[Twiggy]

I haven't had a chance to see the movie yet, but I hear its good. Anyways I've been messaging and texting this guy I've liked for a while and he either never replies or replies but it leaves the conversation over with. And sometimes he starts the conversation like out of no where on facebook and stuff, k I'm not in to playing games so I've just sort of given up. Is there some sort of signal that guys do to let you know they aren't interested. I don't want to waste my time if I the other person doesn't feel the same way, but sometimes its hard to decide whether to give up and move on or keep going. Anything you girls have come up with over the years lol (I wonder if I should see the movie)

It must be karma too because when I'm not interested in a guy I like to leave the conversation over with as well. So lets make this thread unisex!

In a situation where the person who likes you, messages you, talks to you, etc:

Girls: What do you do when you're not interested in a guy?
Guys: What do you do when you're not interested in a girl?

Are there any exceptions to this (playing hard to get, etc) How do you tell?

[tweeti.]

Girl here!

When not interested:
- don't bother replying to texts/IM
- replied to texts/IM with one/two-worded conversation enders ( haha, lol, rofl, okay, hm, meh)

When playing hard to get:
- leaves strategic pauses
- replies texts/IM with substance
- replies right away or less than an hour

[iangel]

I'm interested in what guys would say, lol

as for me,
I just say I gotta go... lol.

[Aimiko]

Girl here. This is what I do:

If I'm not interested:

- *Try* to ignore him
- Don't text him
- Never start a conversation when it comes to msn / irl
- Let the conversation die..harsh and mean, but yea, otherwise they will think that you're interested in them. :| I do that with: "Uh-huh..okay"

Some things that I have read + do when playing hard to get:

- Wait for a little while before I answer his text / at msn. I usually answer them between 20 - 30 minutes when I know that I got a sms from a guy. Sometimes I don't answer at all because I'm out with my friends.
- Ask him a bit of his life, tell a bit of yours (vaguely) and leave him hanging. Usually guys will question you further if they're interested in you? Plus, if you throw all your 'cards' on table, he'll know every tid bits from you and well..then the game won't be that much of a challenge anymore.
- Show him that you're interested, but show him less interest the next time. Guys usually like to 'hunt' on girls that they can't get / out of their league because..they're like hunters? lol.

[iridescent]

I talk to people I'm interested in and not interested in in the same way. Even when it comes to being coy and stuff, sometimes I either forget who I'm talking to (not literally), or feel like doing it anyway because I like to have fun conversations whenever I can.

Regardless of all the "signs" of someone "not being that into you," the only way you can ever really know is to ask -- but even then, not for sure, I guess... asking a person that could scare them off, or they might not know either -- because while a lot of people approach these things the same way, you never know whether the one person you're dealing with is an anomaly or not.

[,astrolicious]

Not interested?
Don't reply to messages/texts
Appear easily annoyed (because I am easily annoyed)
Show no interest in his life/day
Avoid hanging out with lame excuses
Easily distracted when talking to him
Lame responses (oh, lol, k, yeah)
I just pretty much show that I have no interest in him if I'm not interested. Pretty straightforward I hope.

And yes, you should watch the movie

[redranger]

The movie was aight...

If I'm not interested I'd tell him I'm not. Better sooner than later. And I say "thanks though." Hahahahah.

[foreverwith_you]

if a girl doesnt reply to a guy's txts, or phone calls, it's pretty obvious that the girl isnt interested in you.
just recently, my friend received over 20 txt msgs in like 3 days.
He wrote to her the same kind of question,
"hey, pick up your phone"
"txt me back when u get this"
"why wont u reply back?"
"are you there?"
and so on...
&then he called her about 10 times a day.
what a sad, stupid, guy -___-

[mintcracker]

lol ^ creep material definitely.

[KOGEPANN;)]

EDIT: hhmm, even if I'm not interested in the guy, I would still try and befriend him anyway
unless he was trying to flirt with me, maybe then I would then turn a cold shoulder and delay conversations etc.

[gkstmdhQk]

this thread is the saddest thread I have ever saw.
You are all evil

IMO -looking not interested- comes under the category of playing hard to get as well.
Not always, some are really not interested.
But some use it to play hard to get and "test" the guy.

So.......... fail?

Is there some sort of signal that guys do to let you know they aren't interested

I don't want to waste my time if I the other person doesn't feel the same way

I feel that the first one wastes more time compared to the later.
Finding signals are lame.
They vary from people.
Plus, a shy guys signal will be different to a normal guy's.
So IMO you will waste more time if you try to find signals.

just go go go till the end.

[LADDYX3]

IMA GIRL HERE :]

when im not interested :
- i ignore you .. nicely haha
- i wont bother to make an effort to go out of my way to say hi
- i keep the conversation short
- i dont really bother to reply back on aim/myspace/text

[CitrusFlower]

If I'm not into him I'll treat him like a normal friend, no need to avoid him and give him the cold shoulder

[xl0v3juicy]

When a guy that I'm not interested in likes me, I just make it obvious that I'm not interested in him. I give short/one worded answers and I don't put effort into the conversation. This goes for IM and text messages. If he called, I wouldn't pick up. In person, I would act distant and just try to stay away lol.

If he just ignores you completely, and you're always the one who has to start a conversation... then he's not interested. I think if a guy likes a girl, he'll do anything to talk to her... and he probably wouldn't be able to go a couple of days without talking to her.

[phoenix arise]

this thread makes me mad...

i don't know why

[* veenee]

\the movie isnt too good, seen it during an airplane flight..

for signs, see if he talks to other grls. excuses, to avoid seing you. does he look deeply into your eyes? would he be a gentleman when hes around u?

kinda hard to answer since each guy is different. but i have noticed if they are intrested they would try to talk about anything, even if its nonsence or things you have no clue about. we have a lot of winters here.. please dont call it as "the way to get guys" but the sidewalks are covered in ice and its slippery. notice how he catches you when you fall. the ones not "into" wont catch you or laugh.. or gently grab your hand and let go within seconds.or risks his life to protect you and falls down with you >.<

basically its body language. smiles, laughter, communication..


** if i wasnt intrested in a guy, i wouldnt look at him much when i talked. answer in 1 - 3 word responces on msn (you can tell i basically typed an essay here, because im intrested hahaha) if he askes me to go places i make excuses like im busy or lets ask 1,2, and 3 to come along!!.. if all else fails, get a guy friend and do an act. always works

[killjoys]

I don't really "talk" to girls that like me when I don't like them back.

People say I'm an easy guy to talk to because I can generally keep an open mind towards most things...
But if a girl likes me and it comes off too strong and I don't feel the same way, I'd just tend to ignore them or at least try and let them know I'm not really interested.

I would also never purposely talk to them, I don't do mixed signals xD

[kishycathiee]

when i'm not interested in a guy, i don't make an attempt to keep the conversation going, so i try to look 'hella boring' to them and then they'll get uninterested themselves!
& like if it's online, i'll reply with whatever he says with: lol, ok, haha.

it's kind of mean.. i'll be more straightforward next time :'(

[ling_ling]

To show I am un-interested::
~ Tell them ... haha
Usually if they tell me the like me then I would tell them back whether or not I like them
And then after if they keep talking to me I'll just treat them like a normal friend
I used to just ignore them and I kind of make less effort I guess than a normal friend
But I don't just ignore them straight-up ~
They are still human beings and its a bit unfair if you are ignoring someone like that
I've had someone do that to me and its not very nice !!
They do eventually move on ~

----
Playing hard to get on the other hand...
I dont really play hard-to-get ~
I usually do what they do ~ if they start convos, i will too
if they reply late then I will reply late too ~ etc

[HelloGorgeous]

I think that if you know that the person likes you and you are not even the slightest big interested you should make it obvious that you are not interested. It may be harsh but atleast you aren't leading the other person on which would lead to prolonged and further problems and heartbreak.