[Koss]

Anyway, I have been with my girlfriend for a year now and things are pretty good with her.

Recently we been hanging out with her sister a lot more often. By the way, my girlfriend is a year younger, and her sister is a year older than me. They are both cool girls. (I am 21 by the way.)

Lately... it seems that I have been falling for her sister. They are both cute girls, but I don't know what it is! I can't help how I feel, and I know I'm in a bad situation. I could talk to either for hours about anything. They are just really cool!

I'm one of those chill guys that girls like to hang out with. It makes me feel like I am not staying true to my girlfriend, but I haven't acted on anything. It's ok to look, as long as I don't touch, right? Maybe it's just a phase I'm going through when the boyfriend gets an attraction with the older sister. Hahah, or maybe I'm just too young still.

Yeah, that is my situation. Any advice?

[Mannosuke]

Ya, just don't do anything with her sister lol

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

why dont you bring a male friend to hang along?

her sister needs her own life

[applejoosh]

why dont you bring a male friend to hang along?

her sister needs her own life

yess, well put sir. you have to wonder why the sister wants to hangout alone with you so much. not knocking the girl or anything, but this is definitely a two-way street. there's a boundary that she's crossing as well; it's pretty improper to chill with your younger sister's bf :/ and keeping in mind she's older,she should have a better sense of what's ok, and what may not be ok in the long run.
if it does turn out that you're falling for her, you should definitely talk to her about that as well bc no matter how a situation arises, if you like someone else, it's unfair to everyone, esp. your gf, if you don't address it. plussss, if it turns out older sis likes you too, thennnnnn there's kind of a bright side to the whole situation, right? but it doesn't hurt to wait to figure everything out for sure; you don't want to regret a major decision

gluckz, hope everything works out for the best!

[xJoyful]

yeah, i agree with the person who said bring a guy friend into the picture.
and don't make any moves that you'll regret. or just try getting your girlfriend and you alone
if my boyfriend ever made a move on my sister, i'd automatically dump him.

[Sammiie__x]

Bring a guy friend.

She shouldn't be gettin' that close.
'Nuff said. LOL.
Seriously though, bring a guy friend for her.

[Koss]

Why should I bring a guy friend? If I'm falling for her.. then why would I try to let another guy get at her? Yeah that totally sounds selfish, but it makes sense right?

[Juli~<3]

no it doesn't make sense.
you have a girlfriend.
dumping her for her sister won't get you the sister.

[Limepop]

no it doesn't make sense.
you have a girlfriend.
dumping her for her sister won't get you the sister.

This, pretty much. Even without considering your girlfriend's feelings (which is a pretty big issue in itself), if you think about the probability of being able to hook up with her sister --

I'm pretty sure it's below 1%, if not in the negatives. :/

Also, maybe her older sister is hanging out with you two more often to test out the sort of guy her sister's dating / for approval or something of that sort -- it doesn't necessarily mean she's interested in you as anything beyond the "oh, I need to get along with him because he's dating my baby sister" sense.

[linhxsoxlovable]

^ LOL the whole testing/approval thing reminded me of this joke:

My girlfriend and I had been dating for over a year, and so we decided to get married. My parents helped us in every way, my friends encouraged me, and my girlfriend? She was a dream! There was only one thing bothering me, very much indeed, and that one thing was her younger sister. My prospective sister-in-law was twenty years of age, wore tight mini skirts and low cut blouses. She would regularly bend down when near me and I got many a pleasant view of her underwear. It had to be deliberate. She never did it when she was near anyone else.

One day little sister called and asked me to come over to check the wedding invitations. She was alone when I arrived. She whispered to me that soon I was to be married, and she had feelings and desires for me that she couldn't overcome and didn't really want to overcome. She told me that she wanted to make love to me just once before I got married and committed my life to her sister. I was in total shock and couldn't say a word. She said, "I'm going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want to go ahead with it just come up and get me." I was stunned. I was frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. When she reached the top she pulled down her panties and threw them down the stairs at me. I stood there for a moment, then turned and went straight to the front door. I opened the door and stepped out of the house. I walked straight towards my car. My future father-in-law was standing outside. With tears in his eyes he hugged me and said, "We are very happy that you have passed our little test. We couldn't ask for a better man for our daughter. Welcome to the family".
The moral of this story is:
Always keep your condoms in your car.

ANYWAY,
that sucks for you. lol. what if you bring your guy friend and you still find yourself attracted towards her sister? and a whole love triangle or love square goes on? nvm. I've been watching too many dramas. But ya...don't be an idiot and make a sudden move on her sis. That'd be so messed up.

[lala4ever]

if i ever found out that my boyfriend made a move on my sister, i'd dump him right then and there.
that's just inappropiate.

people are saying to bring a guy friend so that just in case the older sister is interested in you (not saying she is), then the older sister will then be interested in your guy friend. o-o

[myxo]

Why should I bring a guy friend? If I'm falling for her.. then why would I try to let another guy get at her? Yeah that totally sounds selfish, but it makes sense right?

You, my friend, disgust me.
You're not getting her sister. No sister in her right mind would date her younger sister's ex.
I feel sorry for your girl. It seems like she's in the worst position, not you. You're just being greedy.

[Koss]

You, my friend, disgust me.
You're not getting her sister. No sister in her right mind would date her younger sister's ex.
I feel sorry for your girl. It seems like she's in the worst position, not you. You're just being greedy.

My apologies.

I am not pursuing her sister. I only find that I am very attracted to her. I have not acted on anything, nor do I plan to because I am loyal to my girlfriend and will not do anything to jeopardize our relationship. I am just saying that sometimes you just can't help how you feel. If I happen to have a falling out with my girlfriend then maybe some time in the feature I would pursue her sister, but that won't happen anytime soon. Yea, it's true that a girl has to be out of her mind to date her sister's ex, but if it really brings happiness then it would be worth a try.

And yes, I am quite the greedy guy. I want it all, but who doesn't? Sometimes there are things you want, but you know you should refrain from getting it and that is what I am doing. I am sorry that I disgust you. I am a guy, after all.

[AoiAi]

Wow.... I feel bad for your girlfriend. :\

[Sidoneon]

Yea, it's true that a girl has to be out of her mind to date her sister's ex, but if it really brings happiness then it would be worth a try.

And yes, I am quite the greedy guy. I want it all, but who doesn't? Sometimes there are things you want, but you know you should refrain from getting it and that is what I am doing. I am sorry that I disgust you. I am a guy, after all.

Wow... brings happiness? How would you ever try to get in her house after that? Your simple attraction could break her family if you decide to make a move and she "accept" it. The only for you to be safe would be for your girlfriend to agree and I think that's fairytale my happy poopoo.

and what's the link with being a guy? oO

[AoiAi]

^ Probably trying to imply that all guys are greedy and/or disgusting.

[BigZ]

I think the sister is just being friendly and trying to get to know her sister's boyfriend. I doubt she's interested in you. Also, if you're finding yourself attracted to other women then maybe the relationship you're in now isn't working for you and you should move on. That would be better than staying in a relationship in which you're attracted to your girlfriend's sister, and not actually your girlfriend.
If I was the girl and I ever found out you were attracted to my sister I would end the relationship right then and there. Even if you say you were over her, there's always that possibility to start liking her again because of the constant exposure you are getting to her, or that you're lying. I know you can't help your feelings, but don't hold down your girlfriend to be with a guy who doesn't even like her (solely her, or maybe at all). It's not right.
You probably won't get with the sister because I really don't think she's interested in you (don't make a move either because that could seriously damage the sisters' relationship), but you'll find someone else who may keep you interested in them and only them in future and so will your girlfriend.

[bonjour tristesse.]

It was never good to like girls that are sisters. Drama might arose in between the two and trust me, you wouldn't want to be the cause of it.

[MRLEE]

lol this remind me a situation where this one girl..the yOUNGER SISTER that i used to know that liked me..STOLE her SiSTER BF! LOL her sister was like 16 and she was like 13. MY GOD it was a really sad situation and funny at the same time.. but it does happen =-= but..i wouldn't make that kind of move..you will really really hurt her if the sister did even decided to accept you.

[* veenee]

don't fall for the other sister, most likely she sees you as her new brother, she is NOT a boyfriend stealer.