[rayofdeath]

How important is timing? I keep thinking about all the people I've missed out on probably due to bad timing, and I feel pissed off thinking that if they evolve into a better person in the future, I'll miss it. Also, do you think about what if you met your ex at a later time in life, when perhaps s/he was more mature? But now it's ruined 'cause it already happened. I'm not saying age=maturity....but let's just go with it for this topic.

[mz_imperfect]

Haha, I don't know if timing is everything because some people are just not fit for each other no matter what... But I do agree that if I had met one of my exes in the future and had that time to grow, we would be more mature for each other. But then again, you never know. We might just be two different people who still don't end up with one other.

But I don't know. Timing is just one of those things that we say to make ourselves say "what if" and one of those excuses that we use to hang onto someone at times. If it was meant to be, it was meant to be (sorry, I'm one of THOSE people =P). All those people we missed out on are just building up until we find that perfect one. The one that does come into your life at the perfect time and is compatible.

[Shuga]

At sixteen, I feel that a lot of the guys I know aren't very mature... their values are still rather materialistic, and honestly, I don't even think they themselves think they can stick with a girl for the rest of their lives. And for that, I'm willing to wait. I don't wish I met them later though. I think it's nice being able to watch them grow up. In a few years, I can proudly say to them 'See this man you've become?' and hopefully bring a smile to t heir faces.

I do believe timing is important in these things... for smaller scale things (like giving someone an inspirational message when it just happens to be a day the recipient felt really down) to the really, really large things - like coincidentally, 'fatefully' running into your soul mate out of all the chances in the world in the past, present and future.

Timing is something we can't control. I like to leave that all to God, actually - He's the only one that has control over it.

[Mannosuke]

If timing is such a problem for you, then it's time to take matters into your own hands instead of hoping for things to happen.

When you see a cute guy in class, you have three choices:

1: approach him yourself (ie: making the first move)
2: hope he notices you
3: do nothing

Most girls would go with 2, under the pretense that "they're seeing if he's interested or not"

[Shuga]

^ lol yes, I agree

I've "made the first move" but it's up to him to make "the move", if you know what I mean. Hahaha...

[rayofdeath]

I dunno, I sometimes really admire someone, and I wonder what it would be like if I had a different personality that was compatible to theirs so I could experience being their friend. I think it's partly that I'm not accepting myself as I am, and also that I feel like I'm missing out on an interesting experience.

I don't believe in fate.....and I do approach people. That's not the issue- I wonder if I had met them at a different time, would things be diff, etc.

[Mannosuke]

Then change yourself to suit your own needs. If you're unhappy with yourself, then realize what it is that's unsatisfactory and do something about it.

And hope the next person you meet, you'll come off on a good start.

[donporkuloin]

If I met my ex again, and she was more mature? I'd marry her without hesitation. Timing is very important for everything.

[Want2LoveU]

Timing is important in everything we do in life. The right timing makes the right meaning, there are different meanings with different timing. You make the moments meaningful, it's up to you.

“Life is all about timing... the unreachable becomes reachable, the unavailable become available, the unattainable... attainable. Have the patience, wait it out It's all about timing.”

[bink]

Timing is very important in life, but it is also uncontrollable. What comes your way at what specific time in your life is your fate and you'll have to accept that.

I started liking a guy that I recently started getting to know and he's about finishing up his studies. I've been thinking a lot about what could have been if I'd gotten to know him 1 or 2 years earlier. Sometimes when I think about it, it's quite depressing... but I can accept that it was meant to be like that. Who knows what the future will bring.

[Tea..]

I believe that everything happens for a reason.

I am who I am because of all the experience I have gained and although I may have made mistakes, I don't regret a single thing, because that was my way of learning.

There is a person out there for everybody, and eventually we will be at the right place, at the right time when they walk into our lives.

I appreciate what I have when I have it, and I live by these morals.


Sincerely,
Tea..

[byul.x]

i think timing is important..
ive personally missed out on one guy because of timing
and never got to see wat it would be like to be with him..
so i think timing plays a important role in relationships
but then again.. everything else is important..

[hippiehop]

Timing is definitely important. I'm at this point where I just don't want to be with any guy... and I know some guys who are chasing me, one of them has potential, but I just really don't want to start anything with anyone. I feel bad because I know that I may be missing out on something but honestly, I'd be a fool if I tried. My emotions are way too messed up for that.

[rayofdeath]

Well, don't people always say you should "be yourself?" In other words, what's the line between changing yourself and improving yourself? Also, I think that despite efforts to become something else, I think it's really hard to be something you're not. Also, for example, if there's a guy I like~ should I make changes to myself in ways that I think will make me more attractive to him? o.O That's what I'm confused about- not changes such as going from nondrinking to hardcore drinking, but if you feel like you're not "good enough."

I don't really believe in fate. Surely I would feel a lot better if I believed in fate, because then I'd have no fault in what happened to me, but I think we really do control what happens to us. There are some things out of our control, but for the most part, I think we "reap what we sow" [or however that phrase goes]

[Mannosuke]

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=307870
Just be yourself. Maybe it'll give you some idea?

In other words, what's the line between changing yourself and improving yourself?

Improving yourself is changing yourself. There is no line lol

Also, for example, if there's a guy I like~ should I make changes to myself in ways that I think will make me more attractive to him?

As long as you're changing yourself based on what you think is for the better, not what others told you is better or what HE told you he liked, ie: if you changed yourself just cause you heard he liked whiny girls...well are you really happy with that? If you are, then great, but if you're not, uh.

[oh tangerine x]

If timing is such a problem for you, then it's time to take matters into your own hands instead of hoping for things to happen.

When you see a cute guy in class, you have three choices:

1: approach him yourself (ie: making the first move)
2: hope he notices you
3: do nothing

Most girls would go with 2, under the pretense that "they're seeing if he's interested or not"

i definitely agree!
i think timing is important, but if he's the right one, he'll somehow find his way to you.