[lilkrnpucca]

Currently I'm in a 4-year college that is only about a ten minute drive away from my house.
I wanted to go to an instate college about two hours away, but my parents insisted I stay close
by.. since it was cheaper anyway. My boyfriend (who is a senior this year in high school) has just recently decided
that he wants to go to the same college that is a couple of hours away..
[If i knew he was going to go there, I most likely would have started there my freshman year..]

Now I've been thinking a lot about this and I was just wondering what other people may think? because I
wanted to keep this secret..

Should I transfer to the college (this will probably cost more keep in mind) that my boyfriend will be going to next year? One problem that I face is that transfer students won't recieve any scholarships unless they have 45+ credits.. meaning they need to be coming from atleast two years of college classes?

Or should I wait another year to transfer so I can maybe (hopefully) recieve some money aid from the school?

I guess the main question I want answered is: Do you think it's wrong to transfer colleges mainly for a s/o?

[soyabeangirl16]

i kind of think it is.
because one issue is sure to be really important to your future (which college you attend) and the other one, sadly, might not.
but if theyre both good schools and you can think of some other pros, then id say go for it.
just not only make it about a guy.

[xwinnie_lovex]

if youre gonna transfer, dont do it for him
do it for yourself!
go to the school with the better rank, better programs to offer you and help you in your career

[zonkey]

Do you think it's wrong to transfer colleges mainly for a s/o?

Yes, I do think it's wrong. I don't know how your relationship is, but personally I wouldn't do it, because there is always the possibility of breaking up. Then again, I'm happy with my current college so.. I can't really imagine transferring out of here.

I mean if you were already thinking about going there, and you like it better than your current college, then why not. Just make sure you dont have any regrets if the relationship goes sour.. (hopefully that doesnt happen though)

[lilkrnpucca]

i kind of think it is.
because one issue is sure to be really important to your future (which college you attend) and the other one, sadly, might not.
but if theyre both good schools and you can think of some other pros, then id say go for it.
just not only make it about a guy.

Well the thing is.. i'm still in undergrad and most people say that all undergrad is the same, right? The school I want to go to doesn't really have an extensive art department (that's what I want to major in.. but I can't make it into an art school right now), but since it doesn't have a really big art department I was hoping I could get a scholarship from them..

The school I attend now isn't very good.. the art program at the other college must be better I think. Atleast the school in general is better than the one I attend now.

[crazzeedrim]

if you're transferring just for your s/o, i would say no.

but if its a school that you really want to go to for other reasons then i would say go for it. 2 hours isnt that far away from home either. so even if you don't transfer, you would be close enough to see your boyfriend every weekend and make a few day trips if you wanted to.

like soyabeangirl16 said, if you can think of other pros then go for it. just dont make your boyfriend the only reason you would transfer. because if you would happen to break up, why would you want to stay at that school anymore?

[damyoungji]

Transferring for someone you are currently with is definitely not a good idea. Who knows if the two of you will be together forever? I'm not trying to curse your relationship, but if things really don't work out, you will be spending so much on someone else and not yourself. If you do end up applying, it won't be a secret when your parents find out. They actually might get the wrong idea and think that your boyfriend is being a bad influence.

Ask yourself if the program at the other school is TRULY better than the one you are currently ending - leave your boyfriend out of the decision. If it is really better, then talk to your parents about it and find out why it's better. If the program at the other school is not much of a difference, there's really no point of transferring.

[Frozy]

I wouldn't say it's wrong to transfer for someone you are in love with. But definitely not a good idea since you need to look at what the college you want to go to offers and then judge whether it's worth it or not. Merely going there for your BF is just ridiculous.

[jsp]

At the very least, wait a year and get the financial aid. The less debt you accumulate in school, the better off you'll be.

[mintcracker]

Transfer for yourself, not for him.
Depends on how long your relationship has been too, if you've dated him for like three years... it would be more understandable.

[des monstres]

Well the thing is.. i'm still in undergrad and most people say that all undergrad is the same, right? The school I want to go to doesn't really have an extensive art department (that's what I want to major in.. but I can't make it into an art school right now), but since it doesn't have a really big art department I was hoping I could get a scholarship from them..

The school I attend now isn't very good.. the art program at the other college must be better I think. Atleast the school in general is better than the one I attend now.

since the core classes are essentially the same, why would you pay for more for the same thing at a more expensive college just because your s/o is going there?

[ritzy!]

it's not 'wrong' to transfer for a s/o..
i think it's just dumb, especially if you're fine where you are

[,astrolicious]

if youre gonna transfer, dont do it for him
do it for yourself!

Well said! Do what YOU want. Not for him.
I don't want to sound negative because I wish you two the best
but you have to think critically. Make sure you won't REGRET this decision, right?
: ) Good luck with whatever you do

[KanyeWEST]

transferring schools just for your s/o is the dumbest thing ever.

[forgottenmemories]

You have such a high school mind-set. Why would you transfer schools, especially to a more expensive one, just for your significant other? Come on, put your brain in use and think about this. And about the whole art program thing, are you positive that the other school has a better program? Did you try looking into it? Because it seems to me that you're just making up excuses so you can transfer schools to be with him.

Think about what's best for your education first. If it was meant to be between you and your boyfriend, then things will work out the way you want it to.

[JJ no Baka]

Your career starts building up when you enter college. In reality, most cases of relationships, from highschool to college, it doesn't last through college because you and your s/o start having different interests.

My ex made the mistake when he decided to go to the same college as me because he felt like I can't take care of myself and wanted to be there for me. Three months later, we broke up and he withdrawn from the university and is now at a community college. (We were dating for a year and half before things ended)

You should go to the college you want to for your career. I'm pretty sure you can stand two hours away from your s/o. I don't see the problem of why you want to transfer other than you want to be closer to your s/o. I assure you once you two break up, you'll regret the decision of transferring.

[strawberrii chuuu]

don't let a guy do that to you..
this happened to SO many of my friends.
even the whole 'friends transferring for friends' thing is bad...

go where YOU think will help you. career wise.

cause what happens if he breaks up with you? THEN what will you do. pay off all your debts?
don't do it.
try to be more independent.
i mean, he didn't try to go to YOUR school. so why do you have to go out of your way to go to him?

[Kanzen]

Don't do it for your boyfriend unless he puts a ring on your finger and sets a date.

I wouldn't put myself in debt unless I absolutely had no choice.

[junkers]

No. Dont transfer for your s/o you naive girl! look at you two. A 19 years old with a boyfriend that just graduated from highschool?? How long is this relationship gonna last? Prob not long. Youre not mature yet. Just focus on education. Because life is hard down the road. Screw your bf.

[agnuque]

If you transfer only for your S/O, then that's just wrong, especially if you know that the college you are already going to offers the best education that you know. Love can will wait.