[myx3ftts]

recently, these two girls have been picking on my little sister.. and it has been upsetting her,, which really upsets me.

my little sister is currently in middle school.. and she has NEVER had problems with other kids picking on her before...

These girls only bother her during the 5 minutes before and after school. and this is because during this time, my sister is by herself because none of her friends that she hangs out with are there. the girls don't pick on her with words, but if my sister is just sitting by herself, they'll lightly flick her head or tap her head or shake her chair. i guess you can consider it mild bullying.

she'll tell them to stop but they'll just laugh and keep on doing it.

my sister doesn't have any problems during school, she has a lot of friends. the only reason the girls bother her before and after school is because my sister is by herself during those times. and bullies always target those who are by themselves.

i've already talked to the girls that are bothering my sister and told them that i would like them to stop. i wasn't mean to them because i thought it would be best to be as nice as possible in the beginning to get them to listen to me.

the girls were actually my sister's friends at one point. but they stopped being friends after a while.

i don't know what's gonna happen from now on with the girls and my sister. what i'm worried about is that the girls will gang up on my sister even more just because of the fact that she told me about them and i talked to them about it.

i also unintentionally got one of the mom's involved. she's gonna specifically request that the two girls aren't allowed to hang out together because she doesn't want them to be friends.

i'm afraid that all these things together is gonna cause the main girl who is bothering my sister to bully her even more. i;m afraid that she's gonna turn all of my sister's friends against her or she's gonna talk bad about her to get other people to dislike and bully her. i'm afraid she's gonna spread all kinds of rumors about her and make school awful for her.

none of this has happened yet, but i've seen so many videos on bullying that i'm afraid the worst is gonna happen.

sorry about the long post, but can anyone give me advice on how to help my sister?

i've considered talking to the girls' parents and the administrators at school, but i feel like that will make her even more of a target for more bullying.

if the girls don't listen to me and keep bothering my sister, what can she do to get them to stop?

help is greatly appreciated, i'm really concerned for my sister so any advice is welcome!

[I_play_with_dolls]

Honestly, if it gets physical she should go and tell an adult. I went through bullying in grade six of middle school and it was really hell. Two kids would bully for a whole entire year, it even got physical later on in the year. One day I had enough of them ruining my life so I finally told an adult, the kids were suspended and when I saw them coming back to the classroom after being punished by the principal, they were both crying!

They stopped bullying me ever since then and three years later, they're complete losers that barely has anyone to hang with. I haven't been bullied ever since, I really do think notifying a teacher is what she should do.

[myx3ftts]

Honestly, if it gets physical she should go and tell an adult. I went through bullying in grade six of middle school and it was really hell. Two kids would bully for a whole entire year, it even got physical later on in the year. One day I had enough of them ruining my life so I finally told an adult, the kids were suspended and when I saw them coming back to the classroom after being punished by the principal, they were both crying!

They stopped bullying me ever since then and three years later, they're complete losers that barely has anyone to hang with. I haven't been bullied ever since, I really do think notifying a teacher is what she should do.

i really want to tell the school about my sister's situation, but i've had experience with this school's administration and they're pretty much useless.

i want this to be resolved in the least complicated way possible, because i feel that telling the school about a problem that they won't even be able to solve is going to be more stress for my sister and myself.

i'm just hoping the girls will listen to me and stop. today they were bothering my sister but when they saw her tear a little they stopped. so its not like they dont have ANY sense of sympathy. although the amount that they do have hardly amounts to anything.

but if it gets more severe than this i will definitely notify the school. i'm just hoping they've become more competent since i left the school... -___-

[brownman90561495]

i really want to tell the school about my sister's situation, but i've had experience with this school's administration and they're pretty much useless.

i want this to be resolved in the least complicated way possible, because i feel that telling the school about a problem that they won't even be able to solve is going to be more stress for my sister and myself.

i'm just hoping the girls will listen to me and stop. today they were bothering my sister but when they saw her tear a little they stopped. so its not like they dont have ANY sense of sympathy. although the amount that they do have hardly amounts to anything.

but if it gets more severe than this i will definitely notify the school. i'm just hoping they've become more competent since i left the school... -___-

i totally understand you on wanting a resolution IN THE LEAST COMPLICATED WAY POSSIBLE. involving other people just prolongs the agony at times.

if your sister and the girls used to be friends, definitely something must have happened between them, and the conflicts have been unresolved.

if you think it's appropriate, why don't you talk to the girls again and ask them nicely why they started picking on your sister, and maybe you, with the girls, can resolve this. since you were nice to them the first time you talked to them, there's maybe a chance of telling you some truth behind this. i hope this would really work because i don't like to tell you to go to the school admin, as this is not yet really serious for the school to take some prioritized responsibility.

[taebins_luver]

if you feel that the school isn't sufficant enough to get the problem situated,
then you address it with the superintendant that if 'anything' happens, the school will be at fault
and it could possibly turn into a lawsuit case, even though i doubt you'll sue the school,
but it's always a threat that the school takes seriously.
*BTW, is this a school in the US? or somewhere else?*
this situation only works in the state, because schools are liable for someone getting beat up
*if proper steps were taken to inform the school about her being bullied before hand*
the school staff are meant to protect and aide the students in need of help,
and it is school staff that has to be the ones that do the protecting and aiding.

*check the laws in your state to see if this is applicable*

remember, address it with the school first, see what they can do,
and if the situation get worse, you address the superintendant.

my neice went through the same thing, only the girls bullying and cyber-bullying her was her own cousin.

[Katee-Nguyen]

heh, honestly. the fact that you talked to them in a calm and nice way was pretty wise.
I myself am to unpatient to impulsive and to violent (i guess)... i would've just gone up to their face!
and given them a freaking lesson!

No one bullies my friends, family or relatives and gets over with it!
- I don't reccomend you to do it though
my brothers friends (used to be friends) ended up being afraid of me haha

[heheimawesome]

in all honesty you know what i would do?
okay so im not the type to yell or do anything mean to girls, because i dont have to heart to. i really cant be mean to girls.

i would go after the closest boys they have.
for example: if she has a brother near your age, i would just threaten him saying "tell your john teshing sister to back off mine, or ull be the one paying. you have one week if my sister says anything about yours after the one week, then your done"

if she doesnt have a brother, but a boyfriend then i'd do that. if no boyfriend or brother then her best guy friend. etc.

yup, im a jerk. but thats the only way i'd know how to help. im not suggesting this for you, im just saying what I would do. keep in mind that im the youngest of my family, and would do this for any of my older siblings because i dont care about age. people of all ages get hurt.

i find this is a better way to go about it than reporting it to the authorities. why?
because kids are immature. myself included. your sister would get the reputation of being a baby who had to get teachers involved. its not a good reputation to have. if you as an older brother or sibling (if you're a girl, get your guy friends to do this for you) and you do this, she'll get the reputation of "has an older sibling willing to protect her, do not mess with." people will be nice, even if its fake. which is better than being mean because your sister wont know its fake and she'll have her group of friends who ARENT fake so no one will be mean to her.

[shl979]

resort to threatening them with violence. two things in mind; you are either weak or strong. scare them mini cooperless and they'll avoid you like swine flu. thats how middle school works.

[choot]

talk to an adult who's there at school.

girls in middle schools are actually really mean and the only way to stop it is if you let someone from school know that these girls are harassing your sister. Also tell your sister to stay at a different place from her usual place, cause its better to be safe than sorry.

[Raito!]

telling their mommy or daddy or even the school won't do ANYTHING, it will just make the matter worst from experience.

its not like kids listen to their parent these days especially bullies, their known to break their own parents rule( like curfews and not doing hw)

your sis need to take some course in martial art and defend herself, that's the only way to stop a bully.

anything else will just make the matter worse and can led to getting jumped after school.

[phoenix rise]

forget about telling authorities they won't do anything

tell your sister to punch them in the nose as hard as she possibly can. i guarantee that they will stop.

[margaretgoesrawr]

fcknn bietches ! you should havee talked with them with attitudee ! so they would be afraidd or soemthnn. if they touch yr sis, tell yr sis to pull the girls hair becus its kinda self defensee you knoww even if those bullies just tapped on her ( they still had contact with yr sis or somthn)

[bonjour tristesse.]

Doesn't matter if she's being hurt emotionally or physically ; Tell an adult. Who gives a crap that you were a snitch. It's the right thing to do and you know it.

[damyoungji]

I think it was a bad choice for you to confront the girls rather than having your sister do it. The reason being that she is the one being bullied and if she is not standing up for herself, the girls will never take her frustration seriously. They are only going to think she's a crybaby or something for getting someone else to tell them off.

But that's the past and there is nothing we can do to change it. If they are still bothering her, tell her to tell them off next time. Let them know that she is annoyed by their immaturity. If they won't stop, talk to a teacher or counselor about it. That will be the best choice because if the girls cross over the line one day, at least one person will know about what has really been going on - just in case the two girls say something along the lines that your younger sister started a fight with them.

[PhunGar]

yea tell an adult im sure they'll sort it out
thank god i never had this problem if someone even stared at my brother the wrong way he would get his group and bash them LOL

[BobaMilkTea]

Oh man, middle school kids are the worst!

[Want2LoveU]

I wasn't bullied before so I wouldn't know how handle the situation. I have seen a lot of people getting bullied, I remembered one time at my school 20 people came and beat the crap out of this one guy. There were other incidents where this one guy is so innocent, and three Asian guys came with sticks and beat the mini cooper out of him. When it comes to bullies guys have it harder trust me, girls rarely get bullied. Your sister needs to take more initiative, like at least take some action. To be honest some times words just provoke it even more, ignoring them won't do much so take some action. Your sister is just too passive, or people will be pushing her around her whole life. I guess this experience is like a lesson in life, she probably hates those girls a lot. Your sister must be a really nice person, you shouldn't let bully change that attitude of her.

�Nobody can hurt me without my permission.�

[Yunho<3]

Seriously,if i was her i would beat the crap out them and tell them to leave me alone.
Immature beeches need to grow up.
Show them you're not scare of them.
Yell at their freaking face and show them they're not the boss of you so keep their dirty hand off.

[SHINEjaejoong]

"Who the f.ck do you think you are to bother my sister?!" If anyone picked on my sister, I would beat them up. Like, literally. OR I would ask my brother to beat them up! I mean, bullies will never stop unless you stop them yourself. They'll just keep on doing it and eventually, it will get worse. If I was you, I would confront with the girls. "Why the hell are you picking on my sister?!" I am a very curious brat so I ask until I get some answers.
Just talk to your sister. Ask her about her relations with the girls and then after you get some information, you beat them up. Or tell an adult. Whatever that suits you. I would choose the first one but that's just me. ^^

[junsujunsu]

If she doesn't stand up for herself, no one can help her. When I was in middle school, people used to pick on me, you have to tell them off. I became the "Cool Asian" in sixth grade, then after that in 7th and 8th grade no one dared bully me nor my friends. Don't even step in, you have to let her do it herself or tell an adult if she can handle because some of those bully's can be a real ass, if you tell school authority they will keep an eye out for her.