[arikashikari]

[*: change of names]

So there's this guy named *Zac and I've been crushing on him recently. I used to like another guy named *Bill, but it lasted for a few days. And then, there's my best friend named *Lilian.

So, like I said, I liked Bill for a few days until Zac became my crush. So while I was chatting with Lilian one day, I wanted to tell her that I like Zac. But, before I got a chance to mention who I liked, she brought it up first. And guess what? Yep, she likes him, too.

I just freaked out a little, and wasn't sure what to do. I've just heard so many stories of friends fighting over guys after they find out that they like the same guy and etc. So, instead of telling her who I really like, I told her I liked Bill, who I used to like.

I didn't think it was a big deal. She usually gets the guy she likes. Plus, I've never been asked out, so I thought it would be better to just go back to my old crush and/or just forget about Zac. But from Friday, things just became more complicated [for me and no one else].

Just when I thought I was over with Zac, I began to like him even more. I keep thinking, daydreaming, and even dreaming about him. It feels like I'm getting obsessed over him or something...

I feel so guilty right now, for lying to my best friend and also for not being able to get over him. But I just can't help liking him, even though I tell myself not to. It feels like I'm holding a burden or something a bit heavy in my heart. I'm hoping this would go away soon, but I don't know whether it would be better to keep it a secret from my best friend or just to tell the truth.

I don't know.

What should I do?

Thanks!

[i_4got]

I didn't think it was a big deal. She usually gets the guy she likes. Plus, I've never been asked out, so I thought it would be better to just go back to my old crush and/or just forget about Zac. But from Friday, things just became more complicated [for me and no one else].

If that's your mindset, then you don't even like this Zac guy enough to even start anything with him. You just sound like you're a bit infatuated with him, which is fine as long as it doesn't consume your daily life.

My advice would be to live life a day at a time, without constantly thinking "Oh, I'm such a bad friend" when you sound like you won't ever try to pursue anything with this Zac guy. After your infatuation dies down a bit, you'll know for sure if you actually like this guy (but I doubt you really do).

[des monstres]

seems like you get over guys quickly.
you're easy to become infatuated with someone.

maybe you should back off.
unless you're totally sure you really like this guy.

or maybe you both should back off.
especially if you value your relationship with each other.

[x infinite]

well, obviously you werent able to "forget about him"
i dont know if this will help or not but this already happened to me two times in the past. hasnt happened lately tho : )
i told my friend that i liked him too and we didnt fight at all.
all we did was talk about him and laugh together about him : D
it was actually quite fun.
but then it depends what your friend is like

i hope this helped
and sorry if it didnt. ><"

alyssa xx

[commedesgarcons]

like the previous posts stated, you should back off and keep your best friend

best friends aren't easy to find, but there are million of guys out there that might be better than "zac"

[lovecarolyn]

from the way you describe things, you wont like zac in a few days and will start liking a mike or john or whoever. so not to worry and dont mention anything unless you plan on taking action.

[Pandiiebear]

like others said, best friends arent that easy to find now a days.
i've been in a simliar situation before and what i hate about this feeling is the the constant feeling of burden and gulit.
maybe in your situation, its just a false alarm or what i call a flower.
it simply means you only feel affectionate when you see that person and not really thinking of him when he's no where in sight. when you see him, he's like sunlight and water, you, the flower, gradually blooms. when he isn't there, you do not bloom.

maybe im wrong. im just judging from what i read.
i dont know if that was helpful though.

if your best friend is truly a best friend and worth keeping, she should understand and not get into a major fight with you. depends on your friend.

[WallaceJiang]

maybe in your situation, its just a false alarm or what i call a flower.
it simply means you only feel affectionate when you see that person and not really thinking of him when he's no where in sight. when you see him, he's like sunlight and water, you, the flower, gradually blooms. when he isn't there, you do not bloom.

^ That is deep, yooooooooooooooooo