[LeahB]

hi! a question (okay two) came across my mind...
is it easier for you to forgive your best friend or an acquaintance in the following scenarios:

Scenario A: when he/she back-stabs you (like talking crap behind your back)
Scenario B: when he/she disappointed/upset you (like forgetting your birthday or not showing up when promised)

keep in mind in both scenarios everything is exactly the same except one is your best friend the other is just an acquaintance.

i know forgiveness is not an easy thing, but i am wondering if it is easier to forgive a close friend or a stranger?
i think it would take me longer to forgive my best friend, but at the same time there would be a stronger desire to forgive my best friend.

PS - i am not in an argument with anyone, i was just curious of the "what if"

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

it's harder to forgive a close friend. i would hesitate to initiate 'talks' or meetups after an incident. but ive got a soft spot, so if they initiate more i would give in but you cant forget one disappointment despite a lot of happy moments. (if it's a major one i suppose, then you start feeling a 'change'). if it's a one time thing, its easier to forget, if it keep recurring then...well our relationship will eventually be more distant.

for an acquaintance......it wouldnt matter as much, because if it did, then that person should've been a close friend lol.

scenario a: i usually dont bother. i would stop all contact. and i have done so before. ive never been backstabbed though.
scenario b: it would take time for me to be okay with that person again. *if incident is more than once*it would take weeks to years depending......the longest for me was like a bit over a year.

[SheWantTampons]

Scenario B seems better for both. I don't make a big deal out of birthdays or when someone forgets something because there could something else more important (but that's because I'm a guy and I forget things even when I don't mean to). Backstabbing is horrible.

[xo_sugar_ox]

it is so much easier to forgive in the second scenario...the first one is just horrible!

[K evin]

Scenario B. But scenario A can also be forgiven depending on what type of crap they were spreading.
But a good friend of mine would never purposely talk crap about me.

[GRRRf00]

Scenario A: when he/she back-stabs you (like talking crap behind your back)
Scenario B: when he/she disappointed/upset you (like forgetting your birthday or not showing up when promised)

if my best friend were to do the first, it would hurt like a b*tch b/c they actually knew how i was.
...&&i would be really pissed, so it would prolly take a lot for me to forgive them.
'cause acquaintances don't know you as much.
scenario b is nothing but a chicken waaaang. )

[sus]

A: harder to forgive acquaintance co u duno them dat well, just goin to hold a grudge
if was best friend, inclined to forgive....

B: acqyuantance easier to forgive cos prob wont care if they turn up or not

[jang neul]

It would be harder to forgive someone who means somethng to me, ofcourse.It's the trust and respect that gets affected by that. I wouldn't care about the acquaintance, we aren't even friends - it's more of like a whatever, especially on petty things.

[* veenee]

harder to forgive a best friend. that is why i don't have a best friend now..

for acquaintances, it just lets me know what type of person he/she is.. not something i be upset about too long

[ParappaRappa]

Scenario A - if it was a close friend that did this, i would forgive them if they actually apologized to me about it. but i'd never see them the same way again. i guess in a way i'd always be cautious or on the lookout with them...

if it was just an acquaintance, well, i'd be very offended and angry. i'd pretty much know them as that person who hates me and avoid them as much as possible. if they apologized, i'd forgive them. but again, i'd never see them the same way again.

it'd be easier to forgive the closer friend on this though, i think.

Scenario B - if it was my close friend, i'd forgive them. some people forget things. but, i'd start having that feeling in the back of my mind that they don't actually care about me.

if it was an acquaintance, i'd forgive them if they forgot my birthday. i don't expect many people to remember anyway. but if it was to like, hang out or something, i probably don't usually hang out with them much so then i'd view them as flaky and avoid making plans with them again.

it'd be easier to forgive the acquaintance on this.

in short, i'd forgive close friends/acquaintances in both scenarios but my feelings about them would change.

sorry i wrote so much, haha i'm bored.