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[donporkuloin]

Yea. This is a serious problem. You're not being too clingy. You answered your own questions. He's losing interest in the relationship. Either he's gonna break up with you because he's tired of the relationship, or you're gonna break up with him because you're tired of being mistreated. You're right in the fact that communication is important in any relationship. When you get into your next relationship stick with communicating!

[heyitzthatfc]

Did that conversation really happen like that? You sure? Because he is SHAAAAADY. That was on the phone? Naw you need to break up with him... Unless he shows you he still wants you. Talk to him about it the idea of breaking up and just going back to friendship.

[ahjojo]

Giirrll, I feel for you. I was in the same boat as you were.

You're bf is probably bored or tired of the relationship you guys are in. He doesn't feel like trying anymore or pleasing you.
I remember my boyfriend was like that. In the beginning of our relationship he was very romantic and did things for me. But, as time passed by he became bored and uninterested. It was all because I wasn't putting enough effort in the relationship as he wanted. I didn't do a lot of "cute and romantic" things for him. Because I was greedy and I wanted to be spoiled lol.
Maybe you weren't really expressing you're love towards him either. Did you ever just go on in the relationship not really doing anything special for him or showing your love for him because you were making yourself believe he's never going to leave you so you didn't really need to do much in the relationship? Well, you're bf probably just wants more out of you. Like, not necessarily like buying him things or gifts etc. But, like cooking for him or making something for him or maybe just anything simple as a back massage or saying I love you just because.
But, if you don't feel the need to do those things and express how you feel towards him, then maybe it's time for you to move on to better things. You're young and oppurtunities await you. Do things you've never done before. Live your life. Don't confine yourself to your bf and his moody-ness. You deserve to be happy.


Unless he proves to you that he still cares for you and wants to be with you in the long run, just dump him. Don't waste your time. I know it's really hard to leave someone you've been with for over a year, but life is all about moving forward and you always have to tell yourself to not settle for anything. You deserve the best man that can love you with all his heart, understand you, care for you, and not just push you aside like you're nothing to him.

I'm sure you can find someone else in this world. Stay optimistic. Don't doubt yourself and feel like it's all your fault. It's not. You're bf is just d*ck and needs to realize he has someone who really cares about him.


Good luck
I hope this helped haha.

[bonjour tristesse.]

I lost a good amount of friends who didn't approve of my relationship with him

That's a shame. No guy / girl is worth losing your friendship with friends. I agree with donporkuloin@yahoo.com. Obviously you already know how to end your own problem.

[Jamila]

Sounds like how things were with my ex...I was with him for over a year also. Needless to say I broke up with him because I got tired of being not treated as well as I deserved...Now I sit back and wonder why I was with him for so long,,the relationship did alot of damage to me emotionally and mentally..

[I_Love_Rice]

: | happens to me too....... i dont know what to tell you. give him space? you know him best.... just cheer up. things will go back to bright later

[Yeonie.]

You're not being clingy at all.
That's HIS problem, and he's being a jerk, really.
Better to confront him about it. But if he doesn't take it well, then...

[diogie]

i say he is trying to break up with you the easy way (through ignoring you and trigger you to break up with him).

and with these situations, I'd say talk to him, but since you already did that, and nothing change, move to the next step, initiate the break up.

[sensationalreality]

You sound kind of clingy, haha i'm a girl but like come on he needs his space. He is a guy after all and they don't like to talk as much as we do and if there isn't anything important they'd rather just not talk. Of course in the beggining its always like "all that" but have you ever seen your parents act really romantic or whatever? haha maybe they have but like its college! There are other priorities, there are other stuff to worry about than just his girlfriend. Also you don't trust anything that comes out of a guys mouth, half the stuff they say is for show weather its good or bad.

Maybe he's just going through a phase?

edit: its cause they get comfortable with you and they don't think you still need to be treated with all the romance cause he's not trying to win you or anything.

[Shaneira]

if he doesn't want to talk to you, then let him be. let him do it his way for now.
if you do love him and you care for him, try to figure out what might have made hin lose interest in your relationship (if ever that really happened).
coz for example my boyfriend, he said that one of the things he loves so much about me is my independence. it's like i do care for him a lot and i do love him, but when it comes to myself, i don't really need to be taken care of because i can handle myself alone most of the time. it's like, i love and want him, but don't really need him to get by.
don't think back of the times he sweet talked to you and told you romantic stuff, you've been there and it felt great right? but you won't be there forever. keeping a relationship healthy is pure hard work. you gotta compromise and look at both sides. a relationship doesn't involve your happiness alone, but his too. basically you have to think of 2 persons now, and not only about how sad and lonely YOU feel. try and find out what's wrong with him. and if he doesn't respond to your attempts at all, then it's up to you what your next step is going to be. if you love him, try to save it. if it fails, then stick to whichever decision you might end up with, be it leaving him or not.

[visuelz]

Maybe he's acting like that, because you're being too clingy. I know I'd hate it, if my girl was like that. To make this work, you'll need to try to do other things that will please him. And maybe he'll react. To all the people that believe she's being mistreated, a relationship is a two way street. Both people are doing something wrong here. That's why it's not working.

[HaplessChild]

Some people just aren't into talking all the time. There's nothing wrong with being silent. Some people internalize and prefer to keep things to themselves. It's annoying to the outspoken but it's not wrong. It is what it is.

It's been 15 months. You're not in the honeymoon stage anymore. He's probably a bit bored and would like to have his "me-time" back. Give it to him. Getting upset because he's not sweet talking you anymore is really just kind of silly.

[sus]

probs with relationship
all the signs are there...
talk to him... if he dun wanna try in the relationshiop nemroe
then its time to end it

[Lie]

Do you think if I distance myself from him a little he will start showing that he cares more? I don't know anymore. I'm just really confused and hurting right now. Advice, please? Honest advice?

It seems silly, but generally that sort of thing DOES work if he isn't completely tired of the relationship (in which case no matter what you do his interest is gone). If the person feels you're always available, they often begin to feel like your attention means less. Whereas if it's a bit more difficult to get your attention, they often crave it more. It's essentially the reverse of what's happening between you and your boyfriend (i.e. the more you crave his attention, the less he wants to give it to you. The more available your attention seems to be, the less he craves it, and the fewer romantic gestures he's willing to participate in to get it).

[Embla]

I'm afraid I'm being too clingy or needy or whatever. Do you think if I distance myself from him a little he will start showing that he cares more?

That tactic usually does work temporarily but how long do you think you can keep that up? The issue still won't be resolved.

To make this work, you'll need to try to do other things that will please him. And maybe he'll react. To all the people that believe she's being mistreated, a relationship is a two way street. Both people are doing something wrong here. That's why it's not working.

I agree. Have you heard of The Five Love Languages? Perhaps you are not not speaking his love language and he doesn't feel compelled to put forth effort into the relationship.