[k0k0black]

Hello everyone,

I don't know about your parents, but that's what mine does. When i was younger, my mummy would bash me with a broomstick - (her favorite weapon) whenever I misbehaved. When she used violence against me, of course I listened to her because I was hella scared

I just think violence is wrong whether they're your parents that's using it against you or not. Also, I don't think it actually "teaches you a lesson." I've always thought it was more like forcing you to listen to them, like you don't have a say in your opinion?

So what do you guys think? Do you think it's correct to use violence when teaching somebody? Would you hit your child and make it listen to you if it misbehaved? Feel free to share any experiences (:

And of course, these are all just personal opinions.

[wnelek]

the only time i got wacked with a broomstick was when i was REALLLYYY bad. even to this day, i can still feel it when i think about it.

however, i think i deserved it. i was a pretty lousy kid and did a lot of bad stuff.
BUT! i think it's wrong if it's just abusive and no reasoning behind the beating.
(wacking you for not doing dishes for ex. would be a bad reason)


russell peters pretty much sums it up. check this out
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hX5xjNBqi4w[/media]
it'll make your day(:

[Mannosuke]

I was allowed to fight back lol
"here's your stick, now defend yourself"

[dancingbymyself]

I strongly belive in corpral punishment.
But I also believe there is a difference between abuse and punishment.
If your hitting your kids hard enough to leave marks on a regular basis, or
for stupid little things like forgetting to mown the lawn, then thats probably abuse...

But yea... Whenever I see a kid running around with no home training... I always think
"That kid did not get beat enough"

Getting sent to your room, or being grounded isn't a punishment.
"Aww.. I'm stuck in my room, what should I do, computer or TV?"
And even if all electronics get taken away, your can sleep or read a book.

I know i'm most likely gonna use violence to punish my kids.
Squats, holding hands high, getting hit by spatulas, rulers and whatever
happens to be nearby.... Yea, my kidss are getting raised right, with manners.

[LiMMi~]

I was allowed to fight back lol
"here's your stick, now defend yourself"

LOL!
yeah my mum hit me too =\
but gah D; i was a pretty stubborn kid and i suppose they are hurting more than u when they punish u

[damyoungji]

I'm not going to share my own experience XP

I personally believe that using force (violence) towards children is only acceptable if a parent doesn't abuse it and doesn't use an object. Children are still young and they tend to take after what they learn from their parents. By abusing them too much physically, it may cause them to have emotional break-downs and misunderstandings in the future. It won't help if a child starts attacking others the same way as their parents do, right? Not to mention, there is always other ways to "punish" a child (like "grounding"). Any force used against body parts like face, head, or any inappropriate parts are unacceptable. I think the safest place will be their bottom and their hands.

[Merit]

My mom said she hits me once when I was very young and somehow got sick and ended up in the hospital. The thing was I had a lot of health problems when I was a kid anyways. She was scared that something was going to happen to me and promised that if I got out and recover she'll never raise another hand to me. And she kept that promise.

I was told though, she spank me with her hands which hit my butt a couple of times...so me being in the hospital had little to do with her spanking. LOL.

My dad...nope he does not spank any of his kids...he doesn't even discipline us so no spanking envolve there. I guess, I got it easy growing up.

[Mannosuke]

By abusing them too much physically, it may cause them to have emotional break-downs and misunderstandings in the future.

I believe in conditioning through discipline. You do something wrong, you will receive punishment. That is the logic behind it, and it works.

Some people think kids are just going to rebel, like plz, a lot of these are the same people with kids that rebel ANYWAYS lol

[xoxo_03]

I think it is okay to use violence as long as you are not abusing it. But you know, violence doesn't really teach a lesson. Explaining patiently what kind of mistake that had been done is the only way to teach the kid.

[KTHubbybunch]

they just want to be feel that they are superior & authoritative. Parents should not act like that. That's why kids get more rebellious.

[Regina Rae]

My parents never once hit me. And I would never hit my child. That's barbaric.

Kids are kids, and they misbehave because they don't know any better. When a kid does something wrong, you don't just haul off and hit them. That's immaturity to the highest degree. I look down on parents who hit their kids. They are below me and every other parent.

What makes it even more sick, is when adults do something wrong, or "misbehave" no one hits them. If you do something wrong at work, does your boss just jump up and slap you? Hit you with a stick? No. But when a kid that's not even fully grown and doesn't know better does something wrong, violence is used on them. Is that sick, or is that sick? Parents who use violence are terrible parents, because they don't know any other way to teach their kids right from wrong other than hitting them. They should just be animals.

Hitting a child is disgusting, but not as disgusting as the people who do it.

[Mango.Tango~]

Lol. Yeah everyone who gets hit by their parnets always think to themselves "I WOULD NEVER DO THIS TO MY CHILDREN. EVER" but did you know that theres a MUCH higher chance of you becoming an abusive parent, if you were abused as a child?

[mizgen17]

i think it's wrong to use physical abuse to kids and like u said it doesn't really teach us a lesson...
my dad used to hit me and my sis using a belt >.< but then he would hug us after........i still remember it lol

[Mannosuke]

Kids are kids, and they misbehave because they don't know any better.

When a parent tells them not to stay out after 10 PM, then they KNOW it's wrong to stay out after 10 PM, but they still do it anyways.

Rules of the house, you're living in this household, you will follow them.
Don't like it? Then move out!

A lot of people aren't taught this concept and when they grow up to be 15 or 16 they're still acting like they don't need to respect their parents' wishes.

[Regina Rae]

When a parent tells them not to stay out after 10 PM, then they KNOW it's wrong to stay out after 10 PM, but they still do it anyways.

If parents are letting their kids stay out until 10 PM, then they are atleast a teenager. Not a little kid. I'm talking about violence towards little kids. Not teens.
I couldn't care less if a parent off and smacks their 13 year old. Because they DO know better. I'm strickly talking about young kids.

[makelovenoises]

Well I don't really consider it violence if they spank you with a ruler/belt/stick/etc. My definition of violence is when they hurt you for no apparant reason, or for not a good cause.

I support parents hitting their kids.
I know it taught me plenty of lessons that I have stopped doing after one spank.
Heck, I would definately spank my kids!
I'm glad my parents hit me when I was a kid actually. If they did a simple grounding, that wouldn't have taught me a lesson. I'm me, I know. XD

Besides, they only hit me when I was bad. Like paint the shirts, go to a friends house without calling (1st grade), not work well in class, ruin the house.
I say I deserved it (= I follow what they say now. Not because I'm scared to be hit again or anything.

[Koss]

Parents should discipline their children how they see fit, unless its really extreme. A spanking or a broom whack seems fine too me, but trying to kill the child is different. Kids are terrible these days anyhow.

[Lyna]

Depending on if it's bordering abuse.. I mean, sometimes this is pretty affective when there's nothing else that you can do.

Yeah I got hit on the bum a few times as I kid but I learned quickly not to do whatever it was that I did to get the beating. I grew out of it quickly and my parents never hit me again.

[MUGETSU]

Personally it's ok and I will definitely discipline my children if they did something really bad. But if its just a small problem then I won't. i would definitely make them understand first that it is a punishment for something wrong they did, a consequence, so they won't do it again. As long as it isn't overboard abuse, it should be ok.

[sourpoplime]

My parents never once hit me. And I would never hit my child. That's barbaric.

Kids are kids, and they misbehave because they don't know any better. When a kid does something wrong, you don't just haul off and hit them. That's immaturity to the highest degree. I look down on parents who hit their kids. They are below me and every other parent.

What makes it even more sick, is when adults do something wrong, or "misbehave" no one hits them. If you do something wrong at work, does your boss just jump up and slap you? Hit you with a stick? No. But when a kid that's not even fully grown and doesn't know better does something wrong, violence is used on them. Is that sick, or is that sick? Parents who use violence are terrible parents, because they don't know any other way to teach their kids right from wrong other than hitting them. They should just be animals.

Hitting a child is disgusting, but not as disgusting as the people who do it.

It's called "discipline". A person like you is usually known as a brat - spoiled rotten. Violence and discipline are two TOTALLY different things. Consequently, "in the field of child development, discipline refers to methods of modeling character and of teaching self-control and acceptable behavior." You say "But when a kid that's not even fully grown and doesn't know better does something wrong, violence is used on them." DOESN'T KNOW BETTER - you have to teach them right from wrong. Kids who don't know better only know pain. They have to recognize the fact that they are doing something wrong only by pain. Yelling at them isn't gonna teach them anything. If you can't discipline your kids then you FAIL as a parent. I wish I could explain this better but I'm running late.