Posted 16 August 2009 - 06:05 AM
UPDATE 18/08/09
Ok, so just yday, she called me again to come with her to the doctor.
I thought she was sick but she just wanted to get a doctor certificate because she skipped school that day.
Her reason for skipping school is because she and her friend need to finish their art project (they are trying to catch up).
I said 'No' to her.
She still persuades me like usual, but i kept on saying 'No' to her.
Then she asked me why i can't go with her, and i said this,
"It's because i feel like youa re using me. You only come to me when you need me and that's all. I'm sick of this and i don't want to do it anymore."
She was like, "But we are best friend.."
"To YOU, we are best friend. But to me, we are NOT. Remember that you forced me to say that we are 'best friend'? I really don't want to say it that time."
After that she apologize to me while sobbing on the phone, but after she apologize she said, "... so can you help me?"
After that, i kind of scream on the phone, cursing at her and everything. She cried and i hang up.
Was i being too mean to her?
Somehow i feel happy after that.. haha (^^)'
And someone replied that so far i've only talked bad about her.
So i'm gonna add some good things about her:
- she really can keep your secret
- a good listener
Those two are up till now.
But during the times when we hang our together, she's pretty much one of those good friends that you all might have.
Always hangs around with you, call you, etc..
Idk why ic an't list much of her good things.. I think my brain has been invaded by the bad ones.. haha
But thank you so much for reading this and give me some advice..
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I just have to get all this rants out of my mind!!
This has been bothering me lately..
Oh and i'm sorry for my grammar mistakes here..
So I have this one story..
I have this one friend who called herself and me are best friend, but she only come to me if she needs me.
My sister said, that's what best friends are for. But still, how could she only come to me when she really needs me??
Aren't best friends supposed to be hanging our pretty often? Sharing etc??She only calls me out to meet her if there's something she needs from me.
But everytime i asked her for help, she got tons of reasons why she can't help me.
Ok, this gonna be a long one, i'll tell you teh story step by step.. Prepare.. mwahahaha..
So, i started to know this girl when i got my first part time job, let's just call her M.
She was new as well, like me, just starting the job.
I'm pretty talkative as a person, so i always started a conversation with her first.
And then in a few months, we hang out quite often.
But in our job, i was known to be more talkative and friendlier than her.
Then one day, she forced me to say that 'we are best friend', idk what for..
I don't really want to say it because what happenned to me in the past.
Everytime i told someone that 'we are best friend', in the end we are not best friends. We barely talk, or for worse, we never talk to each other.
I told her that i don't want to say it, but she kept on forcing me to, she said that she won't do that.
Even if i deny to say it, i'm sure she'll force me until i say it, so i said it.
And just like what i predicted.. we are not best friends..
On the next few weeks, she went for a trip in with her church group to sydney.
And when she came back, she didn't tell me until the next 2 weeks. She was like, "Why didn't you call me at all?"
I'm like, "because i don't know that you are back, you didn't tell me."
Also, when she starts working again, her personality changed a bit. She became more talkative, which is good.
But then i realised that she kinda seemed to imitate like me (i am not being vain or anything). Like from the way she greeted people, talk, jokes, etc.
I tried not to think negatively in here and just let her be.
However, after that she never contacted me at all. She will only call me around once per 3 months, and that's normally she needs me to help her. She really won't ask me out just for nothing, she always has something to ask of me. Last time she asked me to come to city even though it's 9 because she got caught by the security for riding the tram with no tickets and she cried. I have to stay with her for 2 hours... =.=' She even asked me to send her home.
The thing is.. My house is in city, and her house is like.. soo far awayy!! It took us an hour to go to her house by train, not including the walk. I told her it's a bit too late, so i told her that she can stay over in my house or call her brother to pick her up by car. But she doesn't want to.
If i am mean, i would just leave the person there if they really pisses me off, but remembering her strict brother.. I sent her home.. and go back to city by myself.. =.=' Gosh..
It was pretty dangerous for myself.
After around 5 months not meeting or contacting her, we met in someone's birthday surprise.
On that day, i was wearing a plaid purple long tee and she was wearing an plaid orange long tee.
The first word that came out from her mouth was,
"Why are you copying my clothing style?"
my friend and especially me was shocked. We really didn't expect that to came out of her mouth. It's just a coincidence. Why do i want to copy her clothing style??
She also loves to treat me as a little kid and always think that she's the older one.
From appearance, she wears clothes like an adults: long coat, and mostly black.
Yet she starts wearing make up earlier than me.
One day, she called me out to meet her in the city. At that time, i just finished helping my friend doing her assignment. My cousin is a make up artist and a hair stylist, she's going to enter a competition. She needs a model for her assignment and she asked me to. So of course, i was wearing make up when i met her.
When she noticed that, she said, "Hey, you didn't apply your mascara correctly. Do you want me to fix it?"
Okayyy.. Anyone can say that my cousin might not be good enough.. But i have to say that my cousin is good. She's a pretty famous stylist in my home coutry, and i am sure M knows her.
Next!
This happenned recently, she needs to pay for a public transport penalty. But she doesn't want to let her family knows, so she asked me to do it. I mean, out of all so many friends of her, why does it have to be me??
She will return the money back to me, but she told me baout this penalty a day before the due date. Plus, she doesn't know which one is the reference number etc. So i asked her to bring the info tomorrow.
Sadly, i don't have enough money in my account..
When i told her about it, she got upset and mad about it, she said,
"How can you not have enough money?? I asked you to help me for this because i thought you could, but you couldn't."
I was sooooo pissed at this!
My family is nto as rich as her, okay?? I havve my own problems here.
She got her pocket money from her family, she got paid for everything!!
But i have to work for my pocket money + food + bills!
Gosh! She knew about this and she still says that! WT*!
Because of this, i have the thought that if you say to your friends who you think are your best friend that, 'we are best friend', you are not gonna end up as one.
I have some other friends that are alot more closer to me than her and we never call eachotehr best friends, but we are SO close.
So i just wnat your opinion about this, do you think this really is what best friend are for? Helping each other only when they need.
Do you think it's my fault somehow??[color="#FF0000"]
You know.
goodluck.
