[lovelyvietgirl]

Looking back into the past, the things that happened between u guys, and you regret everything about it..regret even talking to this person. Lets say that back then, i was naive and didn't know how much a assh0le a guy can be..now u regret it all. Like u can't believe u even went out with this bastard..hes so immature and a jerk. That u wouldn't even admit that you once went out with him. Now, if i ever see him again, i'be like grossed out

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

Don't waste your time hating someone (it shows you still think about him). Invest the time and feelings into someone else.

[Keion]

Looking back into the past, the things that happened between u guys, and you regret everything about it..regret even talking to this person. Lets say that back then, i was naive and didn't know how much a assh0le a guy can be..now u regret it all. Like u can't believe u even went out with this bastard..hes so immature and a jerk. That u wouldn't even admit that you once went out with him.

Sometimes you won't feel satisfied until you do something that you think will satisfy you. I'm sure this person has nasty secrets that you surely have found out from being with him.

Use this information to your advantage, crush his ego and destroy his social life. Hatred from the past is a nasty thing...if you don't do anything about it, it will start to consume pieces of you...little by little. Even if you don't want to take revenge, then I advise you to at least take some form of action.

Be cunning, as long as you are cunning then you need not fear the repercussions.

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

Sometimes you won't feel satisfied until you do something that you think will satisfy you. I'm sure this person has nasty secrets that you surely have found out from being with him.

Use this information to your advantage, crush his ego and destroy his social life. Hatred from the past is a nasty thing...if you don't do anything about it, it will start to consume pieces of you...little by little. Even if you don't want to take revenge, then I advise you to at least take some form of action.

Be cunning, as long as you are cunning then you need not fear the repercussions.

Sorry, but I have to disagree. Revenge is immature and it won't solve anything. It'll just lead to more drama and you'll waste time, effort, and emotions dealing with it.
Seriously, leave the past alone. You live and you learn. Don't bring it back up, learn from it, and move on.

Don't fight fire with fire or else you'll end up burning yourself.

[Rainbow-lotus]

I think being a lil pinkberry about it is just gonna make him happier

invest time on yourself make yourself prettier work out hard and next time u see him

just give a peaceful smirk thats what i did too someone who use to be really mean to me

then i found out next that he was sorry and regret dumping me and asked alot of information about it

BUT too bad.. i found my sweet warm hearted prince~ =D

[Keion]

Sorry, but I have to disagree. Revenge is immature and it won't solve anything. It'll just lead to more drama and you'll waste time, effort, and emotions dealing with it.
Seriously, leave the past alone. You live and you learn. Don't bring it back up, learn from it, and move on.

Don't fight fire with fire or else you'll end up burning yourself.

Revenge is immature? Why? It makes you feel good...so is seeking pleasure immature? All pleasure equals to be the same, they all make you feel good. In this case, revenge isn't immature, it's just risky. It's a risk worth taking if the odds aren't against you. Your cliche sayings do nothing but fail you.

Fighting fire with fire may burn you, but burn yourself enough and you feel no pain and so the fire does not burn you. Pain is a new experience and should be cherished, it makes the pleasure so much more sweeter.

Do what makes you feel good, for without pleasure, what is life? Nothing but misery.

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

Revenge is immature? Why? It makes you feel good...so is seeking pleasure immature? All pleasure equals to be the same, they all make you feel good. In this case, revenge isn't immature, it's just risky. It's a risk worth taking if the odds aren't against you. Your cliche sayings do nothing but fail you.

Fighting fire with fire may burn you, but burn yourself enough and you feel no pain and so the fire does not burn you. Pain is a new experience and should be cherished, it makes the pleasure so much more sweeter.

Do what makes you feel good, for without pleasure, what is life? Nothing but misery.

Wow, I really don't want to get into an argument, but are you masochistic?
The OP came to Soompi for advice and I expressed my opinions, based on my own personal experiences even. I tried to be mature and simply disagreed with what you were trying to tell her. You don't have to be arrogant and announce that my "cliche" sayings fail me.
I'm saying revenge is immature because like I've said, twice even, investing your time into something else will ultimately be better. There has been past Soompi threads about revenge, and many have agreed that you shouldn't stoop to such levels to achieve satisfaction.

To the OP, if you really must follow Keion's advice: "The best revenge is moving on."
To Keion, if you must criticize my "cliche" sayings, go ahead, it doesn't make you look any better.

[thatsnotnice]

yes use revenge, i find that it is the answer to everything for me

[Keion]

Wow, I really don't want to get into an argument, but are you masochistic?
The OP came to Soompi for advice and I expressed my opinions, based on my own personal experiences even. I tried to be mature and simply disagreed with what you were trying to tell her. You don't have to be arrogant and announce that my "cliche" sayings fail me.
I'm saying revenge is immature because like I've said, twice even, investing your time into something else will ultimately be better. There has been past Soompi threads about revenge, and many have agreed that you shouldn't stoop to such levels to achieve satisfaction.

To the OP, if you really must follow Keion's advice: "The best revenge is moving on."
To Keion, if you must criticize my "cliche" sayings, go ahead, it doesn't make you look any better.

If you call it masochistic, then I suppose I am...but you say it as if it is a bad thing, hahaha.

I wasn't ridiculing you or your advice, I was disagreeing with you. All is well between you and I, don't fret. Your cliches did fail you, for they did not prove your point, but merely degrade it. Don' t consider this an insult though.

Investing time into something else isn't necessarly better, it depends of course. All things depend on the person. The OP seems distraught, distraught enough to mention her plight...her hatred. So it may be so bold of me to say that instead of merely investing time into "better" things, perhaps it will be better to invest time in quelling the hatred....and in order to do so, one must act on the hatred. There is a higher meaning to this, but it will take too many paragraphs to explain to you. I'm not insulting your intellect, you are the offspring of our miserable society. It isn't your fault.

Just because people agree on a subject, does not make it true. The fools of the Inquisition agreed to kill based off petty religious faith...Our society sees this act as not only incorrect, but barbaric. Our society sees many disgusting things as truth, in time, we will learn to see things for the higher meaning.

It is all a matter of the mind. If you think something will cure you, it usually will. The OP may think taking revenge will quelle her hatred and it will.

[stellar_star]

I've experienced something similar to your situation where i went out with a guy and he turned out to be a fickle a--hole and hurt me very much.
I still sort of hate him to this day, because feelings are hard to completely fade. However, instead of concentraiting all your energy and thoughts on hating on him, find a way to be better and show that you don't need him, that it's his loss.
I'm pretty much doing the same thing; i've workout during the summer, improved my looks and self-esteem/confidence and when i see him next time, i won't have to feel shameful or anything, instead, he'll be the one missing out.

You should turn your hatred into motivation to improve yourself and to learn from your mistakes: where did you go wrong, why did it happen etc etc so when you encounter antoher guy next time, you'll be more cautious.
You grow from experiences like these, and your regrets will turn into realization.

[babiegurl]

Don't waste your time hating someone (it shows you still think about him). Invest the time and feelings into someone else.

QFT

[Painterlyy]

I don't waste my energy on hating them.
I just ignore them.
Let them go on with their life, and i'll go on with mine.

[phoenix arise]

"In taking revenge, a man is but even with his enemy; but in passing it over, he is superior."

[Keion]

"In taking revenge, a man is but even with his enemy; but in passing it over, he is superior."

Why is man superior for letting an opportunity for revenge slide? The saying is a form of population control.

[lovelyvietgirl]

lol..i dislike this person so much that i want to ask someone to beat him up and ruin his dicky so other girls won't fall for him. (he was so god damn horny, can't believe i even listened to him.) However, i wouldn't do that but i don't mind if one day he does get beat up so bad by someone else (since he always get into fights anyway).

I don't think about him that much at all (i never did it with him, just other stuffs that happened that makes me hate him) If i did lose it to him, i'll probably will kill myself for being such a idiot. (Yes, i'm that weak of a person.) I' am currently going out with another better guy right now..its just that i hated myself for even talking to this assh0le in the first place. I feel embarrassed if i see him or his friends again. He was a loser and i should have had higher standard back then. kk lets move on..

[phoenix arise]

Why is man superior for letting an opportunity for revenge slide? The saying is a form of population control.

if you don't know then don't ask

[azndubz]

Yeah. This one girl. The story is too long, because she's such a pinkberry who causes all kinds of drama -.-

[loveabella♥]

Maybe a girl, but not any guys for me. She tried to ruin my prom and end of senior year - __ -, oh well she's still stuck in high school and I've moved on to better things but I sometimes I think about it and still get infuriated :/

[meimei__KOUSEKI]

yes. this group of people actually. causing a lot of drama over small things.

[sparkerly]

I've experienced something similar to your situation where i went out with a guy and he turned out to be a fickle a--hole and hurt me very much.
I still sort of hate him to this day, because feelings are hard to completely fade. However, instead of concentraiting all your energy and thoughts on hating on him, find a way to be better and show that you don't need him, that it's his loss.
I'm pretty much doing the same thing; i've workout during the summer, improved my looks and self-esteem/confidence and when i see him next time, i won't have to feel shameful or anything, instead, he'll be the one missing out.

You should turn your hatred into motivation to improve yourself and to learn from your mistakes: where did you go wrong, why did it happen etc etc so when you encounter antoher guy next time, you'll be more cautious.
You grow from experiences like these, and your regrets will turn into realization.

Agreed. but then...as time passes by, you just..don't care anymore. At least I did :/

And then you also realize..."WHY DID I SPEND SO MUCH TIME THINKING ABOUT (____)"
And then you move on!