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Is It Worth It? i need some help from you older/more experienced soompiers

#1 User is offline   woaini715 

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Posted 19 August 2009 - 04:53 PM

okay, so this is prob gonna be a long story, so i hope you can stick it and i'll try to make it as simple as possible.
-i met him (let's call him D) when i was 14-going-on-15 (i thought it might be helpful to let you know the age). that was freshmen year.
-we got along really well. i noticed a lot of qualities that D had that most guys i knew didnt.
-pretty soon i began to like him. some ppl said that they could see that he liked me but he was more of the reserved, play-it safe kind of guy, so i had no idea how to tell. and on top of that, both of us never had been in a relationship.
-then came the day i moved. stupid me forgot to get his number cuz my phone was confiscated during a random scanning. and he doesnt really go on the internet either,
-fast forward into the present and now i'm 16, going to be a junoir. i havent seen him ever since. and during all of sophmore year, i always thought about him...and i still havent stopped thinking about him.
-the time came when i had my first bf (let's call him G). but even with G, i had doubts, there were so many times where i would thing about...1) how would things turned out if i got together with D? 2) how there were so many things that D had that G couldn't offer.
-so G and i broke up a month later, partly due to my feelings for D but mostly cuz of my decreased attraction for G.
-now, i'm single and confused. what if i keep thinking about D all the time that it'll affect the possible relationship that i could have with other guys? what i fall too deep and mistake my feelings for something else?
so, that's it, i hope reading wasnt a pain =) i want to know what you more experienced people think of this. is it love/lust/infatuation? what should i do? and what would you reccomend?
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#2 User is offline   moot11 

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Posted 19 August 2009 - 05:38 PM

Doesn't seem like you know D very well. You may have romanticized and created an image of him to fit your desires of an idea guy.

Forget about him and the past if there is no way to contact him. If you keep this up, you might one day miss an opportunity with someone even better.

Best of luck to you.

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Posted 19 August 2009 - 05:41 PM

search up D on facebook? ask any of your friends at your old school about D? go back to your old school and find him yourself?

and if youre not willing to do those, then move on and stop day dreaming.

even if you keep having him on your mind, there is a chance that he could of changed within these 2 years. and you can have high expectations for him to be this super great guy. but ya, just a possibility.


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Posted 19 August 2009 - 06:06 PM

thank you guys smile.gif I appreciate the advice. you're both right. i got to know him but there's still things that i don't know about him. and yeah, I try luring myself away from him by questioning myself and saying "there's things that you dont know about him. he could have changed within two years and become a person you don't like. get over him, he could have gotten over you already". and yeah. I know if i keep going on like this, I'm going to hurt myself. knowing myself, I'm not used to rejection so it could hurt even more.
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