My friends currently took something, which I'm not too happy about because there are long term side effects from it. I really want them to stop because I don't want them to be come mentally unstable in the future.
My friend [A] is the main cause of my other friend [B] going on this stuff.
I have another friend [C] also thinks that friend [A] is a bad influence on friend [B]. Friend [C] has also told friend [A] about the consequences of the stuff, but she doesn't seem to care because she LOVES it. I don't understand why she's taking it because she's always happy and laughing. Or maybe she's mentally weak and needs something to make her feel better. I also believe that they should stop smoking. Anyways, that's not the point.
Friend [A] told me that he gathers information before trying stuff, but I'm not sure why he still does it because it can lead to death, memory loss, depression, sleeping problems, and etc. He's already a depressed guy and I guess he wants to escape, but long term effects of being depressed, would probably be hell. He also states that he's having insomnia....so why in the world would you take something that would give you long term side effects that you don't want? I don't understand and I'm not sure what I should do. I really don't want them to destroy their lives.
Even if I told them that taking the stuff will eat away your brain, they won't stop because the it makes you feel happy.
Should I just let them be and let them find out on their own? What should I do?
I'm not really sure if this is against the forum rules, but if it is, I'll take it down. Plzz, don't warn.
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We've been friends for more than 5 years now, we're basically high school best friends, I'd say. We're all in college right now. We always talked about if we're going to grow old together.
-The stuff they use are usually for raves.
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what should I do? need to stop friends from ruining their lives
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Posted 17 September 2009 - 06:02 AM
It's only against the rules if you discuss the personal use of illicit drugs.
Not exactly sure about the specifics of your situation, but you should google a project called "faces of meth". They might also have videos on youtube, from memory.
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Posted 17 September 2009 - 06:35 AM
obviously intervene.. and if that person does not make a change for the better for YOU then 1. that person is not such a good friend 2. you should not hang out with that person
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Posted 17 September 2009 - 08:34 AM
since we're not allowed to talk about personal use, i'll keep this short..
it is an addiction and we all know addictions are hard to quit, especially bad ones. even if your friends don't stop initially, keep trying. they'll see where you're coming from eventually and realise what they're doing is stupid.
it is an addiction and we all know addictions are hard to quit, especially bad ones. even if your friends don't stop initially, keep trying. they'll see where you're coming from eventually and realise what they're doing is stupid.
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Posted 17 September 2009 - 08:55 AM
i'm sure personal experience in the subject would help as long as you're not advocating the use of the drug.
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Posted 17 September 2009 - 11:04 AM
QUOTE (boka @ Sep 17 2009, 09:02 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It's only against the rules if you discuss the personal use of illicit drugs.
Not exactly sure about the specifics of your situation, but you should google a project called "faces of meth". They might also have videos on youtube, from memory.
Not exactly sure about the specifics of your situation, but you should google a project called "faces of meth". They might also have videos on youtube, from memory.
I would freak out if it was meth, but it isn't. Its mostly present at rave parties.
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Posted 17 September 2009 - 04:10 PM
Ecstasy is so popular these days, it's not surprising that your friends have gotten sucked into the craze. Sooner or later, they will stop, don't worry. From what I've seen personally, people go totally crazy over it for the first couple months, but then they will stop because eventually 1) the highs will stop being enjoyable and fun, and will make them cranky instead of euphoric, 2) the comedowns will gradually become worse and they'll realize feeling like absolute crap the next day isn't worth the high.
If you keep doing ecstasy, over time your body won't be able to take it anymore. In the beginning, some people don't experience comedowns at all, but as time goes on, comedowns get worse and worse. Some people will start blacking out, get really dizzy or nauseous , or feel so sick they'll be stuck in bed. It's like a hangover x1000. Most of the time, this is when people will stop doing E lol.
But now, while their highs are still good and everything, I don't think there's much you can do to make them stop. Of course you should encourage them to quit, but it's not likely they'll listen to you lol. The best thing you can do for your friends right now is to be there with them when they're rolling so you can look after them--especially near the end of their high when the drug is wearing off, because that's when they'll start feeling exhausted and their bodies will be weak.
To be honest though, it's not as bad as it seems. I know tons of people who have done it (some who have stopped for years, some who haven't quit yet), and they are still perfectly normal and in good health. They're not depressed, and none suffer from mental conditions lol. And it's not likely that you'll die, unless you take an obscene number of pills at one time or if you mix it with other drugs.
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If you keep doing ecstasy, over time your body won't be able to take it anymore. In the beginning, some people don't experience comedowns at all, but as time goes on, comedowns get worse and worse. Some people will start blacking out, get really dizzy or nauseous , or feel so sick they'll be stuck in bed. It's like a hangover x1000. Most of the time, this is when people will stop doing E lol.
But now, while their highs are still good and everything, I don't think there's much you can do to make them stop. Of course you should encourage them to quit, but it's not likely they'll listen to you lol. The best thing you can do for your friends right now is to be there with them when they're rolling so you can look after them--especially near the end of their high when the drug is wearing off, because that's when they'll start feeling exhausted and their bodies will be weak.
To be honest though, it's not as bad as it seems. I know tons of people who have done it (some who have stopped for years, some who haven't quit yet), and they are still perfectly normal and in good health. They're not depressed, and none suffer from mental conditions lol. And it's not likely that you'll die, unless you take an obscene number of pills at one time or if you mix it with other drugs.
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Posted 17 September 2009 - 11:51 PM
^ For some reason what you said made me feel a bit better, but I'm wondering at the same time.
When you said:
Isn't that telling you that your body has gone through changes from E, and long term side effects would come about?
I grabbed this from a website:
I just really really hope that they grow out of it. I'm angry because they're so naive.
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1)Some people will start blacking out, get really dizzy or nauseous , or feel so sick they'll be stuck in bed. It's like a hangover x1000.
Isn't that telling you that your body has gone through changes from E, and long term side effects would come about?
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Repeated use of Ecstasy ultimately may damage the cells that produce serotonin, which has an important role in the regulation of mood, appetite, pain, learning and memory. There already is research suggesting Ecstasy use can disrupt or interfere with memory.
I just really really hope that they grow out of it. I'm angry because they're so naive.
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Posted 18 September 2009 - 03:41 AM
ionno, ecstasy doesn't seem that bad of a drug, i've seen some of my friend's take it along with... another illegal drug and they were fine
i don't know how you personally can get them to stop. just like i cannot even think of telling any of my friends to stop smoking, drinking, or taking drugs, i just don't think there's anything you can do to influence their mind to stop. all i can do is know that they won't get "addicted" to the drugs and will eventually quit... so i hope they won't OD
well, maybe it's not that i can't think of asking them to stop, i just don't think it's my place to stop them or even suggest it. it is their own body. drugs are unhealthy. but so is fast food and i don't even consider telling my fat friends to put that double beef patty chillicheese burger down. it'll cause many complications later in life and may even result in early death but it's just not my place to say "you're fat, you need to stop eating." and just like that i just can't say "you're high, you need to stop doing drugs."
there's plenty of help out there once you decide to quit doing drugs... but that "you" means the person actually doing the drugs. unless your friends mentally think that they need to stop, you don't really belong in that part of their life. once they decide to quit, then you can swoop in and help them as much as possible but before that... well it's all my personal opinion anyhow. there are lots of friends who have stepped in and got their friends to stop doing drugs, but because there's an even greater volume of friends who stepped in to stop their friends from doing drugs... and they're no longer friends. i just don't want to become part of the latter group.
i don't know how you personally can get them to stop. just like i cannot even think of telling any of my friends to stop smoking, drinking, or taking drugs, i just don't think there's anything you can do to influence their mind to stop. all i can do is know that they won't get "addicted" to the drugs and will eventually quit... so i hope they won't OD
well, maybe it's not that i can't think of asking them to stop, i just don't think it's my place to stop them or even suggest it. it is their own body. drugs are unhealthy. but so is fast food and i don't even consider telling my fat friends to put that double beef patty chillicheese burger down. it'll cause many complications later in life and may even result in early death but it's just not my place to say "you're fat, you need to stop eating." and just like that i just can't say "you're high, you need to stop doing drugs."
there's plenty of help out there once you decide to quit doing drugs... but that "you" means the person actually doing the drugs. unless your friends mentally think that they need to stop, you don't really belong in that part of their life. once they decide to quit, then you can swoop in and help them as much as possible but before that... well it's all my personal opinion anyhow. there are lots of friends who have stepped in and got their friends to stop doing drugs, but because there's an even greater volume of friends who stepped in to stop their friends from doing drugs... and they're no longer friends. i just don't want to become part of the latter group.
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