[Guru2000]

Say you're the only one who has a car, and your friends don't, so they take public transportation (bus, subway, etc). If my friends live within 10 minutes away from me, then i don't mind giving them rides to their houses. What if they live far away, like over 15 minutes away? would you still drop them off at their houses, or would it be okay to just drop them off at the nearest subway station and have them ride the subway to their houses?

I just got a car and some of my friends live over 10 minute drive away, so i don't know if i should just drop them off at the nearest subway station or actually drop them off at their houses.

[bubbling bliss]

you shouldn't be the one responsible for gettin them home...

if they do ask you to drop them off every day or something.. you could ask them to give you gas money.

i think dropping them off at the nearest subway station... that'd be kinda cold .idk

[charat]

i only give rides to close friends that live near me. otherwise i just take off without giving htem a chance to get in the car.

[* veenee]

I actually don't have a car, but if i do.. i don't mind driving people home after a night out.. but i would NOT be the type to drive them to the mall or groceries,.. i'm not a taxi!!
But i mean, at night time it's late, the transportation here is really crappy, 1-2 buses an hour wtf right? even i don't want to be alone outside at night, its dangerous for a girl, even for a guy, they can be robbed or killed or anything. But during the day time, i'm not your personal chauffeur or taxi man.

[ssulja]

I drop them off if we're all going out together. If they want me to be a taxi, they better pay me a premium.

[christelle-g]

I remember this situation! =.=' SORRY, IT WILL BE LONG BUT I HAVE TO SAY IT

I was the only one who had a car and I used to drop them off but It was really annoying!
After party, tired, sleepy, I just want to be at home as soon as possible but I'm always the taxi!

Those who understand me gave me contribution for gasoline because my father is actually the one who pays for the gasoline. But I remember this girl friend that I know since childhood, she never gave me any contribution, and my house is at 20 min from her house, I even had to take motorway.

After class, she one day asked me if I could drop her off at her boyfriend's school coz it's on my way home, she always took the bus. I was ok, so I dropped her off at her BF's. Then the next day she asked again, then the day after, and finally I just said "you know, you don't need to ask me, you already know the answer"...which was "yes" because I don't know how to say NO .

Then I noticed that, when she wanted to party, she always invited me, and when I said 'no', she wouldn't go party! O_O
The only reason was MY CAR. Then I started to lie that I couldn't go party,...etc..just because I didn't want to be her taxi driver.

One day, she said something in front of me, her mother and mine that really hurt me. Our mothers were talking about our last party, my mother told her I went back home really late, coz I had to drop the friends off (the target was my 'friend'). My friend's mother then asked her daughter (my friend), "why didn't you asked me to come and pick you up?" She answered "I didn't want to disturb you".
I was so shocked, ok, it's her mum but how about me? We know each other since childhood but our relationship is dissolving since I study in another country.

drop them off at the nearest subway station or actually drop them off at their houses.

If I were you, I would do this, don't be in such a complicated situation like mine! =.='

Please be honest: DO YOU THINK I AM SELFISH for what I've done??

Sorry for this long post...u_u

[hannieoon]

There's a thing called courtesy. I had a friend that I used to pick up all the time because he didn't have a license. He lived about 5 minutes from my house if I drove but he kind of took advantage of that (like drive to places that were 20 minutes away to hang out) and with gas being expensive, I stopped hanging out with him. So if they're thankful and somehow compensate it (maybe pay for a portion of the gas or taking you out to dinner), I would drive them but other than that... no thanks.

[angels.disguise]

its ok if its once in awhile but if they keep asking
me to give them rides & taking them home i would be pretty annoyed.
if we are super close & we're hanging out i would not mind
taking them home even if its 10+ minutes away.
dropping them off at a subway station is uh...kind of mean.

[buzyb33]

I would drop them off at the subway station maybe once or twice, but if it becomes a daily routine, I'd make them walk or bus there. They have money and legs, make them use it!

Most of my friends have their license and a car available for them to drive. We're always carpooling and switching drivers every so often so it's fair for everyone. If we drive somewhere far, I make them pay up for gas money.

[des monstres]

um. hell to the no.
gas is getting expensive these days!
they can take their own butts home.
unless they give me some money for the ride.

i had a friend who took advantage of me.
and i hate when my friends use the "but you have a gps and i don't" thing all the time.

[Subways]

I find that if they live that far away like over 15 minutes away if anything I should give them a read. Thats a long commute.

[g0bananas]

well, in my area, public transportation is really bad, so i usually only give rides to people who are close by or on the way. once you drive for about a year, it's not fun anymore. and you can't really ask your friends to pay for gas, unless you're driving them to and from school EVERYDAY.

but maybe once in a while, if they really have absolutely no way home, i'd drive them.

[chocc]

I remember this situation! =.=' SORRY, IT WILL BE LONG BUT I HAVE TO SAY IT

I was the only one who had a car and I used to drop them off but It was really annoying!
After party, tired, sleepy, I just want to be at home as soon as possible but I'm always the taxi!

Those who understand me gave me contribution for gasoline because my father is actually the one who pays for the gasoline. But I remember this girl friend that I know since childhood, she never gave me any contribution, and my house is at 20 min from her house, I even had to take motorway.

After class, she one day asked me if I could drop her off at her boyfriend's school coz it's on my way home, she always took the bus. I was ok, so I dropped her off at her BF's. Then the next day she asked again, then the day after, and finally I just said "you know, you don't need to ask me, you already know the answer"...which was "yes" because I don't know how to say NO .

Then I noticed that, when she wanted to party, she always invited me, and when I said 'no', she wouldn't go party! O_O
The only reason was MY CAR. Then I started to lie that I couldn't go party,...etc..just because I didn't want to be her taxi driver.

One day, she said something in front of me, her mother and mine that really hurt me. Our mothers were talking about our last party, my mother told her I went back home really late, coz I had to drop the friends off (the target was my 'friend'). My friend's mother then asked her daughter (my friend), "why didn't you asked me to come and pick you up?" She answered "I didn't want to disturb you".
I was so shocked, ok, it's her mum but how about me? We know each other since childhood but our relationship is dissolving since I study in another country.


If I were you, I would do this, don't be in such a complicated situation like mine! =.='

Please be honest: DO YOU THINK I AM SELFISH for what I've done??

Sorry for this long post...u_u

If it was on the way, then i think it's okay. But yah i wuld hate it too if i was only invited to party with her because she wanted me to be her taxi driver. i think you did the right thing.

[sus]

u should realli drive them home
wat if something happened to em at the subway?
well make sure it dun happen so often
or u could arrange to drop everyone at someones house n they can get their parents to pik em up

[coldfire-x]

If I was the only one with the car I'll drive my friends if they are on the way / close-by. Unless they really don't have a ride and it's unsafe for them to take the bus or whatever I'll drive them home.

[brownman90561495]

i like driving, and i don't mind paying for all the gas for the trip. i'd drive for maybe two hours (manila traffic) late at night just to get my friends safely home. my max time i think was three hours. well i only do this to friends who i am comfortable with, and i would always offer the ride. i wouldn't do it to people whom i feel that they're just using me for the car.

[BubbleFish]

I'm always willing to drive my friends home even if it is out of the way or whatever as long as i know they're not taking advantage of me. If they always expect a ride from me then i wouldn't want to give them a ride anymore..lol.

[Swtess]

I don't drive often so I don't really mind driving friends home even if they're out of the way. I'll offer to drive them home or if they ask politely. I do not like it when they just assume that I will drive them home though. I feel bad that after we hang out and they say that they have to catch the bus or something since its pretty dangerous late at night.

[MyLovelyKimchi]

oh man. i hate when that happens!
but honestly, i think its best if you take someone else who has a car.. [if its possible]

first. i would give them rides back home and stuff.
but then if this constantly happens,
you gotta tell them that youre not their driver!
hope this helps.

[kireisnowtenshi]

Depends on how good a friend you are to them and they are to you.

Honestly when I was'nt 21 yet all my friends would make me drive...but I never wanted them to pay me gas money or anything cause I said yea I would drive them...if it was home or like after partying...cause like...I could always crash at one of their places...and stuff...I never HAD to give my friends gas money if we went somewhere and they drove...only if I really wanted to...and they never asked me to unless we were going out of state which I only think its fair I do.

As for dropping them off at home if they live out of your way I think they should be understanding...cause I would never ask a friend who lives in the opposite direction of me to drop me off...unless it was like 100 plus degrees which I have done on occasion and I dont regret it either...I was in H.S. lol.

But hmmm...I dont know its all about the who, what, where and how far...my friends love carpooling so I dont think we have ever had this situation actually play out to where they would always ask for gas money...friendships dont work like that...