.
Also, when flirting, briefly touching his arm.

[gingerpeach]

Mm for me, I don't bite my lips & I don't think my pupils get wider or anything. But everything else is pretty much true. And mann most guys I know can't tell when a girl is giving them signals. They're clueless about them and it gets pretty frustrating hahah.

What I do is I laugh at their jokes (even when it's not intentionally a joke), touch their hands/arms, hit them playfully, sit/stand near them a lot, touch their things (rofl like cell phone or backpack or something ya know?), listen to them intently when they're talking, etc. Basically a lot of what people before me have listed already. I feel like I'm being redundant haha.

But I'll do those things kinda.. subtly. Because most of the time I like to hide my feelings from the guy until I notice that he might be interested in me too. So maybe one moment I'll be totally girly & touchy around him xD but the next I'll treat him like any other guy and not give him any attention at all. Something like that.

[hobobear]

those are signs i usually do...
i put my head on his shoulder, sit real close, punch and poke him, grab onto his shirt, piggy back rides, and i always make time for him no matter what. if he calls me at like 11pm and asks if i wanna grab a bbt, i'm willing to go.

[natt2828]

LOL. damn youre good : )

I usually flirt with him with my eyes and smile. When we walk I would try to get my arm or hand to touch his..
I challenge him (anything that get him to touch me APPROPIATELY) LOL
and top that with, "you smell really nice." : )