[Pandarah]

Sorry if a topic like this was already made; if so mods please delete.

This has been bugging me for a while now, but I noticed that guys rarely ever approach me unless it's a close friend.
Stuff like this has led me to believe that people don't find me attractive or something...
I was complaining about it to one of my friends the other day and he told me that it's because I intimidate guys.
I don't fully understand what he meant by that.

So now I'm curious, do any of the boys here get intimidated by girls?
And if so; why?

[tinatran_]

it could be that they think you're too pretty? urgh, i don't know, but guys hardly approach me too and i want to know why. =O

[Tuffcore]

How do you want a guy to approach you?

[azn3dvietboy]

^^^
come up to them and strike a conversation!!

[sixth.]

apparently i used to intimidate guys too
so instead of waiting for them to approach me, i go up to them.

[Hιtσмι]

I have this problem also!

Like i heard from my close friends that my first impression of me was that i was "Cold, or tense."
just not the really approachable type and which then latter on find me scary because like when guys see me they say that my eyes seemed to be sooo focused that i don't really care about others around me and i just ignore them.

So try to look more approachable maybe? Or wear a smile or make eye contact with the guy and smile as a greeting?

[brownman90561495]

i have known this particular girl for quite sometime now. she is very pretty and cute (one wouldn't think she looks intimidating, and very smart (she was consistently in the academics honors). her mum told me that in school, she indimidated alot of boys in a regular basis, up to the point that these boys wouldn't even think of sitting on her chair. but i have known her in a different facet of her life. she was kinda sweet to me, we talked alot, and we were obviously comfortable with each other's presence, that eventhough i knew alot of reasons to be intimidated by her, she was still favorably likable.

my take: i think guys generally wouldn't be with someone who would have reasons to "step on" them, if you know what i mean. i personally wouldn't feel comfortable feeling that every single move i make can get frowned upon by this girl. as from the question of your thread title, assess yourself in how intimidating you are, and do that with an open mind. train yourself to talk at least seemingly comfortable to more people than usual. i know this may not be the real you but since you're asking this in this thread, maybe it's worth to change (or at least wear masks for now) some parts in yourself. be an encouraging person. if you can't avoid making criticisms, be sure you make the constructive ones. be more approachable to people.

and, always wear your prettiest smile. you never know, someone may be admiring your smile afar but too intimidated to get closer to you.

[_ATELIER]

pretty people are intimidating, even for me.

so it's prolly cus you're pretty, or u just look like a pinkberry, tho i don't think that's the case.
usually a smile should make a person approachable, show off ur pearly whites ;]

[dorkafied!]

It's either
1) Your uberly uberly preetty, that guys are afraid to approach you.
2) You look like a b*tch
3) Because you are, I guess the correct term is strong? Tough?
Something along those lines. Basically someone that isn't afraid to
tell someone they dislike them or that sort.
4) Or some other reason .__.

That's just my guess though I don't really get approached by guys
either because I intimedate them because of my 'strong' character
Plus because of I have a rather scary boyfriend ... that intimidates
some of my male friends.. -__-

[xkrn4lyfx]

Sorry if a topic like this was already made; if so mods please delete.

This has been bugging me for a while now, but I noticed that guys rarely ever approach me unless it's a close friend.
Stuff like this has led me to believe that people don't find me attractive or something...
I was complaining about it to one of my friends the other day and he told me that it's because I intimidate guys.
I don't fully understand what he meant by that.

So now I'm curious, do any of the boys here get intimidated by girls?
And if so; why?

i get intimidated by certain girls. girls that are just too hot. i can't take the heat and just stay away.

on a serious note, girls that just LOOK serious, i mean i haven't met anyone, ok, met hardly anyone who's really as intimidating as their face/expression/vibe looks or feels, but that doesn't mean the intimidating factor isn't still there.

how to get rid of it? laugh a lot, and look natural at it. unless you're really hot, then there's really no cure. guys just won't approach you because your parents turned the heat on too high when they ordered you from the baby factory

[PineappleBlast]

Try wearing a funny hat.

[Mannosuke]

It doesn't mean anything. They're just making up some excuse cause they don't want to think about it.
Guys aren't approaching you because THEY don't find you attractive, not because GUYS don't find you attractive.

It's like my answer to everything that I don't care about: it's god's will.

[Gofishus]

I have a girl in my major who I intimidates me. This is for several reasons:

1) She's quite an attractive girl, in a major dominated by guys (comp sci)
2) She's incredibly brainy, probably smarter than any guys in comp sci that I know of.
3) She's blunt and insensitive sometimes to people's feelings

Honestly, I can admire her for her strengths but it's mostly her personality and looks that intimidate me. I'm just not used to it I guess and her high achieving really makes me feel inadequate.

[Pandarah]

Hmm, so according to all your replies a girl should just be friendlier? Or take the initiative to get to know other people first.
I guess I'm a pretty shy and serious person unless I'm with my close friends.
I should smile more to people

[Gofishus]

Also, don't punch them in the face and don't jump on top of them like a wild animal.

[bonjour tristesse.]

Then approach them instead. I mean, waiting for them to approach you may sound nice but nothing is ever going to happen if you never initiate the first move which they obviously won't do.