[jerseycity]

Regardless, you're asking a very skewed portion of the demographic this question, and it might also help if you explained the type of relationship you're in.

yes the demographics are skewed but i'm pretty sure it is not important to her knowing what the thoughts of a 50 year old man from Prague thinks about women with low-libido. If anything, the skewed answers help this girl because she's probably seeing someone that fits this skewed profile. holla back? good.

[dramaprincessxox]

except most guys, when encountered with a REAL VIRGIN GIRL (the innocent naive kind they talk about wanting), grow impatient about not getting any action and leave.

Only the unserious guys who were just looking for action in the first place. A guy who's ready to settle down does not leave a girl for that reason, he sticks around and marries her.

[Rainbow-lotus]

^lols omg nice signature

anyways someone said "if your bf isn't complaining about it.. then why r u?"

your absolutely right... i had a talk with my bf and he saif he rather me be this way instead of horny and stuff.

Cuz in my head i always thought i wonder if im horny would our relationship be better, u know? like better then "just good"

ughh i think its just my bf is too sweet, we live together and its always like "hi...hun... *pokes*" and im like "im tired not tonight.."
and then he says "ohh okay..*rolls over* then give me a back massage?" then i... *poke poke poke*

ohh and its not my bf, its me.. my friend ask me a really funny question to which answers it.. "well do u masterbate alot" and u know how ppl masterbate its just a natural thing?
I actually REALLY DONT. I think in my entire life, i done that 4 times. I cant remember the last time i wanted to touch myself?
*sigh*
i need pills..

[mintcracker]

^ aw that's so sweet. You got yourself a keeper =)

no need to worry then, if your boyfriend likes you just the way you are.

[kissez*]

^lols omg nice signature

anyways someone said "if your bf isn't complaining about it.. then why r u?"

your absolutely right... i had a talk with my bf and he saif he rather me be this way instead of horny and stuff.

Cuz in my head i always thought i wonder if im horny would our relationship be better, u know? like better then "just good"

ughh i think its just my bf is too sweet, we live together and its always like "hi...hun... *pokes*" and im like "im tired not tonight.."
and then he says "ohh okay..*rolls over* then give me a back massage?" then i... *poke poke poke*

ohh and its not my bf, its me.. my friend ask me a really funny question to which answers it.. "well do u masterbate alot" and u know how ppl masterbate its just a natural thing?
I actually REALLY DONT. I think in my entire life, i done that 4 times. I cant remember the last time i wanted to touch myself?
*sigh*
i need pills..

Lol, what is he poking you with...?

Jesus Christ, you've only masturbated 4 times? Swear on your life?

[mintcracker]

^ I would bet some ppl I know haven't ever masturbated before lol. It's not that unusual.

[xevitadorax]

I am turned off by a guy who has low libido. I want a horny boy, but a boy that is only horny for ME because well... I am insatiable xD and passionate.

I really feel bad for girls with low sexual drive. Because orgasms and sex feel so wonderful ... and I don't mean casual sex, i mean in a relationship with the person you love I think it's a wonderful experience to desire them in that way and feel desired in return.

Also it might be the man doesn't know what he's doing. He has to please you! If he doesn't know how to please and make you feel good or just simply DOESN'T CARE then of course sex is going to feel like a chore. If a man doesn't give (if you know what i mean) more than take in bed, even I would feel sex is a boring and dreaded chore!.

[HakuTheDog]

we are all humans, we have all needs and desires.
if the opposite sex doesn't fulfill your needs. it can be a problem.

remember most divorces happen due to sexual differences.

This is full of truth. It may sound like guys are only with girls for sex, but that's not the case. Don't get me wrong, there are some guys who do just want sex and that's it (simply). But if a person in the relationship (guy or girl) doesn't feel that their partner desires them, they would seek it somewhere else.

^lols omg nice signature

anyways someone said "if your bf isn't complaining about it.. then why r u?"

your absolutely right... i had a talk with my bf and he saif he rather me be this way instead of horny and stuff.

Cuz in my head i always thought i wonder if im horny would our relationship be better, u know? like better then "just good"

ughh i think its just my bf is too sweet, we live together and its always like "hi...hun... *pokes*" and im like "im tired not tonight.."
and then he says "ohh okay..*rolls over* then give me a back massage?" then i... *poke poke poke*

ohh and its not my bf, its me.. my friend ask me a really funny question to which answers it.. "well do u masterbate alot" and u know how ppl masterbate its just a natural thing?
I actually REALLY DONT. I think in my entire life, i done that 4 times. I cant remember the last time i wanted to touch myself?
*sigh*
i need pills..

Sounds like he's waiting for you to make the move or he's nervous (if it's his/yalls first time). And if you have a low libido, maybe he feels he is pressuring you to sleep with him so he doesn't want to force it upon you.

[kissez*]

^ I would bet some ppl I know haven't ever masturbated before lol. It's not that unusual.

Are they in their early to mid 20's?
If so then yes, that's very unusual to me.

[Nvy_hearts]

I am a female and currenly in my twenty's and I've always had a low libido, which didn't bother me at all since I wasn't attracted to the men. Then about a year and half, I met my current BF and being with him makes me horny as hell so I think that it's a matter of how attracted you are to the person. I've never really been attracted to my ex's in the past and so the desire to "do-it" just wasn't there and now it's totally the opposite.

[SongBird]

Where is the "maybe" option ? LOL

Hmm... this one is tough. I wouldn't say that I want it all the time. But if I don't get it at all or like once a month- it kind of throws me off. I would feel insecure as in, "am I not attractive to her?" or "am I really bad that she doesn't want it at all."

But in a relationship, I like to be open and honest so if she says that she just doesn't want it and it isn't because of me- then I would understand or try really hard to understand. There has to be other things that I love about her and like to do with her for me to want to be in a relationship with her in the first place so sex doesn't mean everything. It's nice to have, but workable if I don't have it.

[little mixed girl]

Are they in their early to mid 20's?
If so then yes, that's very unusual to me.

i don't think it's all that unusual.
not everyone is into or thinks about touching themselves.

honestly, it wasn't that long ago that i learned how girls are able to do that.

some people spend time and have interest in human body things, and others don't.

[mintcracker]

well those ppl aren't in their early 20s yet, lol more like 19-20

but some haven't really gotten into the whole dating scene, so guess they are able to hold this urges down? lol

I dunno.

[Temoin la Nuit]

Here's a question for thought:

Would you date (and later perhaps marry) a girl who's perfect in nearly every way, except that she's physically unable to have sex? She's gorgeous, highly intelligent, has a great personality, easily makes friends, is hardworking, loving, and dedicated. She also gets horny. Unfortunately, it hurts her like hell if you place anything larger than a finger down there. In essence: you can't have vaginal sex with her and you'll have to adopt children later on.

1) Would you date/marry such a girl?

2) If you were already dating this girl and later found out that she had the physical condition (supposing neither of you knew beforehand), would you continue dating her?

3) If she were able to cure her condition, but it would take years of therapy, would you wait that long?

There's a fairly intuitive solution to this that won't take years of therapy, no?

[jellotime91]

^lols omg nice signature

anyways someone said "if your bf isn't complaining about it.. then why r u?"

your absolutely right... i had a talk with my bf and he saif he rather me be this way instead of horny and stuff.

Cuz in my head i always thought i wonder if im horny would our relationship be better, u know? like better then "just good"

ughh i think its just my bf is too sweet, we live together and its always like "hi...hun... *pokes*" and im like "im tired not tonight.."
and then he says "ohh okay..*rolls over* then give me a back massage?" then i... *poke poke poke*

ohh and its not my bf, its me.. my friend ask me a really funny question to which answers it.. "well do u masterbate alot" and u know how ppl masterbate its just a natural thing?
I actually REALLY DONT. I think in my entire life, i done that 4 times. I cant remember the last time i wanted to touch myself?
*sigh*
i need pills..

Maybe I am just naive but most of the girls I know, I'm pretty sure they do not masturbate at all.. Maybe i should start a thread asking that @_@...

[nanshi]

I've wondered about this too, because my friend posed a question.

If you met the girl of your dreams -- like she was "the one" -- and she was really really strict about NOT having pre-marital sex (like apparently Adriana Lima, the really really hot Victoria's Secret model, was)... would you still stay with her?

Almost all of my guy friends said yes. But I've always wondered. Of course, there are stipulations to this hypothetical as well. Like she laid it out clear & openly on the first few dates. It's not like she left you hanging...

I refuse to engage in pre-marital sex for religious reasons and along that note, I also won't date guys who don't agree with me as well, so I'm in a different mindset ... but for those of you males (or even females) that ARE sexually active... what about it? If she/he was the guy/girl of your dreams and perfect in every way (you can't even claim sexual incompatibility because you just don't have sex) ... would you still pursue him/her?

Too off-topic? I hope not...

[Lie]

I refuse to engage in pre-marital sex for religious reasons and along that note, I also won't date guys who don't agree with me as well, so I'm in a different mindset ... but for those of you males (or even females) that ARE sexually active... what about it? If she/he was the guy/girl of your dreams and perfect in every way (you can't even claim sexual incompatibility because you just don't have sex) ... would you still pursue him/her?

I would likely be fine with it if I felt like the girl was the one for me. However, to me the issue is not so much whether a girl is willing to have sex in the short-term (i.e. prior to marriage) so much as whether or not she has a sex drive. If the girl is not willing to have sex before marriage, but she seems to have a decent sex-drive, I would likely be fine with it, because the abstaining from sex would only be an issue prior to marriage. However, if I date a girl and she either: a.) will have sex prior to but very rarely because she has a low sex drive, or b.) doesn't want to have sex prior to marriage primarily because she has no sex drive and wouldn't like to participate in sex anytime soon, I would have to question whether it's a relationship I would want to pursue long term. If I absolutely loved the girl, though, I might be willing to deal with us not having sex. But it would be really, really difficult. I have sexual needs, and having to ignore them for much of the rest of my life would be rough (masturbation is just not a satisfying long-term solution).

[jellotime91]

I think for a lot of guys lack of sexuality in a girl makes them want to pursue her more because then A: you know she is not a slut, and B: guys want things they can't have.

That being said.. I believe waiting until marriage is completely doable and if you really love a person you don't need sex to build a marriage... I also believe that marriage is FOR LIFE and if and when I get married I will NEVER EVER EVER get a divorce..

[evolution_]

I think for a lot of guys lack of sexuality in a girl makes them want to pursue her more because then A: you know she is not a slut, and B: guys want things they can't have.

That being said.. I believe waiting until marriage is completely doable and if you really love a person you don't need sex to build a marriage... I also believe that marriage is FOR LIFE and if and when I get married I will NEVER EVER EVER get a divorce..

Having a high sex drive =/= slut, you know. Just because you crave it doesn't make you easy. =P

[jellotime91]

Having a high sex drive =/= slut, you know. Just because you crave it doesn't make you easy. =P

I know, I said that when a girl has a lower sex drive you "know" she is not a slut. It gives you a much higher level of certainty that she isn't screwing around with lots of guys, which is a big turn off.