[karina9476]

my ex-boyfriend broke up with me almost 2 months ago. Well..he broke up with me 2 times total in a time span of lets say 5 months now. First time, he came back and tells me he wanted to be with me still and all that n he made a mistake. Then..it happened again, and basically its bc..hes not done having his fun, or hes never got the chance to and he doesn't wanna feel tie down. He kept going on with our relationship because he wanted to make me happy. We went out for 4 and half years. He was also my best friend before that. After the break up, he wanted to be friends, he started to talk to me like nothing happen like what he said "i wanted things to be normal" again..I couldn't handle it and it was just all too much..we have mutual friends..

But..the day after he broke up with me was my older brother's birthday..and his gf knew i was sad and all that n told me to go with her to my brother's karaoke hangout party with his friends. I was quiet the entire time but one guy really caught my attention, well yeah he was cute to me and iono..we didnt really say much to each other that day..but after that..I added him on facebook, and we just started chatting on AIM everyday..in the beginning i thought i liked him..n bc it was a rebound type..but after a while, I realize i kind of like him for him..not as a replacement..in the beginning, he would jus listen to my problems, me yapping about me and my ex..still does till this day, but i dont know what to do with him..i feel scared to tell him i might have feelings for him bc i think im scared to be in a relationship again cuz ive been hurt..or bc iono if he feels the same..he's never had a gf bfore ..and a lot of my friends say that he probably does kind of like me by the way he talks to me and stuff but we all dont know bc we don't know him that well...

My ex, who I really don't want anything to do with anymore, but sometimes i would run into him on campus ..but..i try to avoid him, he's really having the time of his life, he goes out n party drinks meeting grls..a guy i dont evn recognize anymore..but for me..ive always been really faithful and tru to my relationships, i feel that its wrong i might like someone else so soon...

[hannieoon]

Let me congratulate you for finding someone. Honestly... there is no such thing as moving on too fast, especially if things ended badly. I think it's good that you found someone. If things excalate between you and the new boy, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. I would say not to expect too much because it could end up in disappoint. Good luck with your new guy!

[ShawNzYy]

just live your life and do your thing. you have no one else to satisfy but yourself.

[BelovedWhiteWave]

I think it's great that you can move on but your initial instinct about it possibly going too fast is a good one. Things might get more serious over time but don't try to push anything. Get to the point where you can be on campus without having to avoid your ex. Be comfortable in situations and figure out what you really want. Don't be afraid to be on your own for a while. It gives you a chance to determine your preferences without the difficulty of making others happy. Think about yourself for a while and try not to get a boyfriend right away.

You were hurt and you're a little gun-shy. Respect that part of you and relax.

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

Don't let your ex-boyfriend stop you from having fun. It's life; live a little.
It sounds like the new guy is great, so why not give him a chance? Would you rather wait until he stops liking you and come back on Soompi with a new topic about how you missed a chance of a lifetime?

[joxxy]

No it's not too soon.
Don't feel guilty about moving on because your ex was the one who wanted to end things.
And if he's having fun, you're totally entitled to do so as well!
But don't feel like you have to rush into things because you still might be emotionally sensitive.
Just be friends with the guy you're interested for a while and keep yourself busy to totally forget about your ex.
And congrats! Have fun, you deserve it :]

[moot11]

Do whatever you feel comfortable with. Don't let arbitrary and pointless rules of "polite" society get in the way of your happiness.

Best of luck!

[fredinsac]

Why are you even concerned with this? You guys broke up. It's not like he died or something. I completely understand a grace period to mourn someone but you guys are both living and just simply aren't together anymore. Stop worrying about something so trivial and actually concentrate on the guy you like.

[_aesthetic]

From what you wrote, I don't think it's too soon. Your ex seemed to be a real douche towards you and you don't need to be around that. It's great that you found someone else that you genuinely like. Don't hold back and go for it!

[donporkuloin]

Let me congratulate you for finding someone. Honestly... there is no such thing as moving on too fast, especially if things ended badly. I think it's good that you found someone. If things excalate between you and the new boy, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. I would say not to expect too much because it could end up in disappoint. Good luck with your new guy!

[AoiAi]

No, it is definitely NOT too soon. Think of it this way. He's having fun, meeting girls, partying so you shouldn't be moping around. If you really do like someone, then grab the chance and take it, especially since it seems like he likes you too.

[damyoungji]

I don't think it is too soon for you to enter a relationship again. However, if you are not prepared to commit to someone, I suggest that you wait a bit. The worst that can happen is that you are still hurt by your ex-boyfriend and even if you end up with the guy you like now, the pain you went through may make you feel insecure about relationships.

In the end, it is your decision. Maybe if you stop talking to him about your ex-boyfriend, you will feel better =) That way, if you do confess to your current interest, he will not think that you are looking at him as a rebound.

[brownman90561495]

this is totally alright. well you said it yourself, he himself is having the time of his life, drinking and meeting girls. not meaning that you should get even, but you should be enjoying your precious time as well, not mourning over some guy who didn't really die anyway.

Get to the point where you can be on campus without having to avoid your ex.

+1 to the comment above this should be a good standing point, knowing that your ex becomes just another face in the crowd that you just have to pass through, not avoid.