[Bro Noah]

So recently my gf (now ex) has admitted to cheated on me and had sex with her ex Three days ago. When she told me this, i was destroyed quickly dumped her and got rid of all contacts with her. Now she wants to get back 2gether. All day she has been crying over the phone and sending txt trying to get back 2gether. Should i take her back? She claims it was a mistake and she let her emotions control her. She even told me while she was having sex, she thought of me and broken down crying in the middle of it and stopped. I dont know wat to do. We've been goimg out for 3 months and this has been the most serious relation i've been in. Should the fact that she told me and didnt lead me on mean anything?

I want to leave her for what she did but she wants me to take her back but i can't imagine taking a girl who makes that kind of stupid mistake

Don't know what to do.

[dymsumboi]

she obviously still has feelings for her ex.
even if you two still go out and she promises to be loyal to you, that incident will be one hell of a thorn in your relationship.
walk away from this mess with some dignity.

[shinji.]

She had sex with her ex which means that she was probably still seeing him during the three months with you. She admitted to it because of guilt?

I would personally not take her back because IMO, she still has enough feelings for her ex to have sex with him.

[ExpiredRamen]

Walk away.

It's just gonna haunt you and you'll end up breaking up later. Don't waste your time.

[xiam9]

Save yourself and forget her please.

[waysa]

She claims it was a mistake and she let her emotions control her.

Clearly, she still has feelings for her ex or she wouldn't have done that. Unless of course she really wanted to have sex and she let her "emotions" (sexual urges) control her. Nonetheless, it was a stupid choice to make and cheating on that level is just unforgettable and unforgivable. Think about what would be if you were to get back with her ... wouldn't you be wondering what she's doing now (perhaps cheating on you again?). Not saying that she will cheat on you again, but by giving her another chance, you'll just be questioning her whereabouts.

[xreverie]

This was exactly what happened to a pretty close friend of mine and he immediately stopped all contacts with her. She even cried to him, but he just simply ignored it. It's best for you to ignore and forget her. She's being selfish because obviously, she still has feelings for her ex so she's gonna have a few flings every time her "emotions control her", but still wants you to "understand" and be with her no matter what.

Take care =)

[bona fide*]

So recently my gf (now ex) has admitted to cheated on me and had sex with her ex Three days ago.

If she felt so guilty, why did she wait three days to tell you instead of telling you immediately after it happened?

She claims it was a mistake and she let her emotions control her.

Lame excuse. People have sexual urges all the time but most control them. She was being selfish and inconsiderate of your feelings. Although she stopped halfway, if she truly cared for you she wouldn't have acted on those desires in the first place.

Honestly, if I were you, I wouldn't give her a second chance. Not only did she wait too long to confess but she also gave some nonsense reasoning as to why she did it - she doesn't sound trustworthy at all.

[Bro Noah]

Thank you everyone for your great responses. It's over now. I'm glad. Somehow, I keep finding these types of girls.
It sucks but I'll live on.

[juicejuice]

She still have feelings for her ex-boyfriend. You have became the rebound guy. Its best to walk away. Tell her that she still have feelings for her ex-boyfriend and that she isn't ready to start a new relationship. She won't be treating them fairly. Tell her that the trust is broken and it really hurt you and you don't know how to trust her again.

[MangoStar]

The way in which she broke your trust, it'll be tremendously hard to gain it back. Therefore,
I think it would be best for the both of you to just walk away.

[I_Love_Rice]

It's only 3 months, 3 months is NOTHING. If it was a few years, maybe you should think about it. But if she cheated on you, she can do it again. Just leave her. She probably lied about crying, during sex. IF she did feel guilty she shouldn't have done it in the first place.

[jaeka]

So recently my gf (now ex) has admitted to cheated on me and had sex with her ex Three days ago. When she told me this, i was destroyed quickly dumped her and got rid of all contacts with her. Now she wants to get back 2gether. All day she has been crying over the phone and sending txt trying to get back 2gether. Should i take her back? She claims it was a mistake and she let her emotions control her. She even told me while she was having sex, she thought of me and broken down crying in the middle of it and stopped. I dont know wat to do. We've been goimg out for 3 months and this has been the most serious relation i've been in. Should the fact that she told me and didnt lead me on mean anything?

I want to leave her for what she did but she wants me to take her back but i can't imagine taking a girl who makes that kind of stupid mistake

Don't know what to do.

She let her emotions control her?

That rings alarm bells. What emotions? Love, lust, atraction? etc :\ She shouldn't of had them emotions to begin with.

[Cao]

Lmfao. Forget that trick man.

[itrayya]

i think 3 months is still kinda new,
it it was me, i would just leave and not get back with her.

within 3 months, she did that,
what will happen in 2 years if you stay with her?
yah, maybe she is really sorry and it was a mistake,
but it's really up to you if you can deal with it and take it as a mistake.

i would leave if my bf did that to me.
i wouldn't even put myself through more sh*t with him.
it's either yes or no my brotha.

the pain now will save you pain later. right?

GOOD LUCK. it's really up to you regardless of what we all think.
take care.

edit: i just have to say this cause it popped in my head....

DON'T GO CHASING WATERFALLS,
PLEASE STICK TO THE RIVERS AND LAKES THAT YOU'RE USED TO.

she's on the canoe trying to swim upstream? i unno.

dont kill me.

[Blinddd]

Who knows when her feelings may get the best of her again? Then not only would her having sex with her ex come to your mind, but then you would have two incidents to hold over her head.

I wouldn't get back with her, if I were you

[heheimawesome]

honestly, you have a few choices.

you could keep her around, and just let her pleasure you while your searching for someone who you could actually take as a girlfriend. in other words you got played, so play her back.

if u do this and she earnestly tries for months and months to get it back to where it was, and you still like her maybe you can forgive her. thats if she tries REALLY hard.

if she just says "you're different." but doesnt try too hard
then keep searching for the next girlfriend

it will at least teach her a lesson for next time.

[SYNsaish]

I think you should just leave her and keep it that way. Like many have said already, she clearly still has feelings for her ex. Also, since it's only been three months...it's better to just break it off now than wait longer and have it be even more painful.

[strawberrii chuuu]

let her go.
it's going to kill you in the end.

[Grace-san]

Thank you everyone for your great responses. It's over now. I'm glad. Somehow, I keep finding these types of girls.
It sucks but I'll live on.

You did the right thing. You don't want to end up with your heart broken when you could have stopped it before you got way too serious about your relationship. Obviously it's hard but her crying about it afterwards doesn't get rid of what she did. I can't stand cheating because, to be honest, I don't buy any of the excuses made for it. You'll find a genuine girl eventually. I'd advise to not go out with a girl soon after they've ended another relationship (especially after a serious relationship) because a lot of the time I've found that people do this just as a way of 'getting over' their previous partner even if they still have feelings for them.