[InvisibleChingoo]

I've been talking to few friends of mine recently and online dating topic seems to come up. We had our opinions about the topic and wanted to know what you soompiers really think and I wasn't sure if this topic was posted up yet and didn't feel like searching for it =x

How do you guys/girls feel bout online dating/matchmaking sites?

Should dating websites have restrictions on applications? ( example: age, location, background checks, etc.)

And do you think it's a desperate attempt to find a s/o?

Sorry about the questions, I am quite curious.

[VIETboredom]

I wouldn't want to online date but I have a friend who does. She met this guy online who turns out didn't live too far away from her and the relationship seems to be going well for her. I met him a few times too, he seems like a nice guy for her lol.

But yeah... when people are older, sometimes, it's harder to meet people- so some go to the internet and it seems to work for them.

edit: I used to look down on online-dating and online-matchmaking stuff but... well, that was very immature and close-minded of me lol. If it works for someone, good for them.

[MangoStar]

It can be a beneficial if you take it seriously. I met my current boyfriend online, it wasn't a matchmaking site though.

[mextaus.]

I can't imagine myself on a matchmaking website.
But I don't really have a problem with it. My uncle used to go out with so many different girls but with online matchmaking, he found someone he could be with permanently. She's really nice and they are really perfect for each other. So it's good for people that it can work for. It looks like a desperate attempt and for some poeple it is but it's their choice, nothing wrong with that.

[hannieoon]

Online dating isn't taboo anymore.

I think online dating is more for people who don't have the time to get out to social events to try to meet someone. And people in their late 30's defintely don't want to meet the person they're marrying at a club. And it helps to weed out the people without actually having to decline them face to face. And I guess people who are desperate have the option to sign up and find someone because they are so sick of failed relationships etc. But that way of thinking is kind of out (I think.. at least for me it is).

[juicejuice]

One of my co-worker online matchmaking sites, she found herself a great guy and she is now engage. Its just a different way of finding love. If it works for them why not? Its almost as if you were meeting some random person on the street but with profiles that are already available to you within your fingertips, and you making the decision to make that call to ask them out...

[donporkuloin]

I've dated people in person, and I've met people through online circumstances. I've had bad luck both ways.

[Mannosuke]

1: nothing wrong with it.

2: background checks and verification would be nice.

3: desperate? How so? Some people just can't seem to get out there and meet people on their own, so what better way to do it than to get the computer to match you up? Girls especially shouldn't be calling guys desperate for taking the initiative cause they themselves generally aren't going to do it anyways.

[AngelsWhisper]

matchmaking site? -.- i dunno but i can't shake the the thought that it's a high chance that you'll meet creepy desperate people

[aiyan]

How do you guys/girls feel bout online dating/matchmaking sites?
I'm not really against online matchmaking sites, but I wouldn't join one. I have seen it work out in real life though, but only with adults who were too busy with work to meet new people.

Should dating websites have restrictions on applications? ( example: age, location, background checks, etc.)
I don't think so. There will always be fakes. :/

And do you think it's a desperate attempt to find a s/o?
Nah.

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

i know people that it's worked out for and i don't think it's desperate, honestly. o___o
the only thing is that a lot of the people are just in it for the booty, so just be as careful as you would be in real life, namean? ;p
i really dislike people who look down on stuff they haven't tried.

[moot11]

Do it.

It's so much easier to find compatible people than the random crap shoot of bars and clubs.

[rawr_sheila]

How do you guys/girls feel bout online dating/matchmaking sites?

its not safe. there may be people who are actually looking for relationships, but i wouldn't risk it.

Should dating websites have restrictions on applications? ( example: age, location, background checks, etc.)

yeah. some do but people always fake it.

And do you think it's a desperate attempt to find a s/o?

sometimes. you can't find someone in your life so you try to find someone online.

i had a friend find her boyfriend through online chatting. they've been together for a couple of years now.
i myself would not do it.

[brownman90561495]

if you're lucky, you are lucky. if not, you may end up talking to a douchebag/gold digging b1tch.

[AhYee]

I wouldn't encourage any of my friends to do it, but for others, by all means. I mean, there's always that risk of online anything, so as long as there's caution, then I can't stop anyone. I personally wouldn't ever try online dating sites because I grew up thinking I'll always find my S/O myself, but I don't mind it.
I don't think people are desperate if they try an online dating site. Some people are always up for new things, and if meeting someone online and dating them in real is something new for them, they're going to go at it. Does that mean they're desperate? Not really. And like what others have said, some people can't find compatibility with people they already know. So they would like to get to know new friends. Also not very desperate.

[SUKIloo]

You gotta do what you gotta do to find love.

[dorkafied!]

How do you guys/girls feel bout online dating/matchmaking sites?
- I think they're just people looking for loove (:

Should dating websites have restrictions on applications? ( example: age, location, background checks, etc.)
- There should be some restrictions, but there are some people who can just lie about it =/

And do you think it's a desperate attempt to find a s/o?
- I don't think they're being desperate, what if they're to busy to look for love?

[veeveeyan]

Well, for one, I don't think there's anything way too bad about internet dating.
1. You get to know the person on a personal level, not in a physical level (like his looks, etc.)
2. there's really no barrier. You can tell him/her anything you want with no restrictions, the awkwardness isn't there, unless you force feed the awkwardness to the person.

But personally, I wouldn't want to date someone online. Or go to a matchmaking site.
I want to be able to see all the guys around me, get to know them all as friends, and decide. I don't want to limit my options to just some people online.
I'm a very physical person, I base a lot of things on looks (which is ridiculously shallow) but I also want someone with a good personality. But, doesn't everyone?

Dating websites, if they should have restrictions.. well, that really depends on personal preference, right? If you're asian and you want an asian, you don't want the matchmaker site to pair you up with someone of a different ethinicity. (Which contradicts a bit to my first paragraph) but all-in-all, it depends on the individual.
Though, I think they should have background checks, what if you ended up getting paired with someone who's a convicted felon or a child molestor? O=

I don't think it's a desperate attempt.
i mean, people go to speed dating in real life to find their perfect person, right?

[Honey_Babee]

One of my co-worker online matchmaking sites, she found herself a great guy and she is now engage. Its just a different way of finding love. If it works for them why not? Its almost as if you were meeting some random person on the street but with profiles that are already available to you within your fingertips, and you making the decision to make that call to ask them out...

agreed. I think now with the internet so adapted into everyone's life, its no longer a taboo. Although it might still be weird to other ppl, or ppl would think it's 'deperate'. im not sure. ive never tried it. so my feelin about this is neutral, but if it works for other ppl, then good for them.

[xstarBURST]

I met my current boyfriend off an online dating site. Things didn't work out the first time, the guy i dated was bit of a twit...and a fairy boy. The second guy I'm dating, things are working out fine right now. We're both shy people and not very social so it was beneficial for the both of us.

For me i kind of liked it better than meeting a random person off the streets.