[Rainbow-lotus]

men vote only, girls if you have something to say please feel free to write on the thread just like the guys however i would like the poll freely just for guys too use for us to see.

I read somewhere on soompi that fridget girls, or girls with low desire to have sex (this is obviously means when two ppl are in a serious relationship though) is a turn off for men.


I have a LOW libido... i admit it...i've always been this way even with first boyfriend so its not about me being too busy or anything...
We only do it like once a week (4-6 times a month)


So is it true?
No sexuality in girls is a turn off?
Or you find horny girls more attractive?

When i watch tv i always hear men likes it when women take inishative

[x0ny]

Hmmm, no sexuality is quite a turn off for me. I think sex plays a part in a relationship for me so yea. It's just another intimate activity I'd like to have in a relationship. It also shows that fire, or spark in the relationship. I'm sure there are guys out there who wouldn't mind it if a girl had a low libido. I wouldn't go look for a girl who's super horny specifically but it would be a plus for me. I would just prefer to have a good amount as oppose to no sexual drive at all @_@

[colloquy]

To be honest, to most guys I know... yes. This doesn't mean you have to be a nympho though.

[slimjim]

It is until I realize that a horny girl means she's that way with all the guys she met before me.

[terrorist]

we are all humans, we have all needs and desires.
if the opposite sex doesn't fulfill your needs. it can be a problem.

remember most divorces happen due to sexual differences.

[Tuffcore]

Contrary to popular belief, not all guys are horny. And even the horny ones can't stay horny for life. Studies have shown that men peak in sexual drive between 18 to around 30. Then, their sex drive begins to fade into their 30s and some men develop sexual dysfunction too. Women, on the other hand, are said to have sex peaks from 30 to 40 and that's explained as being their last chance to have babies.

So, if you're a girl and you're still very young, then you shouldn't worry about it. Sex drive is not fixated permanently. It changes as a person ages. Your prime years are still to come.

[delacroix]

Well, I can love/date a girl who wants to abstain before marriage, I have no problem with that.

the problem is that I will prolly end up sleeping with someone I don't love because I'm a guy and thats what guys do - fcuk.

[Rainbow-lotus]

lol i guess its opposite with girls.. guys like horny girls
but for me.. i think its a turn off when guys refuse... lol
i find too horny annoying and disgusting

[Jamila]

I think to most guys it can be sort of a turn off..though with the guys I've dated it seemed as though I was more sexual than they were..

[Lie]

So is it true?
No sexuality in girls is a turn off?
Or you find horny girls more attractive?

The thing about girls who have no sex drive, is that when matched with a guy who has anything but a low sex drive like she does, he's going to have his desire for sex turned down by her periodically (more often than with a girl who does have much of a sex drive, anyhow), and that can begin to make him feel really inadequate. I think on some level, almost every guy wants to know that he gets his girlfriend hot and bothered. There's nothing sexier than the look a girl gives you when she wants you bad, and I think once they've gotten it, a whole lot of guys begin to crave that.

With a girl with little to no sex drive, you may more frequently get, "You're so sweet I love you" looks (which makes us a bit melty on the inside in a good way), but the "I want you so bad right now" looks are either more rare or completely non-existent from this type of girl. A lot of guys need those looks from time to time to make them feel like they've still got it. It makes them feel masculine and powerful, as silly as that sounds.

[derrek]

If there's no sex in the relationship, the one wanting it will look elsewhere

[Irysinon]

Of course it's a turn-off if there's no sexuality in a girl. I mean, it'd be blue ball hell for the guy (might as well become a eunuch). Some needs must be fulfilled. That's not to say that sex is everything in a relationship, but it will sooner or later become one of the essentials in sustaining it. Captain obvious here speaking.

[little mixed girl]

i think that having a low libido and abstaining from sex are 2 different things.

if a guy feels like he must have sex with his gf so badly, then he should be the one wearing the condoms and making sure that his gf isn't going to get pregnant.
i get the feeling that a lot of guys want the sex, but don't want to seriously and actively participate in the planning that goes behind making a baby (ie- asking the girl to be on birth control and leaving it at that).

if a guy breaks up with a girl because she's not having sex with him, that's something wrong with him, imo.

[Rainbow-lotus]

i think that having a low libido and abstaining from sex are 2 different things.

if a guy feels like he must have sex with his gf so badly, then he should be the one wearing the condoms and making sure that his gf isn't going to get pregnant.
i get the feeling that a lot of guys want the sex, but don't want to seriously and actively participate in the planning that goes behind making a baby (ie- asking the girl to be on birth control and leaving it at that).

if a guy breaks up with a girl because she's not having sex with him, that's something wrong with him, imo.

thank you!!!!!

thats exactly it. Im not avoiding sex. We DO have sex its just that i kinda feel like a chore and i think he can see it in my face sometimes. So its kinda like i need ot ACT horny? i might have hormonal imbalance or something but im gonna go buy some pills that help my libido.
But now im going out to clubs and seeing how my friends are and observing others at clubs, at school, and ppl's relationships..
and i can kinda see guys like girls who throw themselves at them... like super flirty and touchy
and i think its the 21st century and guys dont really care about horny girls anymore
i never hear the terms wh0re or sluts in my area cuz those kinds of girls are the ones that are popular
and loved and cute happy-go lucky girls. I just wanted to know if its like their else where.
And honesty.. i sometimes dont know how to be... if i should be all playful too.

im working on it =(

[terrorist]

thank you!!!!!

thats exactly it. Im not avoiding sex. We DO have sex its just that i kinda feel like a chore and i think he can see it in my face sometimes. So its kinda like i need ot ACT horny? i might have hormonal imbalance or something but im gonna go buy some pills that help my libido.
But now im going out to clubs and seeing how my friends are and observing others at clubs, at school, and ppl's relationships..
and i can kinda see guys like girls who throw themselves at them... like super flirty and touchy
and i think its the 21st century and guys dont really care about horny girls anymore
i never hear the terms wh0re or sluts in my area cuz those kinds of girls are the ones that are popular
and loved and cute happy-go lucky girls. I just wanted to know if its like their else where.
And honesty.. i sometimes dont know how to be... if i should be all playful too.

im working on it =(

well you know faking it isn't so bad either.
and 1 extra chore isn't so bad if you love him right?



or are you just feeling down because of low libido... sexual frustration?

[evolution_]

Er, if having sex with your SO feels like a chore then maybe you two aren't doing enough to get you in the proper mood? Like, not enough foreplay leading up the main deal? I mean, sex should be a chore, right?

Personally, I don't think it's wrong to have a low libido, that's just how some people are. But do you have a low libido because you just naturally don't crave sex, or is it because the sex isn't as good as it should be?

[Rainbow-lotus]

Er, if having sex with your SO feels like a chore then maybe you two aren't doing enough to get you in the proper mood? Like, not enough foreplay leading up the main deal? I mean, sex should be a chore, right?

Personally, I don't think it's wrong to have a low libido, that's just how some people are. But do you have a low libido because you just naturally don't crave sex, or is it because the sex isn't as good as it should be?

Like i said on my topic, ive always been like this, even with my other boyfriends. I had boyfriends since i was 14... from 14-23 (im 23) i always had a low libido............

[BlissX]

Some people are not sex-crazed. I personally would rather find a girl who's a bit old fashioned, a bit conservative yet liberal (I guess that would be an independent?), and fun.

I don't get why my guy friends all moan about cuddling, I think it's great. Everyone's different. Then again everyone I know I consider a bit harlot-like. This town I grew up in is opposite to my beliefs, which is probably why I've never had GF nor the desire to get one (until I move out of this city). Dirty and dumb is all I see.

[kpxshininglove]

maybe you just haven't found anyone (your past bfs, bfs now) who tends to your sexual needs/desires/turn ons enough to make you really want it.

i too never had that high of libido till my last relationship (also had relationships from 14 and I'm 22 now)...but with my ex, it sky rocketed then haha. sometimes it's a matter of whether or not the person pays attention enough to things that you like...if all the guy does is put it in you, and go at it and expect you to enjoy it, well, you're probably not going to. some forms of fore play don't work either, but also i don't think if you're not having sex often and when you ARE having sex, you're close minded about it and thinking of it as a chore...then you're not even going to have the right mindset and opportunity to "explore" and really find out what you both can do to erm please each other.

[Cheri.B*]

Yes it is according to my ex.
I am like you in a way.
I feel sex is like a chore too but I did it for him.
I never initiate because I don't crave for it so it made him feel unwanted.
A guy wants to feel hes wanted and good in bed.