[Mannosuke]

I love this phrase.
Whenever a girl threatens to break up, all the guy has to do is act sweet and she'll "always fall for it"

Even when she's ranting about how crappy the relationship and how horrible of a guy he is, they always say "but he becomes so sweet and I 'always fall for it~~~'"

What kind of resolve is this?

[cavil.]

Probably the reason why most women in abusive relationship stay.

That and fear.

[mentalfiction]

Well, I guess it depends on the person actually
And when a girl threatens to break up, I don't think she actually wants to break up, just trying to shake the guy up a little that she's being serious. So then the guy gets all mushy, and thats exactly what she wants him to be.
I can think of a lot of other possibilites right now.
Girls are hard to read, haven't you boys learned that by now? xD

(like Jen Aniston in that one movie (forgot the name)...."I don't want you to do the dishes. I want you to WANT to do the dishes") lol

[moot11]

Probably the reason why most women in abusive relationship stay.

That and fear.

^ QFT

Like you said, a lot of these type of women need more resolve. It's heartbreaking and infuriating at the same time.

[Daylightful]

Yeah.. A lot of times girls can feel guilty too. It just shows the guys that all they have to do is pull the, "I need you" card to keep them by their side. Girls should know, if the relationship is unhealthy and they are being abused, they should leave whether or not they beg for you because they're just going to do it all over again. I think at the same time, when a girl initiates a breakup, she feels bad as it is, maybe she doesn't even exactly want the break up but she knows it's better for her, so when a guy says such things, it pulls her heart strings and keeps her closer. Because she too, doesn't want to end it and there is also false hope.
Either way, girls need to think better for themselves! I hope things work out for those in abusive relationships as well..

[peppermintsugar]

This doesn't work.
If the girl legitimately wanted to break up, nothing would stop her. This goes for anyone.
You might be confusing a real break up with girls pretending like they wanna break up with their boyfriend just to get an emotional rise out of him.

[HappyExpress]

Probably the reason why most women in abusive relationship stay.

That and fear.

I agree.... And they always fall for it because they feel it is love or either guilty...... unless the girl realized it isn't love and is unacceptable.

[Regina Rae]

My question is, why do you care so much?

[hannieoon]

Well, when girls threaten to break up, it's usually because she wants the attention she hasn't been getting so she'll get attention that way if she has to. I used to "fall" for the guy whenever he did that but I'm done with guys. Hahaha.

[greeenkiwi]

Well it doesn't really resolve the problem.. it's more like letting it slide for the time being until the pile becomes so high that they eventually do break up and the sweet talking no longer works.

But I think girls usually fall for it for a number of little reasons.
When guys say something sweet, it then causes the girl to feel happy and loved and they start to remember all the sweet times they had together causing her to not want to break up anymore; it's called state dependent memory.
Sometimes girls just say this to bring attention to the guy and make them understand that something is wrong.

[StephyT]

It doesn't resolve any problems.

Women probably just say that because it's a good enough excuse to stay with their significant other. They like feeling needed, wanted, loved, etc. Even though they know that they're in a bad relationship, they just become dependent on being in some kind of relationship.

[juicejuice]

Yeah, one of my closest friend is in a relationship like that ...she has been verbally abusive for years.... she just could stand up for herself. She completely lost her true self and back bone. She feels that she doesn't deserve better or she feels that this is the best she can find...

Every time he did something bad, he would take her on a vacation or buy her stuff to make up for it. Every time is like he is buying his way of out it. If he doesn't like what the situation is happening, he would take control and take her away from her friend and family every time. And she allows this to happen, it just bugs everyone.

[gkstmdhQk]

My question is, why do you care so much?

Why not?
aren't girls curious as hell too?

[Daylightful]

My question is, why do you care so much?

D'aw.. Isn't it a good thing to care~? Maybe some of the answers here will open the eyes to some girls who read the forums!

[EmpsTreenee]

hahaha anyone try that on me and i'll tell them how fake and undeserving they're being.
being all sweet and promising crap and crying doesnt really make me feel bad. just reassuring me he's a goner.

[sus]

lol
im lik dat too

make sure he changes

u onli fall 4 it cos u dun realli wanna break up

[juicejuice]

Sometimes its not just for girls...guys do that too...maybe because one of the partner did something wrong...or testing the limit >_>

[HelloGorgeous]

Probably the reason why most women in abusive relationship stay.

agreed

[AngelsWhisper]

Well, I guess it depends on the person actually
And when a girl threatens to break up, I don't think she actually wants to break up, just trying to shake the guy up a little that she's being serious. So then the guy gets all mushy, and thats exactly what she wants him to be.

I agree with this all the way. Some girls are suckers for a sweet moment -.- i guess it really depends on the guy.

but it can also be part of the 'test'