[JanxJae]

well as most of us know life's a ***** and so are many people in it.

but i have this friends who's suppose to be one of my best friends. in the back of my mind i know that she backstabbs me when im not there. and when we hang out, its only ok for her to make tease me all she wants but when i do it she gets all offended and moody. fankly ive been putting up with her, bc in the beginning i thought that she was someone who was different than my past friends who i broke away from bc of similar situtations.

am i too passive?? but really i just ignore all her offensive comments and take them as jokes bc i hate fighting with friends


like i don't want to ditch her and all bc there were times that she was there for me and all but i find myself always faking laughs when we are toghether. you shouldn't have to fake being happy when ur with a true friend right

if i leave her i don't really have anyone else to go to bc i got very picky with friends bc a situation like this has happened before.

i kno this whole thing sounds corny as shiz but u kno im in that emo mode where i write dark poems about life....using my own blood (no just kidding but yea)

i just wanna hear wat other people think of my situation.

[moot11]

You are being FAR too passive.

I wouldn't keep friends like this. Life is too good, for it to be drowned out by the noise these type of people produce. Sometimes to make new friends you really need to get rid of the old ones who are holding you down, thus forcing you into a new situation.

Best of luck.

[happiisunshin]

well as most of us know life's a ***** and so are many people in it.

but i have this friends who's suppose to be one of my best friends. in the back of my mind i know that she backstabbs me when im not there. and when we hang out, its only ok for her to make tease me all she wants but when i do it she gets all offended and moody. fankly ive been putting up with her, bc in the beginning i thought that she was someone who was different than my past friends who i broke away from bc of similar situtations.

am i too passive?? but really i just ignore all her offensive comments and take them as jokes bc i hate fighting with friends


like i don't want to ditch her and all bc there were times that she was there for me and all but i find myself always faking laughs when we are toghether. you shouldn't have to fake being happy when ur with a true friend right

if i leave her i don't really have anyone else to go to bc i got very picky with friends bc a situation like this has happened before.

i kno this whole thing sounds corny as shiz but u kno im in that emo mode where i write dark poems about life....using my own blood (no just kidding but yea)

i just wanna hear wat other people think of my situation.

Why are you friends with someone who backstabs you? Someone who makes fun of you? Why are you taking it? You shouldn't take crap like that from no one, especially not from someone who you call a "best friend"... in parenthesis. She makes you feel horrible and the only thing stopping you from breaking away is happy memories, making new friends and yourself.

Honestly, the happy memories were in the past. There are others who, if you take the risk to get to know them, will turn out to be one of the people you can go to when you're feeling blue.

You're better off alone than sticking around with her. No more crap to deal with and I'm sure you'll be fine and make at least one friend. You said a situation like this happened before right? So then, you must have been alone for a while until this girl came along.

My two cents: leave the girl but give her a reason why.

[adiavoy]

Welcome to the club! Everyone probably has been through this. Best advice is to leave the girl, don't waste time being unhappy.

[koreanwarrior]

don't take that from her. get mad at her directly, if she tells you that she did talk smack about you behind your back. the end.

[Mannosuke]

if i leave her i don't really have anyone else to go to bc i got very picky with friends bc a situation like this has happened before.

Is this the only reason?

[Aquaflower]

Yeah, I'd leave her. Although it'll get lonely until you find your next friend, that time can be spent on something else, instead of having her be a pinkberry to you. Really - it'll feel refreshing, I'm sure.

[hannieoon]

You are totally being passive. You need to stick up for yourself. I stopped being with my best friend for a little bit because she took me for granted. We stopped talking for awhile and then she contacted me and when I told her that I would be friends with her only if there were some boundaries. And it's been fine so far. Either you can set boundaries in your friendship or you can cut your friendship with her. Good luck!

[korean_boy]

people like this aren't good. i just recently dropped my main circle of friends cause they all are like this.
i had to make a few new friends but it has turned out for the better. they are way more mature than my old circle of high school friends. you should forget about her immediately and get new friends who will treat you like a good friend would

[Regina Rae]

I think you need to stop being so sensitive. If she's a good friend then okay! That's good. A little teasing never hurt anyone. And if she get's angry when you tease her, well oh well. That's just how she is. But is that really enough to make you drop her as a friend?

Granted she may say offensive things, but again, that's just how she is. Obviously she likes you and wants to continue being your friend, or else she would have dropped YOU a long time ago.

Seriously. People give up too easily.

[Kaylme]

i'm so happy that my best friend isn't like ur best friend lol but it just show that ur best friend isn't a very good friend and so wat if u stop hanging out with her so wat if ur gonna be lonely but at least it better than being friend with someone who is a backstabber

[xxsugrrsweetxx]

QUICK FIX: get new friends!!!!

[lahverlyx3]

i was in the same situation as you .
i had a friend that always put me down. made fun of me & hit me "jokingly"
to avoid fighting with my friend i always tried to be happy and keep her happy as well.
but last year when i started to talk to other people in class she started getting pissed about how i was using her cause i only talked to her when other people werent there.
(which i think is totally retarded cause she never came to talk to me and i always had to go to her)
she started spreading rumors about me and just told people to stop hanging out with me

to avoid all this and future drama, just leave her and make new friends

[Christinaisweird]

I would rather be friendless then with someone who's going to hurt me. I mean you probably have other acquaintances that you can hang out with.

[mashimaro_is_luff]

there is nothing picky about wanting friends that dont talk mini cooperz about u
if thats how she treat a friend, she doesnt deserve one
and so are you, you dont deserve someone like her,

[cherri82crystal]

the poem writing thing=unnecessary info >_>; lol
anyways...well why don't you tell her when you're teasing her, 'gee i'm just teasing you like how you tease me,,,no offense'

[<3 Kim]

Sooner or later you'll probably end up ditching her. I was in kind of the same situation. Knew someone who was nice in person but a pinkberry online, would post stuff about her "friends" and diss them. Ditch her and hang out with new friends

[Tiramisu.]

If I were you, I would leave her straight away. I just hate backstabbers.
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Since you're not really happy with her, why waste your time?

[LennyRin]

if i had a friend like that, they wouldnt even be considered a friend anymore.. friends dont do that to you.. trust me.. my past roommate was like that.. whenever we were around people she would talk about me and make fun of me but when i did it to her she would get moody and offended.. so i stopped.. i stopped hanging out with her when people were around..we had classes together and i always had to fake laughs at what she said.. we got busy due to classes and what not and i stopped hanging out with her.. i was mainly on my own but you know what, eventually you meet new people.. no matter how picky you are with firends... cuz i must say that i too am very picky when it comes to friends and people i hang out with.. after about a month or so she was on msn and she started chatting with me .. and it finally hit me how much of a b*tch she was when we had this convo:
her: "you're not being a good friend"
me: "why?"
her: "you never tell me anything anymore"
me: "like what?"
her: "like, your secrets or things you do."
me: "am i supposed to? i dont tell my friends everything.. and if they respected me as a friend in return they wouldnt pry into my personal life if i didnt want to share it with them..

i hated her.. i truly did.. we ended up being roommates after that because rent was cheaper with two people.. but i never talked to her, never smiled or was nice to her, there was no point.. i just got fed up of how she was.. *sigh.. anywho.. wow i talk about myself alot XD.. but.. with your situation.. you could either do what i did and ignore her for a bit.. trust me you will eventually find new friends.. and its not the end of the world to not have friends.. one or two close ones is enough.. and they will stick with you through thick or thin.. from experience, trust me =]

ps. if this person was truly a good friend, you wouldnt be writing about them on soompi or any other online place.. for me, i dont write about my good friends.. unless its something good.. i dont complain about them, nothing.. because there is no need to.. they truly are good friends.. ;]

[Envious-Sleep]

I think sometimes people don't realize what they're doing, and it's too quick to say that just because it's alright for her to diss other people but not alright when people diss her, then she's a bad person.

We're all hypocrites no matter how much we try not to be.

Sometimes people don't realize that what they meant as a joke could be offensive to someone else.
Actually, most of the time people don't realize that.
I'm a sarcastic person, so sometimes I come off as rude.
But seriously, I wouldn't know whether or not I pissed someone off if they don't tell me.

For all you know, she could be feeling absolutely guilty, if she knew how you felt.

So tell her about. If she blows up at you, gets offended, is in denial, etc, then she's not worth it. But a good friend would think about it and at least try not to hurt you.

Really, it isn't fair that you have to keep baring insults, but it would also suck if you just ditched her, especially without giving her a chance, because she can turn out to be a really good friend.