[chocc]

Say this guy told you directly that he likes you. He says he couldn't break up with his current gf because she threatened him. Would you secretly go out with him? He's really sweet to the girl. He always drives her home even though she lives far away, and calls her or texts her everyday.
Would you guys still continue to see this guy in this situation?

[OMGitzYOU]

Your situation is actually pretty normal for a "third wheel story." The guy doesn't want to break up with his gf for whatever reason and the third wheel feels like it's the girl's fault for not leaving the guy but not the guy fault b/c he tried!?!!?! Maybe you should have waited until he broke up with her then get with him or else (IMO) he's just playing you to have two girls.

[xreverie]

Can you give us an example of her threats? Like what does she tell him if he breaks up with her?

And yeah, I agree with you. It is her fault for clinging onto him, but it's not her fault that she still likes him. You can't really force someone to stop liking someone y'know? And if I was in this situation, I would think about whether or not he's worth the trouble. Do you think she's capable of actually taking on her threats and make it actually happen? Do you think you're capable enough to help yourself and him to withstand it? As for me, I don't think I'd go through all that trouble. I mean I like guys who are able to get past their relationships with their ex-gfs cleanly - like cut through; no problems or loops whatsoever. And a guy who knows from the very beginning what he's feeling and not someone who starts to like someone else during a relationship....When did he start to like you? Was it when their relationship was rocky? Why did he lose feelings for her to begin with? Was it you? Sorry to sound rude and persistent, but I don't think any of us can really have a say in your situation because when it comes down to it, relationships are all different - different story, different people. This situation all depends on how you want your position to be. But the main question you have to think about is, "Is he worth the trouble?"

[damyoungji]

I wouldn't continue seeing the guy if I was in this situation. The reason being that if he cannot get his girlfriend to let go, he is obviously not trying hard enough. After all, if he really wants to break up with her, he will ignore her after breaking up with her. However, I will feel bad for his (ex) girlfriend since she doesn't want to let him go. Being the one who has fallen head over heels for someone who doesn't feel the same way is such a bad feeling.

I was in a similar situation once. The guy I liked wanted to date me, but I rejected him because he was not willing to break-up with his girlfriend. He said that he didn't even like her and I knew it was true since everyone could tell how much she annoyed him. They would often get into fights and he said that he was only in a relationship with her because she seemed mysterious at first. They eventually broke up, but I didn't care because no way will I want to be someone who wanted to date me behind their girlfriend's back. It totally ruined my impression of him and even if I was to date him, who knows? Maybe he has a bunch of other "girlfriends".

[Swtess]

In the end, she is still the girlfriend, while you're the other woman. It doesn't matter what she said to keep him and how much she refuses, if he really wants to let go then he would've walked away long ago. That just sounds like a pathetic excuse.

[peppermintsugar]

No, because in my opinion, no form of cheating is okay, and what you're doing is basically aiding in him cheating on his girlfriend, regardless of his feelings for her currently, she is still his girlfriend.

You should probably tell him to call you when he gets things sorted out. What makes you think he won't do to you what he's doing to her?

[myxo]

Um.. what?
Seeing that you're probably receiving all your information regarding his relationship from him, you probably don't really know everything you need to know. He can be feeding you all this information about how his gf won't let go, is incessantly clinging onto him, but what does that really say about him? He's either indecisive, wishy washy, or has trouble addressing issues to his current gf. If he really wanted to break up with her, no amount of convincing (or threats for that matter) will make him stay.

[pocketsoul]

No. Getting involved with someone already in a relationship is just asking for trouble especially when it happens to involve someone that's mentally unstable, which his girlfriend seems to be. I also don't think it speaks very highly of a guy when they start liking a girl while they're with someone else. If he didn't have feelings for her before, why did he stay with her? If he did have feelings before but stopped having them after he met you, obviously he couldn't have cared THAT much for her in the first place because if he did, he wouldn't have had eyes for anyone else. When you're crazy about someone, no one else matters because you're head over heels for them.

So, basically, either way... he sounds like he's bad news.

[whistlei]

Nope I won't.

why? Because if the guy really didn't like her, he would've broken up with her already. (what kind of threat was it? I'm curious) And I wouldn't want myself to be next to him when he still has that girl sticking by him.

[SailorBoy62]

Nope I won't.

why? Because if the guy really didn't like her, he would've broken up with her already. (what kind of threat was it? I'm curious) And I wouldn't want myself to be next to him when he still has that girl sticking by him.

Speaking from a guy's perspective, I agree with this comment. Quite honestly, if he wanted to be with you in a real relationship, he would be. Just 'cause she's clingy doesn't mean he can't break up with her.

[bhaby gurl]

from my point of view if he really likes you then no matter what happens he would break up with the girl

even if the girl threatens him and yeah if you say that you want a break up

then the other half dont have a choice to break up with that person

so if he really likes you then he would pursue to break up with the girl

[HaplessChild]

would you feel guilty if you hang out with a guy you like, and the guy also like you back, BUT the problem is, he has a gf? He doesn't like his gf, and he tried to break up with her a few times before, but she refused and threatend him..yah i know if he really did want to break up with her, then no threat would work. But you're not in their situation, so assume that the threat does work. Anyway, i would normally feel guilty if i'm the "third wheel", but right now, i don't feel all that bad since she was the one who refused to break up with him..she knows he has no feelings for her, but still clings on to him and refuses to break up, so she can't blame him if he likes another girl and decides to see her one-on-one.

Would you guys still continue to see this guy in this situation?

LOL, you are being LIED to.

So my answer is heck no, I would know I'm being lied to.

[Melody93]

no. cause i would NEVER EVER EVER be in a relationship with a guy who's STILL in one.
cause my best friend got really really hurt knowing that she was the third wheel in the relationship, and at the beginning he told her he was single.

i was sooo mad cause i couldnt do anything about it cause i've warned him before, if he breaks my friend's heart, i'll break his face.

-sigh- my friend was hurt really really bad.

anyways, back to the topic.
like others said, if he wanted to break up, he wouldve done it a long time ago. and about the threats part, if he was really threaten, i dont think he's even supposed to see you.

[fredinsac]

That dude needs to grow some balls. I say move on to someone who actually has a pair.