[chipmunkey]

okay so here it is .

i can understand attracting guys my age or older but among the lot are younger guys as well . personally, i dont mind dating younger boys but the thing is most guys these days (a very gross generalization . i may be wrong ) arent that open yet to dating older girls, let alone at such a tender age like ours (i'm 15 btw) . i mingle alot with seniors and peers my age so if they go after me, at least i have a valid reason of 'oh maybe its my personality' or something idk but these guys are younger! i really do not know what they see in me .

if i am a drop dead gorgeous girl then yeah, maybe it's acceptable but thing is i am not . to be frank, i'm quite a cold person to most people idk . not stuck up but just...stoney? yeah . kinda like 'O_o? WUT YOU LOOKIN AT' all the time . yes, i can be warm but thats only to people in my social circle, nothing more . i'm definitely not the submissive type because everyone knows i'm the type who wont hesitate to ask someone to eff off my face . i walk around with a stone face so yeah, i CAN be a friendly person but the impression i give out isnt .

lately i've been so tired of guys coming up to me to 'chat' when i KNOW all they want is me to be their girl . idk how to say this but...i'm not the type who wants commitment, you know . i'm 15 and i havent even got my first bf HAHAHAHAH and i dont intend to anytime soon . no strings attatched- i like it more that way . i really really hate it because it feels like they're coming up to me not to know me on a personal level as a friend but to just...skip the whole friendship part and court me straight . this type of insincerity disgusts me . i feel like an object around people like that so i just push them away with blunt 'no, i dont want and wont want to watch a movie with you, sorry' kinda speech .

i dont want to sound conceited but seriously this has been bothering me lately . i ask some of my friends if i should feel flattered because i'm attractive enough for these juniors to go after me or should i feel insulted because i look like an easy target? i really dont know because i dress decently and am never spotted holding hands with a guy . i keep feeling its the latter altho my friends keep telling me 'no you think too much it's not like tht you are pretty thts why they go after you' . frankly, i'm not exactly the type of beauty that stops you in your tracks . i am VERY VERY average . i have several girlfriends who are THAT pretty and yet not many guys go after them . guys, is there a decent explanation to this?

right now i'm just seeking out opinion . i know i might come back to read this 5 years later and regret over this childishness lol . what do you think of my situation? it just intrigues me lol . at first it's cute but after some time, i am so tired of having to change routes in school corridors to avoid fanboy A and fanboy B,C,D,E,F,G wtf .

much love to those who are willing to help out (:

[paulinee]

Um, you're 15? How much younger can the guys be? Obviously you're still basically in the process of growing up...it's just puppy crushes...jeez...I mean, looks might have something to do with it, but don't think about it.

[SailorBoy62]

Maybe it's 'cause you're blunt and real. Haha, seriously, a lot of girls your age are in that stage where they're all about putting on a show about who they are and being all fake to get attention. No offense to teenage girls or anything, but you know, it can be vicious. You seem to be very honest and open about who you are, like you don't bother being fake, and that self-assured confidence can be really attractive, especially when it's in that age range where not a lot of people have yet to become comfortable being themselves.

[rachilde]

I attract a lot of younger men as well and the reasons for why they are attracted to me varies from guy to guy. Most men say that I seem very confident and experienced and they feel like they could learn a lot from me. The guy I'm currently talking to seems to just enjoy dominating women who are older than he is as a matter of competition and pride--of course, I like to rise up to the challenge and our relationship is very competitive and antagonistic, which is of interesting and bizarre. I also think they like me because they think I'm something of a 'rare and undomesticated creature' from my appearance to my intelligence to my attitude toward life in conjunction with my heritage (Chinese). In terms of the male perspective, I could understand how I would appear like a collector's item and I could see I would seem particularly appealing to younger men who are interested in widening their experience.

[miraculous!]

so youre attracting middle schoolers? LOL haha
not to be offensive or say youre not attractive, but maybe they DO just want to talk to you. its possible you might be taking it the wrong way. how are you getting vibes that they want something more, when they are just talking to you? o_o
eh, if it bothers you, i guess you could hint that youre not interested.

[Want2LoveU]

If guys find you pretty, there is nothing with approach you. I just don't see why you are making such a deal with over this, they just want to talk. You may be right their intentions is to court you, but you can always say no. If you are pretty there are bound to be a ton of guys willing to court you. Hey, think about it this way it's better that guys are approaching you to chat, while your friends may not have the same luxury as you do =)

[Mannosuke]

Screenshots or it didn't happen.

EVERY girl with guys flocking to them always say they're not pretty.

i mingle alot with seniors and peers my age so if they go after me, at least i have a valid reason of 'oh maybe its my personality' or something idk but these guys are younger! i really do not know what they see in me .

Lol? They see the same things the older guys see in you? I don't see much difference between a 16 yr old and a 14 yr old: they all go for pretty much the same things.

[XangelXtranX]

Maybe it's 'cause you're blunt and real. Haha, seriously, a lot of girls your age are in that stage where they're all about putting on a show about who they are and being all fake to get attention. No offense to teenage girls or anything, but you know, it can be vicious. You seem to be very honest and open about who you are, like you don't bother being fake, and that self-assured confidence can be really attractive, especially when it's in that age range where not a lot of people have yet to become comfortable being themselves.

LOL. ^ I like that answer.
I'm not trying to be conceit, but I attract younger people too. Mostly in grade 9. I see them like my younger brothers and some of them would confess to me, I would just smile,say thank you and start rubbing their head. LOl..
I like hanging out with younger people cause theyre so chillax etc. when your around people your age or older you have to worry about making impressions or w.e -.- I'm bad at choosing words.

Ps. fanboy A B C D E F G ? ahahah! dang I only have couple ;]

[aiyan]

I think you're taking all of this way too seriously. You're only fifteen and these guys are even YOUNGER? Guys are generally known to be more immature and they're even younger than you- so how can you even take them seriously?

Fanboy A B C ...etc? Really now :|... What's wrong with guys who want to talk to you? If they annoy you just say "sorry I need to do something."

This topic just kind of bothers me. I understand what you have trouble with, just your approach and attitude towards it are incorrect. My advice is to just go on with your life and don't think about it. As someone else said before, it's just "puppy love," the kind of love that happens between young children who don't even know what it means to really be in love.

[des monstres]

in all seriousness:
do you have big knockers.



rofl.

[meowmeow723]

Omg.. i had to laugh at this... lmao
Girly doll, ur only 15 as u said... guys younger than u r like what? 0-14??? lol

[Crazy LuLu]

15? don't be bothered by those younger dudes. luckily you can just blow them off -- do it nicely. be bothered if older dudes start coming up to you. i know young girls LOVE it when older, seemingly mature fellows take interest in them, but be forewarned -- they know you're young. anyways, these younger ones are only momentarily crushing on you, and possibly the girl next to you, or the one over there, or that one right there, so don't think about it too much.

[edit] the guys are only 14? one year younger than you? gosh. i hope people stop replying to your thread. you're lovin' this attention. i bet it feels cool. i feel 10,000 years older than you. and it feels awesome.

[chipmunkey]

so youre attracting middle schoolers? LOL haha
not to be offensive or say youre not attractive, but maybe they DO just want to talk to you. its possible you might be taking it the wrong way. how are you getting vibes that they want something more, when they are just talking to you? o_o
eh, if it bothers you, i guess you could hint that youre not interested.

HAHAHA OKAY good point there so lemme quote some examples . (:

'would you go on a date with someone like me?'
'huh? yeah sure.' ( i thought if i said no to 'someone like me' it would sound offensive...as tho they are retarded or something HAHAHAH .
'so we're together now?'

'NO! WHY WHAT?!'

okay that's a boy my age ahhahah!

okay there's more . there was this younger boy who offended me with his words . i was just too tired to reply his messages one day cuz i just had a lot to do and he was being such a small kid telling me to drink more water etcetc WTF and so i just got pissed and didnt reply to his msg for the day . he spammed my phone ' so yeah it made me even more annoyed . when i talked to him later he said something tht really offended me 'now i know what kinda girl you are' plus some other things and i was like FINE then let's not talk . the next day he was leaving for vacation and thinking that it would make me reply him, he asked me 'so what would you want from Xcountry?'

it really made me feel #$$^$%^&$%W@# . i know many girls will go for gifts but still, i feel slightly offended to that . if i made up my mind on not replying you, i wont . he thinks he can compell me into replying but using a gift as a bait . and so from then on i just ignored him (he's real rude for a junior) and he came BEGGING me to talk to him again, spamming my phone (AGAIN!) with sorrysorrysorry msges, ask my friend if i am still angry, peek at me outside my class and get angry at all the boys i talk to . ' SO childish i tell you . oh and actually before we argued, he did ask me 'so i wanna tell you something but i'm scared you'll be scared' . i KNEW where the convo was heading so i promptly changed the topic .

another boy who added me like...two days ago on msn . i didnt even know him and he kept asking me if i would go for a movie with him, to which i replied , 'sorry no . ' and he asked why and i told him i didnt even know him . he asked if i would go with him after the exams and i replied 'no thanks . i dont know your friends.' he asked my friend to ask me if i'm liking any guy while at the same time wanting to conceal his identity but..i found out hahaha (HUGE hint, dont you think? if it's just a normal convo he couldve asked me himself) . oh and he asked me AGAIN today if i would go for a movie with him next week and again i said no! AND HE ASKED ANOTHER TIME IF I WOULD GO WITH HIM AFTER THE EXAMS OH GOD SAVE ME . :/

and another junior (lets call him junior b hahaha later mixed up) kept hitting on me it was so obvious . he kept hinting to me he didnt mind older girls and my age is just perfect for him . he asked me if i would date him . he shouted across the corridor 'you're HOT!' which made me....shrink into a small ball of embarassment wtf . and there was once when i put my msn pm as <3TIM and he went like 'SO WHO'S TIM? YOUR BOYFRIEND? FINE SO NOW YOU CHOOSE HIM OVER ME?' and he was dead serious . he got SO embarassed when i asked him to go ahead and search hwang young min on google -_____-'

there's more but this is getting lengthy so yeah, i just quoted the recent ones . (:

[Mannosuke]

You definitely sound happy that you're so popular.

[chipmunkey]

Um, you're 15? How much younger can the guys be? Obviously you're still basically in the process of growing up...it's just puppy crushes...jeez...I mean, looks might have something to do with it, but don't think about it.

mostly 14 (:

Maybe it's 'cause you're blunt and real. Haha, seriously, a lot of girls your age are in that stage where they're all about putting on a show about who they are and being all fake to get attention. No offense to teenage girls or anything, but you know, it can be vicious. You seem to be very honest and open about who you are, like you don't bother being fake, and that self-assured confidence can be really attractive, especially when it's in that age range where not a lot of people have yet to become comfortable being themselves.

hmm the confidence? maybe . but one thing is that erm....this year's grade 8 are kinda er...childish . it's not to say that i am not but their childishness is just off the roof lol . the talk like tH!s, piggyback each other and thinks its cool to defame the school through their blog HAHAHA and got themselves expelled . yeap, that kinda thing . whereas my batch...i really dont recall ourselves behaving that way even in grade 6 . it's not to say we're way more matured than others...we're just...less playful . we know whats right and wrong . (:

I attract a lot of younger men as well and the reasons for why they are attracted to me varies from guy to guy. Most men say that I seem very confident and experienced and they feel like they could learn a lot from me. The guy I'm currently talking to seems to just enjoy dominating women who are older than he is as a matter of competition and pride--of course, I like to rise up to the challenge and our relationship is very competitive and antagonistic, which is of interesting and bizarre. I also think they like me because they think I'm something of a 'rare and undomesticated creature' from my appearance to my intelligence to my attitude toward life in conjunction with my heritage (Chinese). In terms of the male perspective, I could understand how I would appear like a collector's item and I could see I would seem particularly appealing to younger men who are interested in widening their experience.

from the way you talk, i'm assuming that you're perhaps, in your twenties?

i can totally understand the whole confidentwomenaresexy appeal . you dont fit into the stereotype of having the male dominating the relationship and it can be quite a breath of fresh air to the men who has yet to meet a passive woman like you . theres just two types of guys i guess- the type who wants their girl to just be pretty and nod their heads and the type who wants their girl to speak their mind . if i am guy, i'll definitely choose the latter .

If guys find you pretty, there is nothing with approach you. I just don't see why you are making such a deal with over this, they just want to talk. You may be right their intentions is to court you, but you can always say no. If you are pretty there are bound to be a ton of guys willing to court you. Hey, think about it this way it's better that guys are approaching you to chat, while your friends may not have the same luxury as you do =)

the deal here= paranoia .

in the past i've had guys coming up to me with very obvious ,ahem, intentions . maybe its because i'm young idk but i would like to think that i am not stupid . even when i was in grade 6 (GRADE 6! 12 YEARS OLD!) there was a senior going after me .

its not the matter of how many fanboys i have- it's how many of them are sincere . honestly, i've seen enough people tho judge who is a good conversationalist and who isnt . who is sincere and who isnt . who has ulterior motives and who doesnt . i've learned so much in the past two years that now i'm just really...straight to the point: if we aint gonna be friends, theres no point we talk . it's just wasting both their time and mine cuz i know very well i cannot give them what they want .

sometimes i just feel like an object these boys wants to possess and flaunt to the world their 'difficult' girlfriend . whatever happened to knowing and understanding me as a person?

Screenshots or it didn't happen.

EVERY girl with guys flocking to them always say they're not pretty.



Lol? They see the same things the older guys see in you? I don't see much difference between a 16 yr old and a 14 yr old: they all go for pretty much the same things.

lol erm what i meant is that my circle of friends consists of seniors and people my age, rarely any juniors . idk why but i've been mingling with seniors since i was little cuz ...theres just more to talk i guess? them and their maturity can sometimes understand things my peers cant .

altho it may be a gap of two years, i personally feel that theres a HUGE difference when it comes to the mindset of a 14 year old as compared to a 16 year old . the older one is usually the wiser one who takes friendship more seriously .

LOL. ^ I like that answer.
I'm not trying to be conceit, but I attract younger people too. Mostly in grade 9. I see them like my younger brothers and some of them would confess to me, I would just smile,say thank you and start rubbing their head. LOl..
I like hanging out with younger people cause theyre so chillax etc. when your around people your age or older you have to worry about making impressions or w.e -.- I'm bad at choosing words.

Ps. fanboy A B C D E F G ? ahahah! dang I only have couple ;]

lol your approach is real cute! but somehow it just...doesnt apply to me . these boys are not the 'ahhh noona you're so cute will you marry meee? ' type . they're AGGRESIVE and STUBBORN and are pro stalkers why else would i need to change routes when i see them? LOL .

oh but when i'm around older people i dont feel awkward at all . blend right in!

I think you're taking all of this way too seriously. You're only fifteen and these guys are even YOUNGER? Guys are generally known to be more immature and they're even younger than you- so how can you even take them seriously?

Fanboy A B C ...etc? Really now :|... What's wrong with guys who want to talk to you? If they annoy you just say "sorry I need to do something."

This topic just kind of bothers me. I understand what you have trouble with, just your approach and attitude towards it are incorrect. My advice is to just go on with your life and don't think about it. As someone else said before, it's just "puppy love," the kind of love that happens between young children who don't even know what it means to really be in love.

lol yeah i can kinda get your point as well (; .

the dont want to talk to me . they want to buy me over with gift, something which i feel deeply insulted over . it makes me think along the lines of 'oh so i look like the type of girl who'll date you just because your FATHER is rich?'

oh just for the record, i go to a private school where most kids are rich and knows no shyt about life . i am not well off tho' . my parents have to save up to send me to a place like that so maybe that explains my attitude towards brats who only know how to go to school and waste their education fees by stalking me outside my class .

in all seriousness:
do you have big knockers.



rofl.

LOL .

AHHAHAH NO . NO NO NO IT'S AS SMALL AS GRAPESEED, BABY . ;D

okayyyy maybe not as small as grapeseeds but...you get my point!

Omg.. i had to laugh at this... lmao
Girly doll, ur only 15 as u said... guys younger than u r like what? 0-14??? lol

HAHAHAH I LIKE THE WAY U PUT IT LOL 0-14 WTF .

ahha nah, it's just 14 . (: there are some grade1-4 kids who tells their friend they love me but HAHAHA THOSE ARE JUST PURE CUTENESS! i end up hugging them cuz they're just so...innocent and cute ;D THIS type of playfulness, i dont mind .

not the full fledge stalkerish one i am going through . :/

[Keilynn]

Boobs. :x

My little sis has B-Cups with 14 and all the others got smaller ones.
All the guys in her school around or younger her age find her attractive/good looking.
You know they're just... immature yet. XD

[Want2LoveU]

Maybe if you stop acting like a sl ut, than they wouldn't be attracted to you =)

[bonjour tristesse.]

I'm fifteen and I attract younger guys ; I think it's normal though, I mean their guys and you're a growing girl. It's all part of .. adolescence. aha.

[c i e l`]

just enjoy it? haha, well I kinda think that younger guys tend
to be attracted by pretty much anyone who is cool and good looking.
you seem to be a charming girl to me, and like someone
below said, I think you must be someone who stands out
because of the way you are and the way you look-- you know...
the aura kind of thing.

don't think too much about it, there's better thing to do ^^
feels like you're wasting your time, go on with your own life ~

(at least you don't attract too much 10-13 years old...most of them are freakin' noisy haha)

[Seoshi.love.]

I have exactly the same problem. I'm 18 but I attract younger boys aged 16-17 more than older guys.... =( however, all the guys that I like are older than me.