[lil_star]

Hey Guys,

Ok, I'm going to be straight forward and ask, how would you deal with the situation when your close friend tells you that she only has less than a year left? Yeap, you thought of it, she's has a serious illness.

[maha_love]

You tell her that you will stick around.

[lil_star]

You tell her that you will stick around.

I have been for several months and will always be. I feel that words aren't enough and even with my company, i feel as though it's not enough. Are there any more options besides listening to her explain how she feels or talking with her about it that it's going to be ok and not make her feel scared or depressed?

[Mannosuke]

Make it a memorable year, not a sad one.

[xspringrollsx]

This is probably the best time to tell her what you've always wanted to tell her. The things you may be to afraid, shy or scared to say.

For me, knowing the outcome of whats going to happen above makes me feel so uneasy. So doing things, saying things to get the mind off is sometimes good. Not in a way its denial rather just value the time spent now with happy thoughts.

[Gofishus]

Well...anything you might have fantasized about doing with her...you only got a year left to do them

[mizgen17]

i'm so sorry to hear that T___T..well like eveyone said above me...tell her things that you've always wanted to tell her.....make the time left memorable....list the things that she always wanted to do together or alone....support her and just be with her until the end =)

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[lil_star]

i'm so sorry to hear that T___T..well like eveyone said above me...tell her things that you've always wanted to tell her.....make the time left memorable....list the things that she always wanted to do together or alone....support her and just be with her until the end =)

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We can't do much outside of school *it's the only place we spend together with the girls* because she is a muslim T__T

[donporkuloin]

Make it a memorable year, not a sad one.

[Mannosuke]

We can't do much outside of school *it's the only place we spend together with the girls* because she is a muslim T__T

Then make it the best damn school year of her life, literally.

[hippiehop]

Tell her you will help her make it the most memorable year of her life!!

[terrorist]

Make it a memorable year, not a sad one.

yeah... you know there is something called spiritual therapy or mental therapy?

if it's cancer or any type of illness. it can be literally fought with happiness. optimistism. from you and your friend.. and everyone around her. support her and believe that she will be better. not matter how dim the chances of her living is.

true story(long story short) - a guy who had a 10% chance of living said he doesn't want to get treated for cancer. so he left the hospital for good and went up to the mountains and ate fruits and meditated/prayed to God. His mind was at a state where it was pure bliss.. his body was cleansed through natural food.
somehow the molecules in his body (supposedly) fought these cancer cells. when he went back to the doctors the doctor told him the cancer was nowhere to be found. NO where. the doctor said that it was impossible.. he said it was a miracle.

he lived for 9 more years when the cancer came back. this time to his brain. and unfortunately he passed away.

I didn't make this story up. it's really a true story. i'll try to find a source.

[eyeluvyew<3]

1 litre of Tears is about a girl who has a terminal illness... and its about how she made a difference...
Its a real story and you can watch or read the book or the drama...


I'm sorry and I hope for her to get better and live happily!
I wouldn't focus on the negativity...make the year a very cherished memory ~

[* veenee]

Although its sad to hear, you should spend the last few moments with her, try to build up some good memories.

[woaini715]

i wouldnt know what to say. but i would want to comfort him/her and show them that i love them and i'm grateful for them in my life.

[shhmaiim.]

like everyones been saying, just make it an amazing year for her...
lots of fun & good memories.

[Frozy]

I have been for several months and will always be. I feel that words aren't enough and even with my company, i feel as though it's not enough. Are there any more options besides listening to her explain how she feels or talking with her about it that it's going to be ok and not make her feel scared or depressed?

There are times when everyone will feel this way, not just you.

At this point in time, there is no room for depression in the time you have left with her. Make the most out of everything you can, and do it so that both of you will not have any regrets. Stay strong!

[Cao]

I am deeply sorry about your friend. I hope she can continue to live a good life regardless of her illness. It's just saddening knowing the time is ticking out at a young age. If I were you I would do what I can to keep her comfortable in her last days.

[DangerousAngel]

I was told the exact same thing, but I had less than a year left.
I was very blessed to survive but I bet my friends faced the same thing you're facing right now.

In my situation all I wanted was for my friends to act normal around me.
Do fun things, plan crazy ideas you've had forever and go through with them. Because when I went back to the hospital I'd see all the sad faces and face all the difficult test results. Even if my friends wore fake smiles, it really helped me push through all the bad stuff.

Just allow her to spend a "normal" year as opposed to a year filled with mourning and desperation.
If she can't hang out much outside of school, because of her religion (this doesn't make sense to me though, because I have several Muslim friends and we all do fun things outside of school) plan surprise events for her in school, or make her a really yummy school lunch or something like that.

Just focus on the joy of life because, trust me, she's going to focus on the negative things when she's alone so she doesn't need YOU to do that as well.

Good luck! Feel free to PM me if you need more advice.

[Mango.Tango~]

Dont be sad that it's coming to an end...just be glad that it happened.