[ha1nex3]

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some of you were right..

they did have feelings for each other..

and to clear one thing up, they never went out, she is not his ex..

i'm not sure what else to say...

thank you for your feedback but i think this is beyond control now.

i'm just going to do what i can.. and hope for the best..

[flyxme.]

when I went through so much just to help them reconcile with each other

as kind as you may be, doing that is like handing him to her
especially when you know he's barely over her

i can kind of understand how you feel and i also know someone like that girl
just confront him about it, if he gets mad at you and possibly wants to break up
then that just says that he puts her before you

[viffaye]

talk to him, like seriously
be sad
i do that
makes him feel bad
then he'll realise

Love the one you’re with – how to know if it’s worth your while to stick around.

Good chemistry is made up of five dimensions, says psychologist Mira Kirshenbaum. When you have all five going, everything clicks. If one dimension is missing, he’s not the one.

1. You feel comfortable with each other and it’s easy to get close.
2. You feel safe in the relationship, physically and emotionally.
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4. You have real affection and passion for each other.
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[samanatha_xyooj]

talk to him....just ask him afew question to start off with....

i have been there and done that...but like i always says...if ya are ment to be then you'll cross path with him again...lol

i advice you that you should always keep your eyes and ears open...because it hurts even more when a friend back stabb you with your boyfriend.....

[HaplessChild]

Tell him to stop talking to her or you're out the door. Ultimatums suck but it is what it is.

I definitely know that they don't have feelings for each other, but it's just that kind of thing, you know? Like he is so afraid to ever upset her or offend her; he takes forever to get back to me sometimes because he's talking with her. She has negatively affected our relationship in so many other ways I can't even begin to list. And he's ALWAYS making excuses for her, always in denial and only wanting to see the "good" sides of her.

That says to me he still has feelings for her.

[juicejuice]

You guys really need to talk about this. If he do put her before you...then you know what it means. Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel. If it bothers you this much and making you feel insecure and unhappy. It will lead to a bitter end. You might as well talk to him and see how things go before torturing yourself to the bitter end.

[sashil]

From what I get out of this- there's something inside of you that doesn't trust your boyfriend whether you want to fully admit it or not.

I've been in the same situation as you where I said "it's not that I don't trust him- I don't trust her"-- in the end, he ended up hooking up with her. It takes two to tango and no matter how much you don't trust her- if you had full faith in him, you wouldn't be worried as you are now. If he cares about you- he can let go of an EX which includes not being friends with her to show that YOU are the one that means the most.

It would be different if you were asking him to choose between his BESTFRIEND and you- however that is not the case and it's absolutely reasonable that you ask him to stay away. Afterall, you are his girlfriend- not her.

If your relationship is this much stress, is it really worth it?

[miraculous!]

wow thats so complicated. kind of want to slap her really hard.
if you and your boyfriend are completely into eachother like you say, then talking with him is the best thing. i hate it when people just say 'talk it out' as a solution to relationship problems, but i think its the best one in this case.
seriously, whats the odds of her sister (and future her) going to the same college as your bf? wowwww.
hope she gets the hell out of your life you and your boyfriend work it out.

[bonjour tristesse.]

This happened to me. I only ended up almost killing the girl in art class, didn't matter that she was 3 years older than me. The first thing you need to do is talk to your boyfriend about this. I never did this to my guy and I regretted it because it did cause us bigger issues through the long run. He should be able to understand and after that, let things fall into places. As for the girl, if she keeps on doing it then talk to her nicely. She's a girl ; hopefully she'll be able to relate to your feelings. If not though then hey, you tried talking to her nicely so let her be.

[des monstres]

it's a problem when he's always standing up for her douchebag behavior. and it's definately a problem when he puts her before you. ~_~ talk to him!

[ritzy!]

doesn't writing all this and re-reading it tells you something??

[seafood]

From what i'm getting it not really her but him. He have a choice to not befriend her even with her BS but he did didn't he? I don't know how you feeling right now but i wouldn't want my s/o putting other girl (or more an ex) first then me. TALK to him , tell him how you really feel about her, If he love you enough he understand & if he don't then that tell you something right? . .

[meiming8_1]

I know what you mean, although maybe less seriously than in your situation. There was a girl my s/o was friends with that really bothered me. They always had lots of private jokes, spent a lot of time together, and she would be quite flirty to him, saying things like, 'I know you miss me' or other stuff. Sometimes they'd even get tagged together on facebook as 'the couple' in those poster pictures. None of us knew each other when we first started school last September, so even when I first started liking him I was always wary of her. It's not that I don't trust either of them, because I know they're just good friends and neither of them would ever do anything together- it's just that the way they acted seemed too close. It was only when my friend brought up that she thought they were also too close made me really uncomfortable so eventually I brought it up with him. If you bring it up to him in a calm way, he should understand, like my boyfriend did. Once I explained it to him, they became less close, and now we're fine.

[yaewoneee]

So far, from what I read (I might be wrong), I think you should straught up tell him what you think because it sounds like HE's the problem although it may be because of the girl. His first reaction would probably be defensive to whatever you say, but if he's YOUR boyfriend, and there are issues, ignorance isn't the best way to go. Ignoring problems that are nagging you is like driving a nail between you guys. Just talk to him quietly and make sure he understands where you are coming from and how the way that she acts and how defensive he is of her is making you frustrated. Truthfully, although you said he was over the girl, from what you said it sounds like he's still hung up on her in a way (not in love, but not exactly simply platonic friends relationship I think).

Stand up for your boyfriend and your feelings. Don't think you're overreacting because you guys are in a relationship TOGETHER. You can't be doing all the work honey. You guys have to help each other, so first help yourself by voicing your thoughts
Hope that helps.

P.S. that ex girlfriend of his is a douche and she deserves to be pinkberryslapped all over If she was coming up on my boyfriend like that, she'd be in the hospital within a week.....but that's just how I'd react. Haha, just kidding.

[Guess001]

Tell your boyfriend what you feel, and if he still can't understand it.....That means he doesn't really love you. Means give him a choice...break up with him no matter how painful it is.