[margaretgoesrawr]

So how do you respond to disrespectful people?

For example: So today, my 'friend' kept throwing paper balls at my food during lunch.. for no reason! Apparently, he threw a paper ball in my drink without me knowing. Then my "friends" started laughing and i was clueless to what was so funny but i knew it was something that had to do with me. they just kept laughing hysterically, them laughing made me feel sad like the feeling you get when youre not invited to a party. Then my sister finally knew why they were laughing. and i just got pissed, told them off and walked away. total disrespect right? maybe im just overreacting but it really hurt me.

Again, how would you respond to disrespectful, doushyy, IMMATURE people? Do you have any stories?

[MangoStar]

I don't have any stories in specific, but I know what you mean. It's totally annoying when people
act this way.

[Mannosuke]

I act immature and do the same thing to them~
High school drama is the best.

[bonjour tristesse.]

I know the same exact way you feel .. I know some people like this. I don't know, when I tried telling them of course they listened but it's not as if they actually followed what I wanted. You should try telling them. Maybe they'll stop their little antics.

[cheesedoodless]

i usually brush them off and just ignore them and walk away.
if they come back trying to talk to me i give cold answers like wow..or ok...
works for me

[Regina Rae]

Sometimes I just flash them a "You're so john teshing dumb" look.

They usually stop after that.

[xxxxxxx]

I ignore them. I look at them with a pissy look or " you're an idiot" look.

recently, me and my sisters were at a shopping center when we passed a group of guys who thought it was fun to joke around and be like " Hey remember me, You're Jessica from myspace" Me and my sister ignored them because 1) we're not jessica 2) we knew that they were shouting nonsense to look cool and funny in front of their group. We were really annoyed . I kept flashing " you're a moron" looks to them. They did that again when we were walking out. I was on verge at yelling to them " get a life, moron" but I didn't because I'll be rude. What they did wasn't exactly rude, but I think its disrespectful.

If I had disrespectful friends, I don't think I would even be their friends.

[l3oosh]

I know what you mean :/ I get picked on a lot within my group of friends throughout middle school, high school, and college. To tell you the truth, it bothered me a LOT in high school and drove me to hide in the library during lunch. But once you make it obvious that you don't tolerate that crap, they'll stop if they're good friends. They'll realize how much it bothers and hurts you, and if they care about you at all, they'll stop. There was once when my friends were picking on me, and while they laughed, I turned around and told them, "That's really rude," and walked away. I heard them calling me back, but I kept walking. It felt powerful for me, and that's when things changed for me. They still make the occasional jab, moreso than with my other friends, but it's tolerable.

Just wondering, though, how long have you been friends with these "friends"?

[Envious-Sleep]

It's REALLY frustrating when people are trying to joke around, and continue even though I tell them to stop in a completely dead serious tone. Because a joke is only a joke if it's funny, right?

Once, we had this "Day of Silence" thing at school to sort of promote anti-homophobia, in which participants pledge to silence in order to recreate the silence many people have to endure because they're afraid of what people think about sexuality. Now, it's not really a big deal for people, and I did break my silence for half of lunch because I know my throat would be hurting if I tried to speak after such a long silence.

But still, it's out of respect. And it's also a test of endurance.

But anyone, I have this one friend (though we're not really close) who apparently was having a whole lot of fun by pissing people off and making them break their silence. I came into the cafeteria for lunch and she grabbed a little cake thing I had alongside my lunch. My lunch wasn't very appetizing so I was really just relying on that little cake to keep me full until dinner, more than 6 hours later. But she grabbed onto it and won't let go and basically crushed the cake no matter how friggen pissed off I looked and was.

In the end the cake was crushed, and looked even worst than my lunch. In short, I ended up with absolutely nothing to eat until dinner. I was absolutely livid, and I was pretty sure i scared her a bit because of that. Though she deserved it =.=

[damyoungji]

You were definitely not overreacting. If I was you, I probably would have taken whatever the 'friend' threw at me and threw it back at him/her, or into his/her food. People who don't know me may think that I am rude or that I don't know how to take a 'joke', but I am sure that my friends wouldn't be surprised (since they know that I won't let them get away in this type of situation).

When it comes to these people, if there is a way to do the same thing back to them (well, something that won't make you look bad or something), I will do it back to them. If it's nothing serious, I will pretend that whatever they did have no affect on me. But if they keep on doing it, they will get it. I have to admit that when people step over the line, I explode =P

[margaretgoesrawr]

I know what you mean :/ I get picked on a lot within my group of friends throughout middle school, high school, and college. To tell you the truth, it bothered me a LOT in high school and drove me to hide in the library during lunch. But once you make it obvious that you don't tolerate that crap, they'll stop if they're good friends. They'll realize how much it bothers and hurts you, and if they care about you at all, they'll stop. There was once when my friends were picking on me, and while they laughed, I turned around and told them, "That's really rude," and walked away. I heard them calling me back, but I kept walking. It felt powerful for me, and that's when things changed for me. They still make the occasional jab, moreso than with my other friends, but it's tolerable.

Just wondering, though, how long have you been friends with these "friends"?

dont yu hate immature people like that? ! ahhhhh grrrr. those people werent a whole group of friends, it was just this dude and 2 other people. The dude thinks hes so funny by hurtin other ppls feelings): . but yeah im currently a junior and yeah i met the dudee freshmen year becus i was new to the school but yeaah normally HE does other immature shietttt but today it just pissed me off man. like idk he thought it was funny throwing paper idk but yeaah it got me more pissed how 2 other people started laughing too and they wouldnt tell me wht was up, it wasnt even funny.but yeahh ill see wht happens since the dudee sits right in front of me first hour. did you ever get new friends? or talk to those mean peoples?

[coolcoke.]

I throw insults. I know, very mature, but I obviously don't have the best temper. One time at school this guy I knew kept going 'Konichiwa' and bowing at me (in a mocking/rude way), so I got pissed off and started throwing out 'john tesh you you stupid moron! Blahblahblah.' And he got scared off. But if it's your friends doing it then just let them know it's not funny and ignore them. I had a 'friend' who always criticized my opinions and even made fun of me for liking such and such. But after I told him 'You're kind remarks are not appreciated' and ignored him, he apologized and stopped making such remarks. I don't know. I wouldn't call them friends.

^ You should've chugged a paperball at his face.

[margaretgoesrawr]

You were definitely not overreacting. If I was you, I probably would have taken whatever the 'friend' threw at me and threw it back at him/her, or into his/her food. People who don't know me may think that I am rude or that I don't know how to take a 'joke', but I am sure that my friends wouldn't be surprised (since they know that I won't let them get away in this type of situation).

When it comes to these people, if there is a way to do the same thing back to them (well, something that won't make you look bad or something), I will do it back to them. If it's nothing serious, I will pretend that whatever they did have no affect on me. But if they keep on doing it, they will get it. I have to admit that when people step over the line, I explode =P

i was so pissed that after i walked away, i was pissed at myself for not puring the water on the dudee, or pushing the water bottle at the guy ( with no cappp on (: ] but yeah i didnt so i regret that, but yeah after school ish, one of the dude who lauged at me was like " ooh margaret are you really mad" and in my head i was like no shiett idiot, but yeah i just said" dont talk to me and flipped him off whilee walking away (: but yeaah i know, i explode too and when i do exploade my guy friends claim that im pmsing which gets me more mad. immaturee foreal

[Tea..]

I know how to handle my temper and suppress my anger when necessary, so .. I guess that's a good thing? lmao. well, I like to think so. because in some situations, it's better to manage your anger than to act recklessly and end up with regrets. if it's something little, I would just ignore them so that they would be the stupid one, whereas I would be the person who's more mature. on the other hand, if it's something outright rude or ridiculous, then I would confront them or something and cut all ties with them (if any). being mature is one thing, but being a push over is another thing. if they're asking for a black eye, then I will give it to them.

imo, what you did was right. they deserved that.. he must've been an immature guy, but no worries. what goes around definitely comes around

[MiizzHyukiie]

i would not have taken that crap.
it annoys me to death when supposed "friends" do that shiet. you didn't overreact.
awhile back my group of friends were talking about asian countries, and one of my friends was from china, so my a$$hole guy friends started calling her a CHINK for fun (they were Caucasian) and doing the asian eyes. my friend started glaring at them and telling them to stop, but they didn't. i told them to STFU and started to swear at them. my last remark was "how would you like it for me to call you white trash repeatedly?" then i left with my friend. yes, very harsh i know, but i was angry as HElL.

[brownman90561495]

i am someone who doesn't get pissed easily over some petty things. i'd just laugh it off, and get even *evil laugh* LOL

but in what happened to you, that was totally immature of them doing that. you just don't mess with FOOD, whether messing at you while you're eating, or messing at your food itself. that's unexcusably rude.