[damyoungji]

It is only the third day of school and I am sick and tired of one of my fellow classmates.

I met this girl at the orientation and she is quite nice and friendly. The only downside is that she is very dependent .. and she isn't the brightest person around. I'm not a straight A+ student, but let's just say that there are a few times where I feel like banging my head against the desk. She has never failed to not distract me during our lectures since she will ask me to explain what the professor said - even when the professor explained it clearly or more than once. Everyone has their own weaknesses and strengths in school, but I really didn't expect this from someone who has lived in an English speaking country for about 10 years.

For instance, one of my professors was talking about H1N1 today. Even though I was bored out of my mind, I was listening in case she said anything about the course or safety procedures we have to take since we use the school computers. Out of nowhere, I hear, "(My name), what is she talking about?" I told my classmate that the teacher was talking about H1N1 and she goes, "What is H1N1?" I turned in my seat and was like, "Swine Flu". She goes, "S- s- what flu?" I had to repeat "Swine Flu" several times and she goes, "What is that?" I forgot what I said, but it was something like, "You don't know what Swine Flu is?". She goes, "Oh, that. But what about it? It's not that big of a deal, right?" I go, "... Almost every country has at least one person infected with it". End of conversation - Mind you, she is not good in writing and spelling, but this classmate of mines has no problem when it comes to speaking in English.

Another thing that bugs me is that she follows me wherever I go. Even if I sit a seat away from her, she will ask me why I am not sitting next to her. I'm usually not serious, so I will say something along the lines of how I am too lazy to move further in to sit next to her, or that I don't like sitting next to her (in a joking way). So far in every lecture we have together, she sits next to me. I want to avoid her, but I can't because we both get to school early and I don't really feel like sitting around outside the classroom and waiting for it to fill up since I don't like sitting in the middle or back.

For instance, for one of my courses, the lecture starts at 8 AM. I live far away and it takes me approximately 1 hour and 30 minutes to get to school. The professor is trying to split our section into two since there are too many students. If she can, she will make the new section start at 10 AM. The professor told us that she will only accept 15 students in the new section and only those who commute far away or have children should sign up. I obviously signed up and when my classmate saw me doing so, she did the same. I think it was totally unfair, considering how there are some mothers in our section and there are way more people commuting further than she is (it only takes her about 30 minutes to get to school - and by that, it includes the time to get to class).

Another thing that bugs me a lot about her is her jealousy towards me. She is young (a year older than me), but she is already married. When she knows that I am good at something (even the tiniest things like being able to type fast), she will say how I'm so lucky to be born and raised up here.. OR even when I say I want something, she will say how I must be spoiled since I spend so much money. Hello? We just met about a week ago and for one thing (even my friends and family say so), I rarely spend. I simply said that I want a new laptop and there she goes on about how my parents will buy it for me. Heck, I have a part-time job and even though my parents help me out, I don't take it for granted. I'm the type of person who prefers carrying only about 5 bucks with me wherever I go and I compare and shop. Whenever I go out with my friends, they put me in charge of convincing them to stop spending after a certain limit!

Any advice about how to get her to stop following me (she follows me during our breaks, too) will be greatly appreciated. I have talked to my mom about it and she said that I should tell her off. However, it's not going to be easy since we just became friends and not to mention, I am stuck with her for quite awhile since there are only two sections in my program. Help?

[forgottenmemories]

I would just tell her off if she really is that obnoxious. I really don't put up with annoying people, especially someone I just met a week ago. This is college, you don't need to hold anyone's hand. All you need to worry about is yourself, if she doesn't understand the professor and constantly asking you for an explanation during class... she needs to drop out of college.

[bgirlxstylistic]

maybe she secretly likes you.... nvm shes married, ahah.
but i agree w/ what the person above said.

[bonjour tristesse.]

Freshmen in my school is really obnoxious D:
I feel your pain ._.

[5.mystline]

It's only the first few days, ditch her now or else it's going to get harder as the year progresses.

[thesisoflove]

^ Agreed.

Just tell her straight up in her face about how you feel.
I have no idea how she got married..

[xo_sugar_ox]

you should just tell her that she's bothering you and you have no space to yourself..or tell her off if she really wont stop? o.o
maybe you can get her to talk to other people too.

[MangoStar]

Well, put yourself in her shoes. She's a freshman in college. Even for the married folks, that's pretty frightening
and scary. Most people either keep to themselves or attach themselves to people. Instead of being a total b-tch, why
don't you introduce her to other people, show her around school. That way, she'll ween herself off you. Besides, it wouldn't hurt for you to be nice just for a little while.

[AnthonyKkoKko]

if you don't take it off, the more blood that leech is going to suck.

what i'm trying to say is, if you don't get rid of her now, she's going to become more and more and more dependant until it drives you insane and you will eventually crack and explode from everything you've bottled up.

to avoid all this unneccessary stress, i say you tell her to get with the program and to stop bothering you so you can continue with your studies.

she might have some comfort issues with starting college, so make her meet your friends, and so she feels more at home at college and stuff.

sometimes ppl can truly miss what the teacher says, but after the 3rd or 4th time, its time to stop.

good luck!

[damyoungji]

Freshmen in my school is really obnoxious D:
I feel your pain ._.

Agreed! Obnoxious is okay, but too much is not good.

Instead of being a total b-tch, why don't you introduce her to other people, show her around school. That way, she'll ween herself off you. Besides, it wouldn't hurt for you to be nice just for a little while.

Apparently I am a b*tch and rude for being friends with her?
Wow. I'm sure you're the type of person who will do anything for someone you just met.

to avoid all this unneccessary stress, i say you tell her to get with the program and to stop bothering you so you can continue with your studies.

Not only is she distracting my attention in class, but she doesn't give a good impression to the professors.
Out of nowhere, she went, "Can we leave already?!" to me when the entire class was silent. It was totally unnecessary.

[Swtess]

What's so hard about telling her off? You obviously don't like her and breaking it off now will be a lot easier since there are no bonds made. You can't get along with everyone so just have her as an enemy since she's not being beneficial at all and distracting you from school

[naoto]

it's kind of hard to tell someone off because it makes you seem like the rude crazy person, which you are not. Then she will probably hate you and stare at you in class and that's a bit awkward.

Confront her nicely. Tell her "listen we need to talk. I have no problems helping you but sometimes i find it hard to concentrate in class. And I'm not that smart either so I have to listen really carefully to know what's going on. I'm sorry I can't answer everything you need but I want to do well in school."

She will probably get mad regardless. But if you say it nicely and she still gets mad who cares. This person doesn't seem as bad as the moocher I met last year. She is an actual moocher, she talks to people for the sake of getting notes. She has 1300 friends on facebook and most of them are random people she added so she can ask endlessly for homework but when there is nothing to ask she will not speak to you. When the course ended she called me and texted me non stop for help on homework to the point where I couldn't stand it and ignored her messages. I couldn't believe it a woman who uses 1000+ people.

[AWeSomeNeSS]

You should tell her that she'd distracting you and that she should pay more attention to class. If she gets the hint, she'll become less obnoxious, if not... that's when you tell her off. Tell us how it goes.

[Heroine]

It's only the first few days, ditch her now or else it's going to get harder as the year progresses.

took the words right out of my mouth.

[MangoStar]

Apparently I am a b*tch and rude for being friends with her?
Wow. I'm sure you're the type of person who will do anything for someone you just met.

No, you misread my reply. It would be b-itchy of you to curse the girl out and ditch her
after a few days of knowing her. So what I mean was, instead of doing this, go introduce her to other
people, show her around the campus. You totally misunderstood what I said. So before you jump to
a conclusion read the reply thoroughly!!

Is that so hard? It's not going out of your way, it's showing common curtesy.

[Gofishus]

I think the thing that surprised me most about the post is that the girl is married. I love how the OP just brushes off that off so easily and the girl I presume is like 18 or 19. lol...

[BunsoonNAH]

I know what you mean - Ive experienced that before. It's just something about them that pisses me off.

[SHINEjaejoong]

First, confront with her. Nicely.
Tell her about how you get distracted and you need to do well at school yourself and cannot explain to her things all the time. Introduce her to different people so she can bother them instead. If she still doesn't leave you alone, then...
"Get the hell out of my face before I beat you up!" I know it sounds mean and it probably will be hard to say but if you don't do anything, she won't get the message, now would she? No. She will still bother you and she will still think you guys are friends and stuff. I mean, I am one of those annoying people that need explanations and stuff but I know my limits. Just try to break it off nicely but if that doesn't work. Drop the bomb.

[LennyRin]

tell it to her nicely that you dont have time to spend with her etc. and in class you want to focus not answer her questions when she should also be paying attention.. if that doesnt work.. then tell it to her straight out or just ignore her.. i would XP.. but either way.. gluck

[<3StrawberryPocky<3]

You can confront her nicely, or introduce her to some friendly people, too, like MangoStar suggested. Usually if there's someone I want to....get rid of...I call the mafia. Lol. No, I just slowly begin to avoid and ignore the person. I'll rarely respond to their comments on facebook, etc. I'll answer their questions, but in short answers. If they ask, "How was your day?" I'll reply, "Good." If you never say anything further, you'll cut off the conversation there. If she proceeds to ask questions, just continue with short answers where she'll eventually get the picture (if she's able to detect that), or she'll be bored of the lack of conversation. There was this girl I extremely disliked. as well as the rest of the grade, and I used this method. She hardly talks to me now and has found new people to socialize with. I can't guarantee this method will work, but it worked well for me. I'm not the person who is capable of telling a person off, since I can imagine it'd be a bit hurtful. I know it seems harsh, but I thought it'd be better than telling you, "I HATE YOU WITH A BURNING PASSION." Lol. Good luck!! ^^