[exo168]

This didn't happen to me, but I just want some opinions about this since I feel that I strongly disagree with his actions.

I've had this close friend of mine (I'll call him John) that I feel that I can relate to most of the time, so that I can feel sorry for him about certain stuff and sometimes I let him do whatever he wants and talk about whatever he feels that he needs to say. Like I think he's a pretty cool guy overall. He slept at my place one time cuz he really needed to and like if he needed help I was willing to give a helping hand and I think he'd do the same vice versa.

So one time we were talking on msn and he said how he now has a gf and I congratulated him and stuff. He said they weren't going to be official until a few weeks later when school was about to start. I didn't ask for any reasons or anything, but I was pretty happy cuz he was a good friend of mine.

Then on facebook, I saw one of my other friend (let's call him Jack) who WAS in a relationship put up a note that he was backstabbed and how a friend of his (aka John) had been trying to confess to his gf many times in the past but was turned down cuz they were still together and John was willing to wait until their relationship was over for them to get together. Jack never confronted John about the issue cuz he thought it was a meaningless argument and didn't want to ruin their friendship. (Jack also never mentioned any names on his fb note btw).

They've been together for quite some time, I haven't been too close with Jack but we've hung out a few times and he's pretty cool. He mentioned that he talked a few times with his now ex-gf about the issue and she said that she's now found someone that's more caring and will promise her stuff. Jack's been a pretty realistic guy and doens't make actual promises but says "I'll try my best" instead. However, I feel that John's a desperate kinda guy who hasn't been in a relationship ever before and is willing to promise like anything so that he can snatch her away.

Whatever the case, I feel rather pissed cuz he's gone and done an unforgivable act and is dating someone that WAS in a relationship right behind a friend of ours. It's like going against the guy's golden rule: you never date another guy's ex unless he's cool with it. NOT only did he date his ex but he kept trying to steal her away in the past AND could possibly be the whole reason why they broke up.

I just can't understand why the hell would John do such a thing. I still ahven't talked to John yet cuz I just read it, but I'm going to meet up with him tomorrow and now I"m deciding whether I should kick him in the stomach or punch him in the face.

I want to listen to him at the very least but there's never a good reason to be so selfish.

[Wish4Invisibility]

Jack's the one who's supposed to be mad
And you need to clarify the story with both John AND Jack.

And I think that... it's kind of their problem and you aren't really involved... you just read the story from Jack's face book in which Jack never mentioned any names.

[Hot Fire Neko]

It's John's mistake to make, quite frankly. If he's snagged a girl on false promises and sweet talk, there will eventually come a point where she catches on that he's full of it and leaves him.

And Jack's probably better off as well, as if a girl will leave her guy so easily after some promises of grandeur, i'm sure she wasn't the right girl for him.

Doesn't seem like its your problem though, you can hold it against John if you want to, but you have no real place telling him who he should and shouldn't go after aside from a friend's perspective.

[exo168]

i know it's not for me to decide, but it's the PRINCIPLE of it all! i can't even look at him the same way cuz normally we share the same morales and beliefs and he then he goes around and does something immorale... it's so messed up.

[Swtess]

The issue is none of your business. Whether you choose to be friends with him or not is up to you, but you have no right to go and beat the crap out of him cause ultimately its their issue.

[SHINEjaejoong]

Just like Hot_Fire_Neko said, if that girl could leave him so easily then that means they weren't meant to be.
John is pretty much a male b.tch. He obviously doesn't care about Jack as his friend. I guess he's one of those guys, if they want something, they GET it. The girl was a b.tch so in some way it's better for Jack because she got herself convinced so easily just because she was getting promises?! Now that's just low. John is pretty much bribing the damn girl into a relationship with him. Both of them are patetic. If I were you, I would just cut contacts with him. After I beat him up.

PS: I don't see how you guys are saying that it's not his bizz. I mean, he is both their friend so he is involved in this situation. He only cares for his friend and I think that him caring is good. Your friend's busniuss is your busniuss! Okay, maybe not all the time.

[MangoStar]

Hot Fire Neko is right. However, I wouldn't really bother with it other than to just cut contacts with the both of them and
keep rolling.

[mz simmonz]

The fact that you are closer friends to John than Jack kind of puts you in a strange position to get involved in the first place..Jack has not asked you for your help and John is just doing along with his umm girlfriend stealing antics..you have every right to tell him that you don't approve of what he's doing but he also has the right to not listen to you. Handle it how you will, but I don't really see how you can do anything about this..when a friend of yours does something so awful to someone you are not familiar there is not much you can really do...if anything, just don't keep such a close friendship with John anymore b/c who knows? he might end up hurting you one day or someone else in your circle of friends who is really close to you. Backstabbers don't just do it once ya know