[yasmie]

I've heard the phrase "love is friendship set on fire" so I've always thought that your boyfriend starts off as your friend. Some say those types of relationships tend to last.

But then I also think that you should have other friends to confide in, especially when you need to get away from your s/o for space or something.

So what do you think? Should they be your best friend? IS your s/o your best friend?

For me, my boyfriend isn't my best friend. He's my boyfriend. Idk how to explain that hahaa XP

[Humilious]

i'd say my boyfriend is my best friend. unfortunately, my past best friend couldn't accept me dating anyone so she just shut me out of her life. but yes, it is important to have other friends to confide in.

[forgottenmemories]

Well, my boyfriend didn't even start out as my friend. He was an acquaintance... we were on our way towards friendship but he decided to ask me out after a couple months of knowing each other. And because I liked him at the time also, I said yes. But now, I can say he's one of my best friends. I tell him everything and vise versa.

[bonjour tristesse.]

A close friend, yes. A best friend no.

If you guys ever part ways, so would your friendship.

[heleNx3kimchi]

He could be, but he doesn't have to be.

[delightful123]

Mm... I feel like your boyfriend should be your best friend... doesn't it just naturally happen? Isn't he the one you end up calling first when something bad or something good happens to you? Isn't he usually the one you want to talk to when something comes up (unless it was something with him haha)? I don't know, but for me, my boyfriend is my best friend (at least my best guy friend).

[muffinx3]

mandoo*, that's not necessarily true. In most circumstances it is, but there's still some cases where breaking up doesn't change much except that those two people aren't in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship anymore.

I agree with Heidelightful.

I would say that my boyfriend is definitely my best friend! I tell him everything, he tells me everything. He knows everything about me and I know everything about him. I trust him and he's always there for me. I'm also his best friend. :] So it's pretty mutual.

Sad to say that during my Senior year of high school, I found out that my "best friend" was actually a b*tch.

[joie.de.vivre]

my boyfriend is my best friend, and i like it that way ^-^
this way, i have someone who won't judge me when i have to vent or cry and who won't betray me when i have to tell a secret or something.
having other best friends is good too~ i would be quite happy with that too~ it's just that i have superhigh standards for people, and it takes a little too long and i trust too few people to call them my best friends and something more than "good friends"

[peppermintsugar]

While I probably trust and feel more comfortable with my boyfriend, when I think of my best friends, I think of two people -- not my boyfriend. It's separate, but kind of the same, too.

[iridescent]

I think yes -- any guy I'm going to be that close with is going to get more of me than just about anyone else -- but what's hard is that they kind of end up being a conditional best friend. If you're with them forever they'll be your best friend forever, but it's not likely that they'll want to be as close platonically if things fail, especially if you're the one to break things off. Whether you both try to stay close or not isn't even the issue because it won't be the same.

So I definitely agree that they shouldn't be the only close friend you have.

[Somaek]

to me... S/O's are a different catergory to friends.
S/O's can come and go but your friends are always there...
so no i dont think they should be compared as a best friend
UNLESS you guys were actually best friends before you started dating.. thats different

[<3 Kim]

I wouldn't call him my best friend. We were close friends before we went out but I wouldn't call him a best friend.

[veeveeyan]

It's hard to say, to be honest.
My ex and I were pretty close, but before we were going out, we liked each other for about 3 months (before I agreed to go out with him) and I think it was the only reason that we became so close, because we both liked each other. But while we were going out, I ended up seeing him as my best friend as well as my boyfriend.
I think it's good that in a relationship, you should be close, but you shouldn't pour out every single little thing to him - you have girlfriends for that~

[Regina Rae]

I'm sure it wouldn't hurt.

[MaliceInWonderlandx]

for me, yes. he has to be my best friend. i have a best female friend too. he's the closest human to me and i think that pretty much defines 'best friend'

[retro!blue]

Nope. Dating your best friend could potentially be a huge mistake if no handled properly. When you think about it.. it should make a relationship stronger since you were best friends to begin with anyway, but if the relationship fails.. the friendship fails. There is absolutely almost no chance you could go from being in a relationship back to being best friends again.. if you ever decide to date her/him.. sure, say hello to your new girlfriend/boyfriend.. but be prepared to say goodbye to your bestfriend forever. Just a warning for y'all.

[xrhapsody]

SHOULD they be? No.
But my boyfriend is my biffle and he says that I'm his. We were friends for 2 years before we started dating and now it's been almost 2 years of dating

We have other best friends too but we're numero uno!

[AhYee]

No, they don't have to be, but for me I would prefer them to be.
Of course I'd have other friends on the side, but to have my SO as my best friend would be totally awesome!

[JJ no Baka]

My ex-boyfriend is my best friend. He still is now despite the fact we broke up.

[zandyshu]

my bf was my best friend for years before we got together.. i think it's a good thing. at least for me, having your bf be your bf puts your relationship on a whole different level. you're love in more ways than one. and, you'd know that as your best friend, it'd be harder for him to do something that'll hurt you. at least...that's what it is for me. but yes, there is that chance of you losing your friendship with him if you were to break up. but if you loved each other enough as friends, you'd stay friends because you wouldn't be able to bear losing him/her as a friend! ok maybe i'm too naive or idealistic. haha but thats just what i feel