[__j.cho]

I was reading cosmopolitan one day and there was an article saying that 84% of the women surveyed think that if their bf got a lap dance from a stripper its not considered cheating and the editor was writing in shock that this wouldnt be considered cheating.

I was reading with my bf so we started talking about it. he thinks its not cheating while i do. wat do you guys think?

guys answer in the male section and girls answer in the female section haha i think itd be interesting to have our own poll since i dont really know how cosmopolitan came up with those survey results

[joxxy]

It really depends on how conservative you are.
I wouldn't think of it as cheating but I definitely wouldn't condone it unless I was there.
I wouldn't be comfortable with my boyfriend going to a strip club without me.

[shinji.]

IMO, him wanting it is considered emotional cheating and him getting it is physical cheating.

[pantsripkick]

Well, that lap dancer has a gender too and he/she enjoyed it, so that's considered cheating.

[lidolaydeej]

no I wouldn't.
I know ppl who've bought their boyfriends lapdances

[Sasami]

Why would he want a lap dance from a stripper when he can get a lap dance from me? XD j/k.

And I agree with joxxy, I wouldn't really care if I am there. If he hide it from me and tell me a few weeks late I will be a little upset, but I doubt it's going to be big enough to break up with the guy. I don't know if it consist it cheating or not until if something like that happen to me them I will know.

[adiavoy]

If it's just one lap dance.. it's not really cheating, I mean he doesn't really have feelings for a stripper. But don't really understand why you need a lap dance if you already have a girlfriend.. it's like you want to see other girls. Course if the girlfriend knows nothing about this and later finds out, then it's understandable if she wants to break up with him.

[saya]

I don't like it. Maybe if I'm there it's better. But I'm not thinking of other guys, so I find it irritating that he'd desire skanky strangers instead? lol

[waysa]

As long as he keeps his hands to himself while receiving that lap dance, I don't consider it cheating! Although it'd be great if my bf didn't wanna receive one.

[whenaicu]

I certainly wouldn't be happy about it but it's just a lap dance. If it was just for one of his boys to hang out I'd let him go. Provided he doesn't do anything sexual with her, or is emotionally attached to the girl afterwards. Also I'd be kind of offended. What kind of girlfriend would I be if my boyfriend still needed to get lap dances.

[Malice_Kaiser]

I consider it cheating.

You don't have to be having sex or be emotionally attached to a person to be cheating. If he's getting a lap dance then he is seeking some sort of fulfillment that for some godawful reason he doesn't feel he can get from me, so he goes to someone else to get it, and I consider that cheating. Even if it's a different kind of cheating I still would be pissed if my boyfriend went off to get a lap dance, because it says I'm not attractive enough for him to want me to do it my own damn self.

[Regina Rae]

I don't consider it cheating. But it's not a smart thing to do if you're in a relationship.
I definitely wouldn't be happy if my bf did that.

[Swtess]

I wouldn't even consider it cheating but I'm going to be over the top pissed.If he disregards my feelings and went to a strip club without telling me, I would be seeing red.

But really, a lot of people here go to strip clubs just to drink. I have a lot of friends; male and females, that goes.

[PRRRETTYGLiTTERRR]

I don't consider it cheating but I would be PISSED if my bf got one.

[Kanzen]

I consider it cheating.

You don't have to be having sex or be emotionally attached to a person to be cheating. If he's getting a lap dance then he is seeking some sort of fulfillment that for some godawful reason he doesn't feel he can get from me, so he goes to someone else to get it, and I consider that cheating. Even if it's a different kind of cheating I still would be pissed if my boyfriend went off to get a lap dance, because it says I'm not attractive enough for him to want me to do it my own damn self.

I agree with this completely.

[xyunaxfantasiesx]

I consider it cheating.

You don't have to be having sex or be emotionally attached to a person to be cheating. If he's getting a lap dance then he is seeking some sort of fulfillment that for some godawful reason he doesn't feel he can get from me, so he goes to someone else to get it, and I consider that cheating. Even if it's a different kind of cheating I still would be pissed if my boyfriend went off to get a lap dance, because it says I'm not attractive enough for him to want me to do it my own damn self.

I agree. I may not consider it cheating, but I'd be mad. If I don't like him to look at other girls, there's no way I'd be okay with another girl dancing sexually on his lap and inducing some kind of excitement from him.

[xindi]

Cheating always and completely depends on the opinion of the other partner... If you were an extremely jealous type, then it is cheating, and your s/o should have taken your feelings into consideration. Some people prefer to be the only ones bringing pleasure to their partner. If you were more open and just thought of the stripper as a passing fun moment, then you wouldn't mind..etc

[Rainbow-lotus]

If the girl is a flirt and the guy is a flirt then i bet there relationship those kind things are not cheating..

like my friend hugs guys like crazy and her bf got a lap dance.. so .. yea they dont call that cheating cuz they both are "fair" to one another..

me and my bf just dont flow that way.

What i consider cheating.: touching in a passionate or sexual or loving way(unless related).

So ... 1 stripper + 1 boy ^ lap dance (sexual) = CHEATING

obviously if your bf likes it and your upset about it why isnt it cheating? If its not cheating them dont be upset about it.. if your not upset about it then ya its not cheating.. but u need to think about how much u like this relationship then...

[Aziraphale]

I consider this not a personal problem that requires a poll to resolve. Please read the announcement on polls.