[pigpoppy]

never mind.
you guys dont really understand that im not jealous of her.
when i described my 3 reasons about why i probably dont like her, they werent reasons about why i was JEALOUS of her.
i dont care that she's going out with the snootiest guy in the world, as most of you guys tried pointing out.
i told you guys first off that i didnt really understand why i disliked her, and all you guys are doing is rubbing it in my face.

thanks anyways.

[SailorBoy62]

You don't have to like everyone. If she rubs you the wrong way, she just does. It seems like you're trying to find excuses to justify the fact that you just don't like her, especially with the, "She's dating the most popular guy" thing. You don't have to like her, you don't have to have a reason even. The guy thing though, I mean, you didn't do anything about it and he didn't ask you out, so he was technically fair game. Just saying.

[kulet25_vip]

honestly, i don't think so. if she acts like a stuck up b*tch/ wh*re/ sl*t then, you're not wrong to dislike her. we're almost in the same position, difference is i don't REALLY know the girl i hate. people says she's nice and i (and my girl classmates) try to like her. but at the end of the day, we just see the reasons to hate her more. to top it all off, we don't actually have reasons why we hate her. we just do. ^___^

[jang neul]

DILEMMA #1:

There's this girl I really don't like. -.-" Everyone at school knows it, & a lot of other people [65% of the kids in my grade ish..] don't like her either.
Why?
Top 3 reasons:
-She lies a lott. Like, no joke. And about the weirdest things. Basically, she lies about the things that nobody would ever dare JOKE about.
-She's the gf of the snootiest/apparently-the-cutest-and-smartest/stuck up/most popular guy in school. You know those guys who can get ALL the girls falling for them? Yeah, that's him. And this girl is his gf.
-She's skinny/pretty-as-in-all-the-guys-in-my-grade-have-had-a-crush-on-her-at-least-once/smart..ish?/& rich.
something to know: i dont like her bf. i liked the guy she dated before him. more about him down there..

But when you're talking one on one with her, she's actually really nice.
At first, when I just got to know her, I thought she was pretty pretty & nice.
But after a while...
I don't know. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that she stole my second crush [that lasted 7 months -.-"] after I moved to a new school & just outright told him she had a crush on him & then he said he did too & they hit it off.
First, that guy was totally mine. That may sound snooty, but seriously..we were playing flirt-a-lot for 5 months-ish on & off.
& I was talking to this girl when she decided to tell the guy that she liked him.
FF>>
She broke up w/ him about 3 weeks later.
FF>>
She's going out w/ the snootiest/apparently-the-cutest-and-smartest/stuck up/most popular guy in school. & they're totally in freaking love.


So the question is, am I wrong to dislike her? I try really hard to not dislike her, as I myself can't even pinpoint the exact reason why I dislike her. But there's just this really strange vibe...

First off, you're not entitled to like her. You do not need a concrete reason to not-like someone, I believe. I actually dislike a number of persons without being able to pinpoint what it is I dislike about them, I dunno, maybe it's their aura or something.

Second, I don't think you have any right to be mad at her for dating the guy. You said it yourself that you were "flirting", on and off. Like it or not, there are no commitments between the both of you, he can date anyone he wants. Whether they broke up after a year or a day isn't really any of your business.

I think that ended up sounding nasty. I didn't mean to be mean though~ xD

[whenaicu]

I think subconsciously you dislike her or rather her character, because you know how she flirts with boys, lies and gets the male attention. You can see that her flaws that others can't. Also, perhaps because she dated the guy you liked you felt betrayed as a friend. I don't think it's wrong for you to dislike her, it's your own choice. Personally if a girl did the same thing to me, I wouldn't think very nicely of her either.

[witchery]

You're jealous:
- she nabbed the most sought-after guy in the school
- she's very popular with the guys
- her and her bf seem to be so in love

You're bitter:
- she went out with your crush

Isolate each reason and it wouldn't give you any right to dislike her, but put them all together and man I would be pretty damn pissed too.
She didn't exactly do anything wrong, but we're all human, I'd feel the same way about her.

[VIETboredom]

... o-o she didn't do anything wrong.

You are jealous of her so you hate that she has the stuff you would have wanted. Rich/smart/pretty/can-be-nice-when-she-wants-to-be/guys-like-her/confident etc.
Well. Even if the guy you crushed on was "totally" yours, you weren't officially dating or anything. You didn't ask him out, didn't tell him you liked him etc. So you are mad that the girl had the confidence and courage to tell the guy she likes him and they went out. And you are frustrated that she dumped him when they hadn't gone out that long.

And you hate her. Because she's in love. And someone loves her back. And even if you don't want that 'someone', he's supposedly one of the most-wanted guys in school. You want what she has because you don't have it right now. I'm guessing she's one of the most-wanted girls in your school, since you say a lot of guys like her.

It's ok. You do have reasons to hate her. I suppose, some bitter people out there would hate her too. Anyways, stop comparing yourself to her. It won't go anywhere. Improve yourself. Love yourself. Next time you like a guy, ask him out. Sorry if I was too blunt but yeah. I wasn't meaning to offend if I did. I really hope you feel better though. "Jealousy" is an awful feeling to feel. I wouldn't want to feel it either.

edit: It's ok to hate someone who seems to have the perfect life you might have wanted. Like the person above said, we are all human lol. And I'm sure that "perfect" girl's life isn't all that perfect. She probably has other life issues to deal with. Everyone has problems. I think the more important issue is how a person can overcome obstacles. Good luck to you again

more edit: I feel kind of bad for that girl. Although she seems to have everything to other people, you say that a lot of people dislike her because of it. She admitted she was a player too, so she's honest there. And hey, everyone lies lol.

[adiavoy]

Hmm... you may dislike her just because she took your crush, but man, it was your fault you didn't ask him soon enough, at least she took action and asked him out while you stood there like a victim. As my parents always say "no one did anything to you so why you crying?" If she hasn't personally intended to hurt your feelings then there's no real reason to dislike her. Of course if I were in your position I'd be jealous/dislike her too. It's one of those High School things where you hate someone just because they're this or that, it's okay, you'll get over it.

[xWeeeAmandaa]

DILEMMA #1:

There's this girl I really don't like. -.-" Everyone at school knows it, & a lot of other people [65% of the kids in my grade ish..] don't like her either.
Why?
Top 3 reasons:
-She lies a lott. Like, no joke. And about the weirdest things. Basically, she lies about the things that nobody would ever dare JOKE about.
-She's the gf of the snootiest/apparently-the-cutest-and-smartest/stuck up/most popular guy in school. You know those guys who can get ALL the girls falling for them? Yeah, that's him. And this girl is his gf.
-She's skinny/pretty-as-in-all-the-guys-in-my-grade-have-had-a-crush-on-her-at-least-once/smart..ish?/& rich.
-She admitted herself that she was a player. O_O"
something to know: i dont like her [current] bf& never did. i liked the guy she dated before him. more about him down there..

But when you're talking one on one with her, she's actually really nice.
At first, when I just got to know her, I thought she was pretty pretty & nice.
But after a while...
I don't know. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that she stole my second crush [that lasted 7 months -.-"] after I moved to a new school & just outright told him she had a crush on him & then he said he did too & they hit it off.
First, that guy was totally mine. That may sound snooty, but seriously..we were playing flirt-a-lot for 5 months-ish on & off.
& I was talking to this girl when she decided to tell the guy that she liked him.
FF>>
She broke up w/ him about 3 weeks later.
FF>>
She's going out w/ the snootiest/apparently-the-cutest-and-smartest/stuck up/most popular guy in school. & they're totally in freaking love.


So the question is, am I wrong to dislike her? I try really hard to not dislike her, as I myself can't even pinpoint the exact reason why I dislike her. But there's just this really strange vibe...

Firstly, why is your crush "yours?" Just because you like him doesn't mean your dating. It'll make a whole lot more sense if you guys were already DATING and then she stole him away from you. But I'm pretty sure your just jealous of her. Her popularity, etc etc. But you should think about it. If your crush really did like you back, he probably wouldn't have dated someone else. Did she even know that you liked him? Well, I guess it doesn't really matters if she knew or not because she probably wouldn't have cared about someone that hated her so much for nothing.
Did this girl even do anything to you? Did she humiliate you in front of everyone or something? You said yourself that she seemed nice when you were talking one on one. Maybe that just shows something about your personality.

[SYNsaish]

Like someone said earlier...you don't have to like everybody.

There's this girl that I absolutely despise that goes to my school.

[HaplessChild]

Firstly, why is your crush "yours?" Just because you like him doesn't mean your dating. It'll make a whole lot more sense if you guys were already DATING and then she stole him away from you. But I'm pretty sure your just jealous of her. Her popularity, etc etc. But you should think about it. If your crush really did like you back, he probably wouldn't have dated someone else. Did she even know that you liked him? Well, I guess it doesn't really matters if she knew or not because she probably wouldn't have cared about someone that hated her so much for nothing.
Did this girl even do anything to you? Did she humiliate you in front of everyone or something? You said yourself that she seemed nice when you were talking one on one. Maybe that just shows something about your personality.

FTW.

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

you have the right to dislike her. stop talking to her then?

but your crush was never yours even though you guys flirted, he never made you his. they liked each other and it worked out for three weeks. so what. whats it to you. dont be bitter over that. esp. since he was never yours.

[[HyuNi]]

Maybe it has something to do with the fact that she stole my second crush [that lasted 7 months -.-"] after I moved to a new school & just outright told him she had a crush on him & then he said he did too & they hit it off.
First, that guy was totally mine. That may sound snooty, but seriously..we were playing flirt-a-lot for 5 months-ish on & off.
& I was talking to this girl when she decided to tell the guy that she liked him.

No, the boy was not yours.
You had 5 solid months to nab him and you missed your chance.
If you really liked him, you should have done something about it.

You don't have to like everybody, but what's the point of hating someone?
It's not like hating someone makes you feel better or good about yourself.
If she really does get to you, then don't be around her or don't let her get to you.

It sounds like she really isn't doing anything directly bad to you.
She actually sounds like a good girl, and it may be teenage angst that's getting the best of you.

[Mannosuke]

If you don't like her, just ignore her and don't hang around her. Simple......

First, that guy was totally mine

I hear this phrase a lot. Except it's generally "I should stop liking him cause my friend likes him"

[bona fide*]

Edit/

It's true that you don't have to like everyone you meet, however, your reasoning for disliking her sounds pretty ridiculous:

- She's pretty, slim and nice (is being physically appealing and having a personality a crime?)
- Admits to being a player (hmm, I don't see why this should affect you - it's her life, let her make her own mistakes).
- She "stole" your crush (uh no, she made a move and you didn't - tough luck ).

Honestly, I think envy is the appropriate term to use here, not dislike.

[xo_sugar_ox]

hm..you don't have to like her if you don't, nobody is forcing you to, just don't let your dislike of her get the best of you...which I think is really showing right now

[uhohhitzkc]

you didn't make the move first = your loss. >.> can't blame her for that.