[Wh!teR!ce]

Hi all,

I've liked this girl for a while now and cant stop thinking about her. Tonight she told me that I am a really amazing and loyal friend to her. Does this mean I will be stuck in the friends zone?

[SheWantTampons]

I hate to say this but to answer your question, yes, you are. I don't think most girls would want to give up a good friendship for a potential romantic relationship. Being there for someone all the time and making them feel really comfortable sounds good on paper, but in reality this gets you tossed in the friend pile. Doesn't make logical sense, but that's just how women are. So as a future reference, I guess don't be too friendly to girls you potentially might have interest in.

[dragonninja598000]

Awwww. Loyal friend. Sucks. Looks like your in the friend zone. Good luck coping.

[pinkxlilies]

Hmm...it's hard to say without the context of the situation. Maybe she knows you like her and is trying to let you down easy so it won't be awkward? Maybe she specifically used the word "friend" to avoid mixed messages? Maybe she likes you too and is just giving you a compliment? Maybe she's saying you're a loyal (good quality in a bf?) and amazing friend and wants to move to the next level? Who knows?

You know better than we do

[KOGEPANN;)]

Maybe she might want a best friend before a boyfriend,
but just incase you do become friend-zoned drop a little hint at her and see how she reacts.

[Mannosuke]

You're only stuck in it if you give up and accept it.

[Shuga]

^ agreed.

I might fall in love with a guy who I see at first sight. But I won't let myself keep loving him if he can't even be my friend. You know?

[Wh!teR!ce]

Thanks for your responses. I thought it over a little more but am not going to give up. She texted this to me yesterday after she got home. She is a really friendly girl and loves and cares about her friends, so I'm not sure of the context in which she meant this because she didn't physically communicate it to me. I hung out with her this summer and she is visiting my school every week (we go to the same university but she is going abroad until the spring) and we have been hanging out a lot. Her parents like me a lot too.

[peacee]

it really depends. But i think you're in the friend zone. Some girls are willing to date a friend even tho it puts the friendship with the guy on the line. While some girls, dont wanna take the plunge and just leave the frienship strictly platonic.

[aiyan]

If she said that you're a loyal and good friend, it does sound like you're in the friend zone...

You should start putting some hints out there!

[Want2LoveU]

How about you take that chance to confess to her your feelings. You love her but do you really want to stay friends forever? It's like wanting something that's so close, but yet so far. If it was me I would have confessed my feelings to her, than I would have no regrets. Whether she liked me or not I wouldn't have to live in doubt forever, and be her friend for forever. I rather not torture myself knowing she is my friend and being so close to her, and not letting her know my feelings. You got to take the chance, or live in eternal sorrow.

Though after you confess to her you find out she doesn't like you, it's going to be awkward being friends again because she knows you like her. If you don't you live in sorrow and anguish thinking about her, but not being able to tell her your feelings. If you confess you may still be able to keep the friendship, and know if she really likes you or not. Even though she said you are a loyal friend you never know she might like you, even if there is that 40% chance I will take it. I would rather take the chance seriously, in life you have to risks to make life fun. I am a risk taking kind of person, that's what you do life risk risk risk. If you find out she doesn't like you after your confession, it would even more hurtful being her friend. There no point in being friends with someone you like, if you want to torture yourself than me my guess. I can't be friends with someone I love, I wouldn't be able to get over being just a friend, it would only want you to love her more.

[damyoungji]

You have no chance if you don't confess. You might have a chance if you confess, but it really depends on whether she is the type of girl who continues being friends with people when she finds out that they like her when she doesn't feel the same way. Maybe you can give her signals (I don't know how =P), too? But just make sure that if she does know how you feel, don't give her the impression that you were only an amazing friend to her because you like her. If that's the case, then I feel bad for her.

[meimoo*]

it's hard to say
some girls are afraid of being in relationship b.c they wants someone who will love, treat them right and listen to all their problems like a friend mostly but in the case, more than a friend
what i'm saying doesn't make sense though i still hope you understand

[* veenee]

at the moment yes.. friend zone, but girls can develop feelings, just stick around longer, she might start crushing on you!!


when i met my bf he said at first i seemed like a bad girl that would glare at him and whatever, then started to know him, but didn't talk much.. it takes time now i love him and don't think hes some creepy guy hahaha

[brownman90561495]

Hi all,

I've liked this girl for a while now and cant stop thinking about her. Tonight she told me that I am a really amazing and loyal friend to her. Does this mean I will be stuck in the friends zone?

how exactly have you reacted to this?

[funkyliv]

tell her! at least she'll know your feelings!!!!

[duntellmi]

If I'm you, I will subtly hint her, like buying her gifts or anything.

As a female, I can honestly say that I will not talk about these things to a guy unless somehow I got wind that he likes me and I want to reject him.

But as a person, always try. Do not hold back and then regret.

[junkers]

I think the next step is to bring in the wine to her place or yours and develop the sexual feeling.

[neon.zebra.oatmeal]

I don't think anybody can really get stuck in the friend zone, to be honest.
One of my friends has known the guy she likes for 7ish years and while he was in the friend zone at some point, he got out of it. without knowing it? anyway, approach this the right way and you won't be stuck

[commedesgarcons]

now you've learned that always ask someone out if you really like them in the first place
don't stall!!