[shai]

I'm upset that this guy can just come play around with me and my feelings after seeming serious about being with me...along with that making promises about things which I never even asked for but he promised. Wow I hate these type of guys.

Should I just ignore him or meet one last time for some sort of closure? Is it bad...that I only want the "closure" so I can unleash my anger upon him about everything and make him KNOW that what he did is completely wrong? Usually I'm passive about it and ignore it...but I just want him to feel guilty about it and horrible since he should and doesn't seem like he is. I've never insulted or slapped a guy before but I really feel it inside of me now. Anyone ever done that before to a guy??

[angelixer]

Don't get dramatic when you confront him, because if you do, a player got out of you what he expected to get out of you. State what you feel he did wrong, then let him say something about it. Try to go about it in a calm manner. I'm sure any answer you'll get, will allow you to move on as quickly as possible. You'll feel better about yourself. At least, that worked for me.

EDIT: Were you in a relationship with him?

[Hot Fire Neko]

Ya know...it IS possible that he just lost interest in you over time and that's why he stopped seeming 'serious' about you. It does happen, on both a male and female aspect, and he might still play around with you because he still feels comfortable being friendly or messing around with you like that.

Sure, tell him how you feel about things, but there's definitely no reason to go dramatic angry vent rage on him over it by what you're saying. He may very well be completely unaware that he hurt you whatsoever.

[Kira_Hyuu]

Honestly violence doesn't solve anything - so as much as he sounds like asking for the slap, really you don't have to go that far. The really problem in the relationship is that u've become too passive - you basically just let life go on - when he wrongs you, simply you just thing o he'll fix it next time and just hope.

You need to demand from guys from time to time - it's not out to test their affection/love but it's for them to know that your actually there.

Best idea is to ignore him - once he loses your attention he'll either come crawling back and just depart

[brownman90561495]

EDIT: Were you in a relationship with him?

i echo this question.

[sus]

why avigrate urself seeing him one last time
dont waste ur breath
best way is to show u him is that u dont need him!!

use this as a learning experience

[shai]

We were in a short official relationship until we talked about backing things up & slowing things down since I am moving soon. I'm sure he's aware he did hurt me..all he can do is really TEXT 'sorry' and 'I didn't mean to hurt you' which is really stupid and unmanly

@sus that's what I was doing but all a sudden he contacted me a few days after... which caused all these emotions to resurface. But you're right...ugh most life learned experience ever. I'll just delete him from my life..he's not even enough effort for some sort of closure. I NEED to stick with that...somehow.

[KOGEPANN;)]

Don't even bother wasting your time trying to get some 'closure' out of that guy,
if he had the nerve to play around with your feelings I really doubt he'll feel guilty about it or think much of it if you unleash your anger on him.
some guys just purely like to say things they don't mean and play around too much with girls feelings as if it's nothing, brush it off and move on. Words are getting cheap nowadays.

[junkers]

So why are girls so stupid these days?

[Want2LoveU]

Just do it to let him feel the endless pain =)

[peppermintsugar]

So why are girls so stupid these days?

Same reason your question is stupid.
Just how it is.

[Hot Fire Neko]

Same reason your question is stupid.
Just how it is.

lol, now that there is knowledge.

[mintcracker]

Meh best way is show he didn't affect you at all. That you didn't care.
So best thing is to move on and show you're real happy without him.



That way he'll regret it and want you back lol

[Hot Fire Neko]

Meh best way is show he didn't affect you at all. That you didn't care.
So best thing is to move on and show you're real happy without him.



That way he'll regret it and want you back lol

Sounds more like forced actions and wishful thinking than an actual solution.

[mintcracker]

^ well you're being stupid lol
if she moves on and moves on to better things, she'll be happy. I'm telling her not to dwell on this.



What do you want her to do? Confront him and show him that he did affect her so much?
Jeez good luck with that. I didn't even say for her to get back with him o_O. Just for her to forget him, cos when he comes back wanting her to get back with him, she can turn the other cheek and walk far far away.


That's better than slapping him and shwing him he hurt her.

[Luxirie]

Just forget about the guy & move on.

You trying to comfront him again will just tell him that you still want him & that he played his game perfectly.
These guys will NEVER feel guilty about how they ruin girls' lives.

[Jamila]

Sounds more like forced actions and wishful thinking than an actual solution.

I agree..To original poster..if you think it will help you by meeting with him to find closure..maybe that's what you need to do..In my opinion it's better to get it out compared to holding it all in and acting like you're fine when in fact..you are not. You realise he was not what you were looking for in a guy so find your closure the best way that you can and try to move on and learn from the situation. I'm not sure if you can make him feel guilty if he already doesn't..Hitting him would prob not also be the best option..If you feel you need to talk to him, do that..just talk.. Hope I've helped

[brownman90561495]

Same reason your question is stupid.
Just how it is.

LOL bullseye!

[cavil.]

So why are girls so stupid these days?

He's got a point. No offense to OP.

The girl knows what's up with this situation, but she asking about to all of us like there is some angle that she isn't seeing? I mean, seriously, c'mon. If you know when to give it up, give it up. If not, then do something about it.

[taebins_luver]

my intial reply was 'do it'
but reading*which we should all do*
i say just walk away.
why?
because players never feel guilty, and you can never guilt them either.
it'd be a waste of time to shout and scream your head off,
...unless you're making a public appearance in front of his friends,
but then again, you'd look desperate in front of a crowd...
so no, with my intial instince, just walk away ^__^