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when ur S/O tells u that ur being clingy. or that he/she needs some space...
how do u react?
what do u do?
any stories to share about topic?

[~~:Usagi-Ayumi:~~]

well it happens when people can't get along with you and sometime it hurts when people hear those comments so yeah.

[kg123]

Just stop talking till the person starts a convo again..be cold and if he/she starts to annoy you then tell that you too need some space just to show them how good it is.

[Chi Shen]

I get worried, usually means they`ve fallen out of love~

[taebins_luver]

i cling even harder to annoy

[hannieoon]

I would shrug and give that person as much space they needed. But when people usually want space.. it's usually not a good thing. Just stop contacting him all together and make him wonder what you've been up and stuff. LoL

[Hot Fire Neko]

Indeed. Someone wanting space usually implies they're considering themselves 'smothered' and want to be away from said person for awhile. Potentially falling out of love, potentially interested in someone else.

It's usually a large sign that there's something drastically wrong with the current relationship, so work on finding out the root of the problem before it gets worse if you value it.

[Kanzen]

Indeed. Someone wanting space usually implies they're considering themselves 'smothered' and want to be away from said person for awhile. Potentially falling out of love, potentially interested in someone else.

It's usually a large sign that there's something drastically wrong with the current relationship, so work on finding out the root of the problem before it gets worse if you value it.

This.

However, my SO and I are both aware that we are super dependable on each other and in most people's eyes, "clingy",.. but it's a mutual cling. If it's just one side clinging, there's a problem.

[MangoStar]

Needing space doesn't necessarily mean that your s/o is falling out of love with you. Even in relationships, two people need to be independent and have time for themselves. It's healthy in a relationship. It gives you room to grow and do your own thing. My boyfriend and I are like this. We don't talk to each other for a couple of days. If we have an arguement, we give each other space to breathe and think about it. Then you can come back with a clear head.

It's never healthy to depend on your s/o. It's downright unfair to that person as well. You had a life before your boyfriend/girlfriend, you can have life with a boyfriend/girlfriend. Besides, if you were all your boyfriend's ass all the time, wouldn't you get sick of them after awhile?

[jaeka]

I'd back off and give the man some space. XD I must be smothering him if it's got him to say it! x)

[bonjour tristesse.]

Usually I'm the one that tells my s/o that they're too clingy but of course, I put it in a less harsher way. I did go through this once though with this guy. It ended after our second month just because he always followed me and I felt like I was being suffocated. I don't see him as much in the hallways this year so I'm guessing he moved but either way I never heard from him again.

[yummylolly15]

yeh but don't start a convo or call or wateva. just leave it.

then time will heal everything.

[HaplessChild]

Bf tells me this all the time. We stay away for about a week or so and keep phone calls to a minimum. Let him miss me a bit. It works; it helps.

[MangoStar]

Bf tells me this all the time. We stay away for about a week or so and keep phone calls to a minimum. Let him miss me a bit. It works; it helps.

Hahah, same here. If I don't text, call, e-mail or whatever for a day or two, guaranteed he'll start texting or calling me.
It's amazing what space apart can do.

[Angxizzle]

i tend to be the one saying 'you're too clingy'. idk i really dislike clingy people or people in my kool aid alot, no offense just my preference.

[mz_imperfect]

^ I agree. I've always been the one to say it and never the one to have it said to. If anything, I think my s/o would probably want me to be a little more clingy, but I tend to like my space.

However, when I say it, I usually mean it in the best way possible haha. I'm not trying to say get away from me, it's just I like my space and I don't want to end up resenting them. So basically, just give me time and some space to actually recollect my feelings and know what it is like to MISS you.

[littlethings513]

I've always been the first one to say it..

[MNLV27]

My bf said this a few times to me, I just backed off and he came and said that I wasn't being clingy enough. lol.

[J00NGiEx]

I'm usually the one to say it... It's just me but I tend to get sick of people real easily and I like being alone a lot so a guy who needs to see me every day or talk to me every minute is not my type...

But what some people said are true: usually when I end up having to tell that person to stop being so clingy, it just goes downhill from there.